The fatality of long distance relationships (5 things you should know) Part 2

[DiegoO]

In PART#1 I gave an introduction of the topic before numbering 2 of the 5 main things that makes of a LDR a fatal relationship. I also clarified the type of LDR I am referring to. Please read PART#1 if you haven't, before leaving any comment in PART#2.

5 things you should know from The fatality of Long Distance Relationships:

1. A Long Distance Relationship will never aloud you to know someone with the same depth you would know someone in person.

2. A Long Distance Relationship makes you vulnerable to a pile of preconceptions.

3. A Long Distance Relationship can torn apart healthy interpersonal relationships.

Beside of not been able to make you know someone with all the senses needed to do so, and the danger of adopting preconceptions that could easily be wrong, there is another aspect that it's also damaging. It has to do with how a LDR can cut down valuable moments you should be sharing with family, friends, among others that form part of your social circle.

Socialization has went from physical to virtual, we can now interact like in no other era, the difference is that virtual interaction cannot emulate the real life environment, it can not copy the stimulus we need to maintain functional our emotional needs. Been so, it doesn't matter if you pass a decade in touch with someone you only know online, you'll miss out the sensory information required to know that person accurately with low margins of mistake.

4. A long Distance Relationship even if it's not serious, it shouldn't be the starting point of something more. It doesn't matter if you finally met in person.

It sounds radical. The reason I mention it is due to these points: point1, point2. Without consciously noticing it, you give in to a fabricated view of the person you met online first, and that can become dangerous for anyone.

5. A long Distance Relationship compromise your mental health and it can put at risk your physical well being.

With the last in the list I've been straightforward. A LDR, if taken to serious, it can exacerbate negative emotions, and those emotions will have of course a scary impact over the body, specially in the immune system.

[1truekhaleesi]

My boyfriend is going out of state to study to be a PA, once coronavirus settles down. I'm so proud of him and I'm just trying to be supportive. I'm nervous about us being long distance but we both agreed that we'd be okay. Luckily our relationship didn't start out as long distance and we have a good base because we were friends for a long time before we decided to start dating.

[DiegoO]

The MyTake doesn't cover that type of LDR. I never lived that one so don't worry, it has nothing to do with your actual relationship. : )

[1truekhaleesi]

I'm grateful it wasn't the start of our relationship like you said. I try to stay busy most days

[DiegoO]

I am over it, since last year. I just felt the necessity to write the MyTake, years after the breakup. Perhaps it helps others understand how crucial is that direct face to face interaction for our mental well being, and how technology can not replace its benefits.

[OlderAndWiser]

Going to LDR after establishing a relationship in-person is entirely different from beginning as an LDR. Fortunately, you know how long you will be separated. Good luck to both of you!

[OlderAndWiser]

Above intended as a reply to @1truekhaleesi.

[1truekhaleesi]

Thank you! When we first started dating, we said we had feelings for each other for a while. At first, we decided to not date as we worked together. He didn't want rumors to go around about me, so that makes me even more confident.

[menina]

Well done! 👏🏾 I can say from my own experience that a LDR affects our mental health. I was always stressed and angry because I couldn't be with my "boyfriend". I was even thinking about things I wasn't able to do.
I guess you explored well all the points you mentioned. And I know for sure that I don't want to be in a LDR again.

[DiegoO]

Thanks! Yeah, it was something I thought over and over.

The MyTake could have been more detailed but I wrote it very late, I didn't had the focus I needed.

[menina]

I can relate.
Yes, it makes sense if you were tired.

[DiegoO]

Wow, what time it is there?

[menina]

It's 5:23 am. Why?

[DiegoO]

It's very soon. You know what time it is here?

[menina]

No, I have no idea. What time is it?

[DiegoO]

Time to go to bed. : P

[menina]

Ok Lol

[DiegoO]

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[menina]

😂😂😂

[Jamie05rhs]

3. I disagree with your first paragraph. I do not believe that LDRs necessarily take away from real relationships. I will still see my friends and family just as much. Speaking from personal experience, even if I'm "talking" to someone, I will put my phone away when I'm spending time with my family or with one of my friends. They can wait.

4. So that is why you should meet them in person before getting attached.

[DiegoO]

Thanks for your opinion 🙏

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome! :)

[legalboxers]

LDRs in todays world have a new advantage. Facetime. No longer you have to lug you computer, turn on Skype and boom.. With a cell phone its all good. You can be with them whenever and whereever.

[DiegoO]

You are right, we got that advantage now, and maybe in the future we will be able to smell someone who is miles away, with who knows what device, however it still has important limitations.

[legalboxers]

@DiegoO mine was snail mail..

[Massageman]

I don't see this happening with much success either.

[DiegoO]

Yeah, LDR are tough to manage. Like I mention, even if you get to see your LD partner in person, a risk is still there, the risk of believing in lies and of developing many misconceptions, after having several preconceptions. It's far more tedious than the old school dating.

[Secret6620]

Another job well done 🦋

[DiegoO]

Thanks! x2. I was gonna ad more things but I was literally falling asleep.