"The Dangers Of Labeling Others"! Do You Live By The Same Standards You Use To Label/Judge Others?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Don't label others the way you don't want to be labeled!!!

There is so many people judging others like it is there right to do so.

So this is to address why we shouldn't label/ judge others. Anyways, but especially to those who don't live up to the same standards they put on others.

I start with two inserts from BAHAI TEACHINGS.ORG(very good read)

Judge not lest ye be judged

Look at your own failings before you point out others!!

We are so quick to try to label/ judge others. Try to point out what we may see or think are flaws in others. Is it because it's easier to judge others for their flaws, question their beliefs instead of first looking/ recognizing/ admitting/ fixing our own?

Don't isolate people with false judgment

What makes people think they have a right to judge someone else? You have a right to your beliefs, whether they be religious or not. But your religion or beliefs does not give you free reign to judge others for theirs.

We all have the right to our own beliefs. Don't take away/ trample on others or their beliefs just because they differ from yours!

Save the judgement for yourself

Contradict much??

The biggest problem I have is with the contradictions people use/ have when judging others. How can you judge/ label someone for the same things you yourself do?

Practice what you preach

There are men and women shaming/ judging others for the same shit they are themselves doing but trying to excuse their actions/ behavior as a gender right. No, hold yourself to the same standard you expect of others regardless of gender!

Don't lash out at others to make yourself feel or look like the better person

If you are going to try to shame or call out someone else, be damn sure it's things you yourself are not guilty of.

But again, you do not have the right to judge. But to judge people you don't even know is stupid and pointless. There is other ways to make yourself feel/ look better. Don't do so at the expense of someone else

Open your mind as well as well as your heart

Instead of trying to hate on people for their differences, accept/ love/ appreciate people for their own uniqueness. We are different at the core: of who we are/ how we behave.

Love and appreciate and respect the different person we all are and have a right to be.

Once again, thank you for reading, and always stay true and love you regardless of those who try to hate.

"brainsbeforebeauty"😘

[CubsterShura]

Thank you for this!!

The craziest lable that I ever got from someone was a White Supremacist... I'm a Brown, female, Muslim from Bangladesh and I hardly ever had any real interaction with a White person in my whole life. Someone please tell me how I am a White Supremacist.

And it was simply because I didn't agree with how many Liberals call people various names yet get triggered themselves when they are called names themselves.

Oh and while we're here here's a riddle: what knowledge makes you ignorant?
Answer: religious knowledge. You could be a scholar in Christianity or Islam and hence speak from your knowledge, and some secular person will tell you how IGNORANT you are because God can't be the way they want God to be.

We're surrounded by clowns. Might as well enjoy the circus while we're at it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I hear you. If I disagree with a man im a feminist or feminazi a what? Didn't even hear this term til gag. But there is also awesome guys and gals on here

[CubsterShura]

Thanks for MHO ❤️

[Clayaya]

I don’t label others. I don’t feel like we’re the sum of our actions.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Very astute answer!

[TCredo]

Another wonderful post here Toots :)

Labeling is wrong and often boomerangs on people doing the labeling as there are often assumptions made...

I don't label - but will make mental notes of attributes about someone that develops over time and gets formed by behavior more so than just words as actions speak volumes - especially over time.

Labels, while seemingly convenient and quick, are often based on one act or post or whatnot - while first impressions matter (and people need to realize that), it's not fair to anyone if it becomes cemented.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

And very good answer as always. Starting to like the name toots.
Maybe I should get it legally changed to toots😁

[TCredo]

lol... it's funny how context and tone matter - when you were first called Toots here (by that really "nice" guy... lol) it had a mean, disrespectful tone.

My tone - of course - is the opposite - and you have taken a liking to it... such a small little change results in a completely different result :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's what I've been trying to get across to people. But I guess you either really get it or really don't. You get it. I get it.

[TCredo]

lol :)

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

😂😂😂😂

[TCredo]

Thanks for the MHO, Toots :)

[1honestguy]

Judging others doesn't define who they are,, but rather it speaks volume and defines what kind of person doing the judging actually is.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Exactly!! Thank you sir❣

[LightEnd]

This was a decent article, and I agree that one should not ASSume (see I can do that too). That they are better than anyone else and understand that pobody is nerfect.

However, this is the way human beings classify reality and compartmentalize what is true and false in their own mind.

This is essentially how a baby grows into an adult. With a slow but steady classification of people, objects and behaviors.

What a person is taught, coupled with their experiences helps to build these complex classifications of people, places, things and situations.

What a lot of people tend to do is to overlook their own actions and behaviors and realize that they are just as guilty as the next person.

Do you hate liars? Do you lie?
Do you hate cheaters? Do you cheat? Do you despise wealthy people but wish to be wealthy yourself?

The real issue is yourself, and correcting the things about yourself that you find undesirable, rather than trying to change the world and everyone else. The only thing that a person has control over is their own selves and their own actions.

With all that being said, people have the fundamental right to call a spade a spade. Shall we by the same token, stop classifying people who commit crime, criminals? Is that being judgmental?

Maybe a person would have a much better life if they focus on making themselves a better person, rather than trying to make everyone else a better person in their own eyes.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well said. Agree with some but not all. Yes I judge cheaters, but I never cheat. But if I had, I wouldn't excuse it as gender right, or place the blame on my partner, cuz if I was unhappy, there were other options.. same with criminal, I've made bad choices, but never criminal ones... I wouldn't call someone a slut for having 3 sexual partners if I had more than that.. I could go on, but I think you get my point...

[LightEnd]

So dont you think that a person has the right to judge other people according to their own values, just as you do, as your reply so openly admits.

By what bases are we allowed or disallowed to judge others?

Shall we all judge others according to your own ideals, and what you think is right or wrong. Or do you think people have the right to form their own values and judgments as they see fit, even if it does not align with your own?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

How tho do you judge a stranger you know nothing about? But I got a check my dinner, even us sluts cook😂

[LightEnd]

Also I can see that your still squirming over being accused of slutdom.

You know that you are not a slut. So why do you stress so much about some random persons comment.

You see that person's values and judgments are his own and it is his fundamental right to form them as he sees fit.

To him you are a slut. To me you are not. But who cares because what really matter is

Are you happy with yourself or do you place too much emphasis on what others think of you rather than what you think of yourself.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I'm being funny, sarcastic. And if you knew me, you'd know that... there's been many slut jokes that stemmed from that lol by those who fo know me.. and that's my point... people presume to know or label of judge, by what? A few messages, a couple questions, or answers... isn't that a little presumptuous at the least

[LightEnd]

Sure it is presumptuous. But for whatever reason that person formed a judgment of you.

This was formed based on what he has been taught. What he has experienced, and what he values.

It's his fundamental right to think if you however he wants and it's your fundamental right to say 🖕.

[LightEnd]

Let's say that I decided to become a porn actor. I think there are a lot of women who would form judgments of me based on what they value and there would be some women who wouldn't care, and possibly would like it. Probably very few women but nonetheless. All the women would form judgments about me based on their own values. But in the end, what matters is what I think of myself and whether I'm happy with myself or not.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

There we disagree. Since when did it become someone else's right to slander someone else? Jesus im sick of people justifying bullshit. Again, nice talking to you... have a good day, sir

[Insightfull]

Yes. To do otherwise is hypocritical. Actually, I live by higher standards than I judge others by. I hold myself to really high standards and have had to learn to accept a standard of good enough in others that is fair. I don't believe I'm superior, better than everyone, etc; however, I am a good person, and am always improving myself. I find myself annoyed with people who accept themselves when they act like shit without remorse nor intent to improve.

I try to not label. I think the problem with labeling is that people don't fit into boxes. When you label someone, you assign a lot of things to them that are a part of the label that may or may not be true.

I agree with you that: "There are men and women shaming/ judging others for the same shit they are themselves doing but trying to excuse their actions/ behavior as a gender right. No, hold yourself to the same standard you expect of others regardless of gender!" I have learned to not let it get to me

I strongly reject: "Our worst qualities are often not far from those we claim to despise in others" since I don't possess the qualities I despise in others. This quote describes textbook projection. This word can be used in a few contexts, though the original meaning involves guilt. Someone who is guilty of something will project their guilt onto others and attack them because they can't handle their guilty conscience. It would be sad, but I have no sympathy for this. I think they should learn to deal with their guilt and resolve it like a normal person: remorse, amends, and a change in behavior.

You're right that who we are and how we behave is our core.
How we treat others is the core of morality and ethics.
We are all unique and we should appreciate and love people for who they are.
You always have such great posts. Thanks for sharing, you brainy beauty! 😘

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thank you ♥️ and beautiful reply ♥️

[ShyBoy05]

I have that problem right now! ):

I have this girl (my crush) who I have an amazing relationship with. We tell each other everything. We're really open and honest. And I really love that about us.

But, she knows a guy who is friends with people who went with me to the same highschool and they started fake rumors about me back then. They didn't even knew me.

And I don't know if I should tell her.
I mean, let her know about the bad things from highschool,
from my past before she, somehow, or by someone found out first?

It could be a guy who wants to date her and starts telling her stuff that never happened so she stops talking to me, it could be a girl I never dated and now she wants revenge.
It could be a lot of different things, but I don't want to ruin my relationship.
I don't want to look insecure, or weak, or kill attraction. I just want to let her know
so, when and if the time comes, she doesn't get surprised about stuff that never happened.

I already lost a girl for that kind of stuff once. She believed the rumors instead of me.
I don't want to lose this girl. I really don't. She means the world to me.

Thanks for your time and for reading.

[Mad_man_x]

We are human beings bring each other down and ruining our competition's lives is what we do

I laugh every time when I see people comments in YouTube videos about serial killers , thieves and people who did something wrong in a social experiment

They think that their so much better that these people , those keyboard warriors boast about how they talk shit about these people and how they themselves would do the right thing

I now deep down that when these same people are put in the same situation, they would react or do the same thing as the people who did wrong things in the videos

Calling criminals monsters or demons is such an overstatement , criminals are very much human beings , yes criminals should be shamed to a certain point but those people who go to extreme levels are just like them

We have to admit that human beings can be just as ruthless and evil as we can also be kind and compassionate.

I don't we can stop people from judging others , everyone wants to be a king and queen

And the only way to see yourself as a king , is to see others bend down on their knees with their heads down

[JackSmy]

I have ALWAYS HATED labels! How is anyone not just a person, choosing what they like and feel, as them? Who am I to say they should be SEGREGATED with the Label?
That is what it is, really, dividing, and SEGREGATION, with the labels!
I know a lot of people that say they are 'gay' and 'trans' or 'In Transition' but they are still my friends!!
I had a recent surgery, for cancer, but nobody ever 'labeled' me, in anyway!! How is that different than those friends, in between, maybe unsure, or afraid, just questioning their idea of 'gender'?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thank you for your great response.
I agree with you. Gay is a sexual orientation and shouldn't be a label.
Thank you for reading. Hope your surgery was a success❤

[Gamillions]

All my life I have done this and I'm guilty of it a long time. Now in my senior years I am paying for my sin. I was a very good scuba instructor and had great potential to make lifetime friends. But I blew it criticing others and now it's too late. Don't make the same mistake doing what I did. Keep your opinions about other people or you will wind up like me. Friendless... lonely... failing health. I predict no one will even come to my funeral. I accept full responsibility for my actions and don't deserve any pity at all. Take it from someone who had the chance... but blew it.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I hope people listen to your words but doubt they will. By trying to show people why shouldn't be so quick to judge others, people just said I was judging those who judge 🤷🏼‍♀️ yeah ok no I was trying to say judge yourself before you think you have a right to be judge and jury for someone else

[Timelesswisdom]

Sometimes labels are true, but one should always measure themselves by their own standards.

by the way, bahai is a tainted faith, it is an important distinction so I point it out. Even if every belief may have some true components, falsehood is poisonous. The Only True Path without falsehood Is That of YESHUA.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thank you and
Idon't practice that faith, but the were a lot of truths in what I read and posted.

[FakeName123]

Labeling is a form of generalisation and thus a way of categorising the world in order to simplify it. You simply can NOT - and do NOT have the brain capacities - account for every single individual.

The problem isn't with generalisation, but with people being unwilling to change that based on new information they receive about a person.

[Joshyjay95]

I don't really judge others. I also work in a field were I cannot judge people because I am suppose to help them.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I'm glad to hear it!!!

[myanders]

Usually more than likely the person judging someone is the same of what there judging another of they just can't stand looking at who they are and have to take it out on someone else sad disgusting and pathetic.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I agree.

[Jjpayne]

It's so hard not to label. It's such a bad habit. It's a good practice to use "I feel" but I does not always come out that way. I feel like gag can be a breeding ground for this type of labeling behavior

[AJC997]

I like this post, I think this is beneficial and positive and I think a lot of people myself included could learn from some of the things you wrote here. Keep up the good work. Also you have a good username.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thank you❣

[Avicenna]

Good points. We all judge one way or another though.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sometimes with out having all the facts tho... and sometimes more harshly than is warranted🤷‍♀️

[broken_heart_at_48]

I agree we all judge other but not everybody attacks other there's ways of getting your opinion out the without having to attack people I mean look at your statement you didn't attack anyone you just stated your opinion without being hateful and really if you want to get your point across they way you did it is better received and I'm sure if someone doesn't agree with you you're not going to attack you can agree to disagree. Me I can agree to disagree but when someone attacks me or a friend or family I attack it's something I wish I could change but I'm 48 years old and have had to fight for everything and it's a reaction that come from deep within and the stupid thing is I regret it everytime

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@broken_heart_at_48
At least you acknowledge. So many others act like they have no faults. We all do. That's what makes us human. Just don't point out others and act like you have noone. Don't mean "you" the you is general sense. And don't be ashamed of being a pappa bear protecting yours. I'm the same. I can be sweet, but you fuck with mine, oh you gonna see mama bear come out and she ain't gonna be pretty

[Kurαȷ]

Everyone judges everyone, it's a vital survival mechanism.
Those who claim they don't are full of shit and go straight into my list of disingenuous people.

I would rather be judged in my face than deal with liars who preach universal kindness and acceptance.

[newblinds]

The first problem is, you are judging others who judge others, and you say that it's stupid and pointless of them to do so, which is also a judgement.

As far as looking inward into your own flaws, that sounds alright, but it's fine for me to voice my opinion about another person's flaws. I wouldn't change myself indefinitely if someone else is in the wrong, and I suppose wrong is subjective sometimes so people will have conflict.

And you say we should practice what we preach and accept other people instead of judging them, but you're judging people who judge people so you aren't practicing what you say we should do.

I think it's fine to judge others even if I'm hypocritical, for example: if I steal things I can still say that it's bad to steal, and I can still tell others about the bad aspects of stealing and my opinion wouldn't be invalidated just because I'm a thief - it could have its own unique value since I have first hand experience.

[newblinds]

I would appreciate it if I could get help understanding the downthumb

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So, because criminals break the law, does it make it right? You say im judging people who judge. Did I say it made them bad people? But there is people here on this site as well as Irl judging people wrongly and harshly. A woman disagrees with a man she's labeled a feminist or feminazi. A man agrees with a woman, he's labeled a white knight.
If your daughter was falsely labeled a slut or worse by someone, is that what you'd tell her? That it's their right to judge you. We need fo judge ourselves not others. Anything I wrote in this post did not insult or put anyone down. But other people's judgments are hurting others. When you falsely judge someone, that is also wrong.

[newblinds]

I don't think I said it made them right to break the law, I said anyone can judge something to be wrong even if they're doing it themselves, and I used a thief as an example.

You said it was pointless and stupid of people to judge, and the post is judging the people who judge other people as wrong.

If someone is judged as a feminazi or white knight then I suppose I could say the same thing, that they didn't say it made them a bad person either.

If someone called a daughter a slut then I don't think I would inform her that they're allowed to judge her since I would likely be on her side, but that wouldn't change my opinion that people are allowed to have some freedom to say what they think about other people.

Your post did insult and put down the people who are judging others, the post isn't accepting them like how you say we should accept everyone, it would include the people who judge if it accepted everyone.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Agree to disagree thanks for reading

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

But the criminal point was just because people commit crimes, don't make it right, just add Judy because people judge, don't make it right.

[newblinds]

Ok, I don't find it to be a disagreement since I feel like I did point out aspects that I don't believe are subjective.

I don't understand the part about the people who commit crimes: just because they commit crimes doesn't make it right. I don't think I was saying criminals were right and I don't understand what it had to do with the topic.

Or who Judy is as well.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

My phone always autocorrect just to Judy I don't know why lol the point is just because people do something, doesn't make it right.
Some men keep saying they get falsely labeled as this or that. So the answer is to turn around and falsely label women? That's the answer?
Two wrongs don't make a right!
But funny, I've never heard a woman call a man an Incel. Never even heard the term til GaG. People aren't just judging people by themselves. They are judging by gender. You going to tell methat's right? If your're white, that and your age puts you in the statistical group of child molesters. So just because most child molesters are white males between the ages of... does that mean I should say our think all white men those ages are molesters. Of course not, that would be absurd and grossly unfair. Again, on this site, I have been called a feminazi, a feminist, a slut none of which I am.
I don't do that to people that I don't know, nor should other people be doing that to me or any other female.
I have disagreed with you, have I called you an Incel or any other name? Have I been rude or disrespectful? No I have not. Not my style. I don't have to choose tactics to get my point across, or because I disagree with someone.
Do you know there's a user on hee in the hospital pregnant with triplets.
And it's very high risk,. Yet yesterday another user attacked her post telling her she was crazy and shouldn't be a mother. Her husband got so upset, they had to give him a shot. But that user had the right to judge and say hateful things?
You don't know people's situation or how your words may affect someone, that's why you think before you speak That sir is the message I was trying to get across

[Mroz75]

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[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Good point!

[HeyMikie]

I hate labels. Labels exist for the sole purpose of separating us from each other and keeping us fighting among ourselves.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Well said❣

[RolandCuthbert]

Nah, that is not why labels exist. A label a person uses for themselves tells you something. If you wish to ignore that, that is on you. Group identity defines humanity.

Look it up. It is basic social science.

[genericname85]

yes i do. labels are not like a sticky note that you slap on people and they stay there forever. they are negotiated and can neither be one sidedly rejected nor one-sidedly given and all that isn't independend of objective facts.

for example if someone told me i was fat, i could say "no i'm not fat" but well if i weighed 200 kilos, i would probably lose the negotiation about that and have to accept that label.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Labels shmables. I can label myself anything I want. It's not like their labels to me matter.

[Gamillions]

Your acting like the very thing that destroyed my life. Either change or wind up like me.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I'm not changing for anyone but myself. For me it's just a label. I ignore, they hate. It's not my fault if it's a really big deal for you.

[Gamillions]

kay sarah sarah... whatever wil be will be.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And who are talking to?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not every question and mytake is personal. You get that right? I don't personally care. But in a sense of the way I see society becoming is I do care. For the future generations.

[Gamillions]

google kay sarah sarah. see what older folks loved to hear whippersnapper.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

So much better than grandad

[DvntboiNz]

Dont judge a book by its cover... you dont know whats inside until you look

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Exactly. Thank you