Why Women Are Single: How to Keep the Man of Your Dreams

[Apope16]

Ladies, if you are not married by age 35 years old it is YOUR fault. If you are having babies outside of the stability of marriage it is (most likely) YOUR fault. You and your dying eggs will die alone with your cats-lonely, angry, bitter, kinky & horny but too old to have the guys you sleep with wanting to wife you up...because it is your fault. How can you prevent this? Why are you single?

You Are FAT

Many of you ladies would rather crop photos, angle cameras, and puppy filter half nude pics of yourself on dating apps rather than actually work out at the gym and become the REAL DEAL!

A National Institute of Health Study shows that 67% of women in America are OBESE or Overweight. Out of that 67% of ladies, 40% of the women in the population are OBESE. OBESE! Ladies your body is the one thing that you can control about yourself. There is simply no excuse to accept not taking action. None. Just being an average body weight for your height will make you standout in a sea of whales in the population. That's just being average weight! Make the gym a part of your routine.

The average woman is 5ft 5inches tall. That means her average weight needs to be 140 pounds if she has some curves and a chest. Optimal attractive weight to be sexy is between 120 and 135 pounds at that height. No man wants to sleep with a woman who weights more than them. That is like sleeping with a guy. A man feels powerful like a protector when he can lift his lady up. He feels turned on when his lady is smaller and his strength and power is above her.

Be Classy

A woman attracts a high value man by being a classy woman. She treats her man with respect. She cuts the yelling and the attitude and communicates like a loving adult. She stands by her man and encourages him.

Stop Emotional Cheating

Stop texting other guys. Flirting with other guys. Building up a roster of soon to be or former exes.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I'd much rather be single at 40 than spend a year waking up married to someone criticizing my character and value assigning my worth based on my weight.

Seriously, women can bear children and gain mommy weight and this post says that they should feel like shit for not being attractive to the male gaze. There is so much more to life than what is physically attractive. Are you smart? Are you playful? Do they make you laugh? Is there something about them you admire?

Has this generation forgotten about kindness and mercy? Just because someone chooses to engage in different experiences that you, doesn't mean they are 'lower value'.

Are people lower value for choosing to shop ar Walmart than choosing to shop at high end quality brand stores? No, but even among shoppers, there are spenders and there are savers. There are those that wait for the sale, and those in line on opening night.

You sow what you reap, and instead of criticizing randos for being low value, try convincing everyone to grow towards something more sustainable. You don't get confident partners by putting them down. You get them by taking the time to get to know them as people, and then building them up.

Just my 2 cents.

[HiveBee]

Yea! And incels shouldn't have to leave the basement! Women should date them anyways. Why should an incel conform to female sexual standards? terrible!

[KrakenAttackin]

@HiveBee Look an incel beta simp.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Xoxocutekitty. With the attitude of a modern white woman you probably will be single at 40, with a couple of babies by different Thundercocks , and bitching about "where have all the good men gone"!

[HiveBee]

What makes you think I'm an incel exactly? Seeing as I got kids from different women I don't exactly fit the description.

[ElvenMr]

I don't think he has a problem with mommy weight tho.
I agree with your post by the way.

[LegacyRXT]

@KrakenAttackin what

[Arabella_Rose]

@KrakenAttackin I don't think single women in their 40s would be begging for your attention. They are too busy enjoying motherhood. Its the single old men in their 40s that would still be begging for a woman's attention. A single woman can birth children, single men can't.

[JEndigoBleue]

Same reason men after 35... Don't want to deal with the BS!

Not all women "if not most" are not single because no one wants them. Some women don't want to marry. Some want to continue to enjoy the single life and date. Some just want sex. Some don't want to be bothered period. Some do want a relationship but not marriage. Some want to marry. Some want kids. Some don't.

Yeah, it's a lot if people in the world, but finding someone right for you is not easy to find. Man or woman. Plus, you factor in demographics. The culture of the social scene in your area or aboard, religious beliefs, etc.

Annd, sex is never an issue for a woman. There's always a man willing to have sex with a woman. Sex is easy. Especially, with all theses dating sites... sites that cater to fetishes (fat, skinny, grannies, tiny women, big ass, no ass, etc) and men lacking self-control. If a woman desires to have sex, she can have sex.

[Justneedtokno]

Exactly!

[tallandsweet]

I couldn't agree more with this, especially with that last point, women will usually be able to get sex when they want to have sex, especially when they don't expect a relationship.

Attraction has nothing to do with weight. There's plenty of beautiful and stunning overweight or obese women.

[Apope16]

@tallandsweet getting sex has nothing to do with having a man want to wife you.

[JEndigoBleue]

@Apope16 Correct it doesn't but yet it does. You're not going to marrying a woman that only brings her personality to the table. If she doesn't appeal to you sexually, you will not entertain her..."Beauty" is a sexual attribute. If you don't find her attractive, you will not wife her. But, to imply that a woman of a certain age is not desirable for marriage or any relationship is false. It's your preference "maybe" but not all men are bias against older women. Just like women, older men are experiencing change 35 and up. Not all older men are attractive and mature. Just like women.

[JEndigoBleue]

I'm around all ages of men. 35 and up are single. Some have married/divorced in their middle to late 30s to 40s (from my observation men desire marriage in this age group). I have several male cousins of different ages. The one's in my age group...8 have never been married, 3 divorced and 3 married. The 8 that have never been married, desires marriage, looking for a long term relationship with commitment (basically girlfriend) or still want to remain single. And, if you think women were after your money and things when you were younger..."HONNNNEY!" You definitely have to watch it being an older man. Shoot! You all have money! Retirement money, military benefits, house or houses, car or cars, etc.
Don't sleep on younger women because they find you attractive, etc... Or, you may feel you can dominate or control. You better wonder "Why" she finds you attractive and "intelligent" because if you weren't a selective dude in your younger years, you pretty much will have the same being older. And, if you were a man that had options, you still need to not let your ego get the best of you. A fine, pretty young thang will definitely have you hooked. "Trust!" A man's ego at that age loves to be stroke. Annnd, if she's about that $$$, she'll get that $$$ by any means necessary. I've seen the best fall prey to a PYT and a big butt and a smile. I have to protect my make senior relatives from women that think they are going flaunt their ass in their life. Hell to the NO! My dad was still attracting women in his 70s. He looked like he was in his 40s/50s. Ageless runs in the family. I don't look my age 47. Anyhoo... My dad did not move forward with any women if I didn't like her. I'm not having anyone take advantage of my dad/uncles. They watch over me and taught the game. Now I watch over them.

[KrakenAttackin]

@JEndigoBleue. BS, 99.99% of women are dying to be married. They may fully plan to fuck around on the side, have other men's babies, and torture the Simp they married; but they want to be married.

[JEndigoBleue]

@KrakenAttack And, why does that bother you? Do you want to get married? If no, why does that bother you that women are dying to be married? You're not trying to marry them.

Hell, because of my religious belief I respect and will marry if it's in the cards. But, if I did not believe as I do in the Bible. I would not get married. I rather have companionship as needed (Travel, hangout, having fun, sex, etc). I repeat "I would not get married!" My biological clock has "never" tick!
I'm not interested at this point in my life in having children unless I can be a stay home mom. I want to raise my kids not daycare. My husband will have to definitely carry the family without my salary (I'm blessed to have the job I have making "good" money.) So, I expect for me and my children to have if there were two incomes in the house. If he's the kind of man don't appreciate a good woman with an education and have a successful career, home, car, etc.

If I marry, I don't want a big wedding. I have what I need and I don't want whole bunch of folks in attendance that will not be around the relationship as it grows. I don't care about a big wedding, reception, etc. Spend enough to have a good time and that's it.

But, that's just "me" and some women.

[KrakenAttackin]

@jendigobleue. Yes, the cock carousel is always available to women, congratulations.

Can you explain why women are more miserable now than at any other time in recorded history? Maybe too much cock has made women forget their real role in society.

[KrakenAttackin]

@tallandsweet No. There is no such thing as a "stunning obese woman". Just stop.

[JEndigoBleue]

@KrakenAttackin No one is saying "stunning" There's no "stunning" obese "men" although there are pretty and handsome face obese people. Just need to lose weight.

What "I am" saying is what's not for you or anyone else is for someone else. Attraction and love comes in many shapes and forms. If obese people (men and women) weren't not attractive "sexually" there wouldn't be a market for it in porn or dating sites. You may not dig it but someone else does. And, that's OK. I don't know what you look like. But, if I did not find you attractive, I would not make you feel bad by insulting you or having sex with you because I can or use you because I can. Taking advantage of your insecurity.

It's funny. A woman is damn if she don't have sex and damn if she do. It's OK for a man to be whorish and have his merry go around of pussy but not a female. She just can't win. If all women locked their pussy down until marriage, men will still be pissed. Hell, what am I talking about, they're doing it now. Ha! "Why wait to marry" "She trying to force my hand to marry before having sex" I've heard all. And, no waiting doesn't guarantee marriage.

[JEndigoBleue]

Men are not miserable? Only women? I think all are a disappointment. I believe men are just as miserable as women. You complain you can't find a decent woman. The women you "like" and "want" don't want you... You do all you can to appeal to these women (lose weight, up your goals, money, etc) and she still goes for the bad boy types or men with bigger pockets. But, that's not all women. Just like all men are not full of it.

Miserable? What conversations have you had with women about being single and miserable? Yeah, it's hard to find good companionship and a sexual partner. Some want marriage and some just want companionship without commitment. But, no one I know in my cycle of women are miserable. They are enjoying life. Vacations, buying their homes, cars, clothes, etc. If they get some, they get some. Sex that is. Or, meet someone for marriage. Cool. Miserable about it nope.

[Anonymous]

The problem with today's women is they have lost sight of what value women offer men. They put too much emphasis on their sexuality, education and career and too little on the things that have always been important to men, and always will be.

Ladies, men don't care about your education or career, in fact in some ways highly educated career driven women are very unattractive to men because those things actually conflict with what men DO want in a woman.

Sexuality is of course important, but it's not enough to keep a good man from leaving you. Good sex is always important but it's not enough. You need to bring a lot more to the table than sex, and I'm not talking about education or career.

Ladies, you need to go back to basics if you want to attract and keep a good man. Stop letting feminists tell you what makes a woman valuable, because if it's your value to men that you care about then those feminists are dead wrong.

[Usernamej58]

Spot on sir. As long as a woman isn't particularly thick then I couldn't care less about how educated she is.
Far more important traits are: Respects you, actually cares about you, nurturing, reciprocates in small gestures of affection and a strong sense of morality.

[SomeBlondeChick]

ROFL. As an educated women I don't have any issues attracting MEN - successful well established men - not insecure little boys trapped in adult bodies. But then real men prefer a pleasant partner - better one who is intelligent as then you're likely to have intelligent children - who is caring and thoughtful, etc. not some back to the basics tied to the stove servant.

[Opinion Owner]

@SomeBlondeChick Lol, my point went right over your head. But as an "educated women", I'm not surprised you missed it.

[nelly83]

I'd very much rather become a millionaire than a wife to an average joe. I don't know what kinda millionaire would have a hard time finding a husband.

[nelly83]

@SomeBlondeChick That is actually true. I work around a lot of professional men. A lot of them want a woman equally as educated as themselves.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Anonymous - actually your comment didn't go over my head. My response, which was directed at you & usernamej58, went flying so far above your head you didn't realize it. ... Now boyo what is it women are supposed to bring to the table that we supposedly lack aside from what is common sense - compassionate, etc.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@nelly83 Education only goes so far. Gives you a common ground to have conversations on. But intelligence is more. A colleague as example is a pharmacist. Gifted in his niche of pharmacy. His wife has three degrees. She's not that intelligent & rather ignorant.

[nelly83]

@SomeBlondeChick Statistics have shown that people tend to marry those with similar education, background and intelligence. A genius won't get along with a dummy.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@nelly83 She hasn't bothered to educate herself in his field, doesn't understand what is required for staff and her ignorance as she is "HR" is going to run his business into the ground. I thought the guy was brilliant in his field but five years from now I'll be very surprised if still in business.

[nelly83]

@Usernamej58 Educated successful men prefer educated successful women. Men who won't date educated women, do not tend to be very educated themselves. Statistics have shown that people tend to marry and date those of their own caliber. A genius won't get along with a dumbass.

[Opinion Owner]

@SomeBlondeChick @nelly83

Most of the highest value men of all... which is to say the men who are most sought after by women, and who essentially have their pick of those women... those men have stay at home wives who take care of their children, their homes and their private lives. Those men don't want a career woman whose priorities conflict with his. Sorry ladies, but busy attorneys and CEOs, and women who aspire to those positions, make inferior mothers and wives. Those women are not the first choice of the highest value men, which means those women are not the highest value women.

qz.com/.../

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Anonymous - you can't differentiate between trophy cows and quality wives. ROFL. Trophy cows are the ones the rich pull out every social event to brag about. It's not them that look after the kids, it's nannies after all. Quality wives are the ones a successful man is always proud of.

Let's see last year was approached by 1) General manager, multiple rental property owner. 2) CEO of his own company that makes well over a million yearly with the huge company & government contracts. 3) CEO of a specialty security company & general manager of a security department for a multi-million business. 4) Hotel owner, CEO & general manager of another business. VERY wealthy man, speaking of taking a cruise like most would speak about visiting a campsite in a trailer.

Anything else?

[Opinion Owner]

@angelcolor There are two problems with studies like that one. First, they equate women being "driven, ambitious and successful" with intelligence, and when it comes to what men want in women the two are not at all the same. Men do indeed prefer women who are intelligent, but who also have priorities that are consistent with his own.

The second problem is that these studies assume men who are not attracted to the women in question are intimidated by them and feel emasculated by them, which is nonsense. It's all about attraction.
Most men are no more attracted to those women than most women are to effeminate men. It has nothing to do with intimidation.

You women need to stop trying to tell men what they "should" want in women, because you just get it wrong. More specifically, stop assuming men want the same things in women that women want in men. Unlike women, men have never been attracted to the qualities that make one a good provider and protector. And we never will be, because it's not in our DNA like it is in women's.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Anonymous - You women need to stop trying to tell men what they "should" want in women, because you just get it wrong -... so what do men want? Come along. I'm curious when you confused trophy cows as actual worthy wives to the rich & famous when they predominantly do little and hire a nanny to do all the dirty work.

[Opinion Owner]

@SomeBlondeChick "I'm curious when you confused trophy cows as actual worthy wives to the rich & famous when they predominantly do little and hire a nanny to do all the dirty work."

How typical. What is it with you feminists that you just can't stand the thought that there are great women in this world who make different life choices than you do? Why do you feel the need to disparage women who choose to be real mothers to their children rather than hiring out the job of raising their children to low paid daycare workers who don't give a fuck about your children? Why do you claim to support the right of women to choose what they want and then try to make them feel inferior for not making the choices you think they should?

[nelly83]

@Opinion Owner, You need to realize that different men seek different things. Not all men seek the same things. Brilliant geniuses desire a woman with brains. An educated man would desire an educated woman. A professor of English would have nothing in common with a woman who can't read at the collegiate level.

Rural or suburban men prefer housewives. Corporate, professional, educated men prefer educated women with their own careers. I live in NYC and there is no such thing as a man here that would turn down a career woman. In fact, men would turn a woman down due to her lack of a career.

It really depends on where you come from. If you live in rural or suburban areas, housewives are more desired. If you live in modern cities, men would have absolutely no problem dating a smart, successful career woman.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@Anonymous - you brought that the rich & famous. Many "mothers" in these situations take their husbands' money, hire nannies and go socializing. ROFL. I *come* from a well-off family. I know this. I see it with women I grew up with, the same women that go to the private golf clubs or yacht clubs as my aunt & grandmother as an example... basic degrees, no drive, sitting on their husband's money like a dragon & bossing the hired help around.

If you want to respect women just say it. Housewives. I've no issue with that. If a woman wants to be a housewife that's her choice. Don't glorify rich & famous trophy wives who oftentimes don't give a fuck about their kids. Look at fools like the Kardashians, treating their kids like clothing accessaries than actual flesh & blood.

[nelly83]

@Opinion owner,

Typically the average American white joe, does not make a lot of money, is not highly educated, lives in the suburbs, not too ambitious, tend to prefer housewives.

But if you're talking about dating for a rich CEO, brilliant surgeon, or a professor at harvard. Then these people would find highly educated, successful women to be attractive. Such successful men do not prefer housewives but someone who share their values of education, hard work, ambition and success.

Housewives do not tend to be highly educated, generally speaking.

[nelly83]

@SomeBlondeChick Rich men tend to marry rich women. Because if you're rich, chances are you will be surrounded by other rich people for the most part. Poor men tend to marry poor women. It is statistically shown.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@nelly83 There's no point talking to him. He actually thinks every man wants a housewife. He even went so far as to say busy CEOs and lawyers want "those men have stay at home wives who take care of their children, their homes and their private lives". When more often than not busy CEOs and lawyers don't give a fuck what the wife does as long as she doesn't make a fool of him & the kids have at least someone looking after them.

[SomeBlondeChick]

@nelly83 I don't brag about my wealth. The most indication people have that I'm better off is I own two new vehicles. Cheap little Hyundai sedans. That's it. Growing up among wealth, seeing the spoiled brats, etc. including cousins with no concept of money (grandparents weren't rich, worked themselves to wealth) I've no real interest in gloating.

[nelly83]

@SomeBlondeChick He thinks all men want housewives because he most likely comes from the suburbs or rural areas. You gotta realize such areas tend to be lacking in rich, educated successful folks. The rich successful folks tend to be located in the modern city areas such as LA, Dallas, NYC etc. These cities tend to be wayy more expensive , higher cost of living so rich people tend to flock there. City folks tend to be filled with career women too. City men usually have no problem dating career women.

Rich people tend to also have higher IQs than poorer populations. Maybe not every single rich person. But it accounts for most. If their grandparents were brilliant enough to make millions, do you really think their children / descendants would be stupid?

[Opinion Owner]

@nelly83 @SomeBlondeChick I come from a middle class upbringing in Los Angeles (actually Santa Monica), I have two college degrees including an MBA, I'm an insurance broker and am among the top 5% of earners in the US. I work with a lot of guys who make a lot more than I do, and all but one of them have wives who happily stay home and take care of their children and homes. Those women work very hard and their kids are very lucky to have them as mothers. My fiancée, who also comes from a middle class family, is also well educated and she will stay home (or work part time if she chooses) with our children until they are at least in junior high school. That is her choice, which is one of the reasons why she is my choice. I have no interest in a woman who would want to put my kids in daycare.

Women like you truly have no clue what most good men want in a wife.

[nelly83]

@Opinion owner,

I come from NYC. I have never ever heard of a man rejecting a woman simply because she choses to be a working mom. In fact, MOST MOTHERS ARE WORKING NOWADAYS because reality is, you can no longer support the family through only 1 income anymore.

Welcome to reality. I have no clue what made you think that most families only have 1 working parent.

[summer_of_2008]

@SomeBlondeChick i love a girl that dont even fucking need a boy

[ChrisMaster69]

Hmm a lot of hating going on there against women.

it’s fairly common these days for women to favour themselves and career over marriage and marry late, often they had a long relation ship from 20 - 30.

my ex girlfriend a case in point she will be in this zone, however she’s a WUMA instructor, earns now double my wage and from my last chat has been learning surfing.

Know a few high value men, I would refer to them as high maintenance and controlling expecting an often successful woman to do everything, just like mama does for him

Back in the real world, people are single between 30 and 35 for a number of reasons, they marry often later but then remain married for rest of life.

people don’t really want a high value person, they want someone they can trust, shows respect to them and the relationship.

[bamesjond0069]

Simping at the highest level. So men want low value women... i see. Tell me more.

[TruthBringer]

@bamesjond0069 That's Chris for you. Did you expect anything from one of the biggest male feminists on this website? 😂

[ChrisMaster69]

@bamesjond0069 @TruthBringer

Of course you fine gentleman are both married or out fucking every night and basically living your life.

[TruthBringer]

I'm in a long term relationship, mate. The thing is, I can still attract women and have meaningful relationships with women without the need to pander and simp into their graces while throwing my own gender under the bus.

[ChrisMaster69]

@TruthBringer you do of course realise I’ve been into BDSM for about 20 years.

I am probably as far from pandering as you can get.

Now respect however, I respect women, that’s the big difference between me and you two fuckwits.

I can actually respect a woman no matter her age, her social status, her body type, her sexuality, her ethnicity, her salary, type of employment, even her body count.

I show her respect.

Oh long term relationship and still attract women, and have meaningful relationships, that’s erm called cheating.
Yep zero respect for women and zero respect for your partner by the sound of it.

Of course your partner is exactly the same type of woman often slammed on these threads, yeah shit loads of respect, good on you for being such a great guy.

[TruthBringer]

@chrismaster69 You respect women who aren't all deserving of respect. I respect women who genuinely respect themselves and their dignity. You "respect" a woman purely for the sake of her having a pussy. You've proven to be one of those who pedestalizes women just because they happen to be women. And if you actually have any knowledge about sexual attraction, you would know that women with brains don't like to be pandered to simply because they happen to have a vagina. They don't want to be treated like "queens" just for that reason. They want to be treated like human beings. I highly suggest you actually start to learn about true female attraction rather than trying to simp your way into the graces of women. Perhaps that would actually change your relationship status. Sorry mate, but someone who tries to shame other men for holding women (human beings) accountable for their own actions is not "hating" on them. Aged 40 and yet oblivious to how to get a woman of value and how to keep her.

Obviously what I said about long term relationships and attracting women went right over your head. Reading comprehension issues much? What I said basically translates to: I have no issues attracting women which in turn grants me the opportunity to get into meaningful relationships. I am committed to a wonderful woman who has proven to be deserving of my respect and that of others.

PS: Your fetishes are irrelevant to your actual actions that you have proven to be showing on this website. You can still be a simp and have the most fucked up fetishes. Soy boys who pay for OnlyFans are a perfect example of that.

[TruthBringer]

You're the definition of a "pick me" dude lmfao

[ChrisMaster69]

@TruthBringer hey I don’t cheat but whatever

[TruthBringer]

@chrismaster69 Great, at least we got something in common

[ChrisMaster69]

@TruthBringer I seriously hope you don’t have kids, would be a nightmare a woman hater like you as a father.

You don’t cheat but on numerous previous threads you always go on about how women fall for you, being a proper man.

[TruthBringer]

@chrismaster69 Oh look, the pick me mangina is still trying to cope for the cognitive dissonance and is having a hard time dealing with the same strategy he uses against his own gender, which is throwing ad hominems around. If holding women accountable for their own actions and not pander to them just for them having a pussy makes me a "woman hater" (who ironically can keep a woman happy without issues), than you're the biggest misandrist on this website throwing false accusations to men simply because they don't pander to "m'ladies" of G@G. shouldn't'you go back to asking random strangers on the internet to join you on vacations, little desperate simp?

If I happen to be a parent, then I would make damn sure I don't ask random strangers to join me on a vacation and be near my kid. It seems I would value my child's safety over my own desperation for female companion. Keep coping little simp 😂

[ChrisMaster69]

@TruthBringer you are one of the most common anti women trolls on the site, your use of language does tend to give your Anon posts away.
Anyhow enough said keep on trolling.

[TruthBringer]

@chrismaster69 Oof, another invalid comeback. Never posted an anonymous thread or comment and the language I use is quite common on the internet. But whatever floats your boat, little simp. Go back to desperately getting random strangers over the internet to join you on a vacation. Must be embarassing enough to get your skirt lifted by someone almost half your age

[ChrisMaster69]

@TruthBringer you do try to plead innocent a lot, I stand by pretty much everything I say, however you do tend to make a statement and joke your way out of it or assume an aloof education. You are in a long term relationship, you comment on various threads how you attract and and have meaningful relationships with these other women, that’s simply factual from your posts, you cheat on and don’t give a shit about whatever tart you are shagging

[CasaNorba]

correct if I'm wrong @chrismaster69 but did you just use your old long BDSM lifestyle as a way to validate yourself as knowing your way around actual relationships?

[TruthBringer]

Never have I claimed to be in a relationship with other women while I'm currently in one. Back to school for some proper reading comprehension. Aged 40, single, being a pick me and desperate for female validation. Clearly what you stand for hasn't helped you much 😂

[ChrisMaster69]

@CasaNorba no you miss read

[Apope16]

I feel bad. The wifey is so overweight and unattractive that you are desperate to use BDSM to want her in bed.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Apope16 thank you for that, she died in an automobile accident.

[nelly83]

@chrismaster69. You are very right about truthbringer. You’re not the only person who has these things to say about him

[Anonymous]

"The average woman is 5ft 5inches tall. That means her average weight needs to be 140 pounds if she has some curves and a chest. Optimal attractive weight to be sexy is between 120 and 135 pounds at that height."

ROFL. You're such a genius @apope16 you don't realize people have different body shapes.

And at 120lbs I'd look like someone who has STARVED their entire life. My father's northern German. And Scottish. Built like a tank. Able to pick up a purse snatcher of 200 or so lbs like most would a sack of potatoes. If one thinks of Vikings from olden days that'd be him. And been a mesomorph that muscle is natural having not gone to a gym in 30 years.

And I inherited that solid germanic/northern frame. Again if I weighed 120lbs I looked as if I STARVED myself from the day of my birth. And I'm not obese. Someone obese can't possibly do 325lbs 30 reps leg presses as an example.

So I think, as said many a times, @apope16 you should try to increase your dating standards than blaming everyone else for the rubbish you find. As someone said elsewhere dating sites are garbage.

[Opinion Owner]

What's with the downvotes from the guys. Embarrassed a girl, born as one, is stronger than you? I mean 325 lbs as a leg press isn't a lightweight.

[Apope16]

The reason why there are downvotes is because guys find her statement hilarious. 140 pounds was not supposed to be an exact weight for all 1.5 billion women on planet earth. It was a number that was a reference point statistically on health and wellness charts. She basically is using the allusion of womens rights to promote a body positivity concept that has killed women due to heart disease, diabetes, depression and other ailments. She should be giving food diet or exercise advice.

[Opinion Owner]

Apope16 - you always struck me as having rather limited intelligence. Like very low intelligence. I'm not fat, dimwit, for my frame. People have different body structures. ROFL. What an idiot

[apple_jack]

I love your answers. 😂😂👌

[iKarmaJones]

People have many reasons why they are single. You may have quantity of men and women seeking your attention and affection, but "quality" is usually missing "good character". They may charm you with their personality and looks, but they lack what you "need" and not so much what you want in a relationship.

Your needs should weigh out your wants. Because at the end of the day, people looks, etc change due to time, life situations (stress, etc) or they become ill. The question I always ask myself "Can you still love and be with them if the get sick, have to take medication and now put on weight because of the medication?" Or, their skin change because of the medication. Hair fall out. We tend to think of the now, but never the future. We do but we stay focus on the present and make it present future. Like no one will change or grow. Or, things won't happen.

Yes, people should be healthy and look their best. But, it does not guarantee a good partner. You can look good and still end up single. That's if you want to get married.

[Anonymous]

I don't know whether I agree with your points.
I'm engaged, 200lbs at 6ft, my boyfriend is 180lbs at 6ft and he can easily lift me ~40 inches off the floor though he's not the strongest or most muscular.

My ex was 6ft7, weighed over 260lbs and was never able to lift me up even a little bit, though back then, I only weighed 160lbs.

I feel that your takes are consistently about putting women down and blaming them for things that aren't in their control.
Weight may be a factor that you can control, but being classy isn't a trait women have or don't have, LOL. Emotional cheating and "classiness" is subjective, there's not ONE definition everyone adheres to.

Your opinion isn't justified. Your takes are getting worse every time you put out another one. Please stop talking about women like you know all women on the planet and start looking within to figure out why you feel so much hate towards the "average American woman" you so frequently refer to.

[Apope16]

I've dated overweight women. But lets be honest. A tall man is high value. Yiu either need to give him the best sex ever or lose weight. He can easily leave you for a slim hotty. Be honest and realize your looks will fade. When they do.. you weigh more than him. Not only that by you are the size of an nfl football player. You need to hit the gym. Not good. Id say drop 30 pounds and be okay. Seems like real love though. Congrats. Dont lose him.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Apope16. All true.

[Arabella_Rose]

@Apope16 I was overweight when I dated a tall man. In fact , i only dated tall guys when i was an overweight girl. Not everyone is as picky and shallow as you

[fashionguy17]

I'm going to get a bunch of thumb downs for this, but I have come to realize that a lot of women destroy their own relationships. I will use my own as an example.

I was with my girlfriend for 3 years. She said I was the man of her dreams and had all the qualities she wanted in a man. You know why she broke up with me? She said even though I had all the qualities she wanted, I wasn't "emotional enough" and that was really important to her. After she broke up with me, she tried to replace me with a few other men... but they didn't meet her needs. She then try to come back to me after realizing I was her best choice... but I declined her.

Women destroy their own relationships. They are the ones who typically pull the plug on the relationship. That's because a lot of women think love is simple and that love will conquer all. That fairytale love. Love isn't simple and it takes work, and a lot of women aren't willing to put in the work. They start to think that the issue isn't the relationship, but that it's the person they are with... so they will try to find a new person to replace the other person.

If your man isn't abusive towards you, doesn't cheat, treats you well, pushes you to the be the best you can be, supports you as needed... STAY WITH HIM. If you are unwilling to work on your issues with him, that shows that you are not ready for a relationship. Relationships are WORK. Love is WORK. If you are not willing to do the work and to help your partner, you are not ready for a real relationship.

Let's say you are with someone for 5 years and you leave them. Finding a new person isn't going to fix the issue. Just an FYI.

[jasco]

Honestly the weight part isn't true nor is the height. Most women today are around 5'9 with the average weight of 150 to 165. Also most men don't mind a girl with a bit of fat, most prefer it. However I do agree that no one wants a obese person who isn't trying to take care of themselves. Being nice, a good listener, friendly and motherly are always good character traits that most women at some point in their lives have and that usually attracts good and bad men even without the right body. Emotional cheating... Ah yes when someone gets their heart broken because they read to deep in between the lines and started imagining they were gonna get somewhere, welp the answer to that for men is to not do it, as for women I suggest you clear what you want before it goes anywhere. As for why women are single well, depends are we talking about the 2000s or before. If were talking about before its more due to men not having good standards and simply want sex, 2000s is more of women only wanting sex and money, putting off anything else and men haven't really change sense before

[crazyish]

Who cares. I'm 32 and have no intentions of being anything for anyone. I'm good being alone, its better than dealing with superficial men like yourself. Better than any guy I've been this exact way for. What does it get you? Nothing because the men like this are controlling and think they can do as they please. Most guys talk about being a high value man but 8 out 10 times they are delusional and never measure up when it really counts. This is just someone who tries to control women to make them believe that men should be put on a pedal stool. He hates women his own age because they got smart and stopped falling for this superficial bullshit and he cannot control them anymore with this crap. Blah blah blah, seriously no man boasting like this is worth it, ever. They have no depth and no sense of the real world. He's 33 and this is the only wisdom he has to offer.

[bamesjond0069]

Lmfao. Older women would let me "control" them too. I just dont care to.

[crazyish]

You have a point lol I shouldn't have implied all women.

[Apope16]

Cool. Buy a cat. Die alone is that what you want? To be alone for the next 50 years? Wilting away? No lover?

[crazyish]

I'm allergic to cats. No one wants to die alone or be alone. A relationship with one person from the opposite sex isn't necessary to ensure that doesn't happen. People have the ability to move on from past relationships for a reason. People have the capacity to love and form connections with multiple people for a reason. Humans need humans. That’s our nature. Plain and simple. I learn lessons in life. And learning that changing for someone for a relationship will not guarantee their sustained happiness was one of the hardest things I had to learn. I sacrificed myself and my own happiness for their perceived happiness. I sacrificed but in the end I got hurt because they perceived wrongly. Nope. No thanks. I know the truth. I am who I am. My happiness is important. Someone is who they are and their happiness is important. But if that someone can't be happy with me as who I am or vice-versa than we are not compatible for each other. And if that becomes a trend, which obviously 🙄 it is, then maybe humans were wrong in assuming that these types of relationships are natural. Living shouldn't feel like survival in any aspect. Struggling and working so hard is survival. People die alone. Ensuring there's somebody sitting by my side when I do isn't going to change the fact that I'm going out on my own. And guess what that person can and WILL move on. Because humans need humans. Period.

[Anonymous]

Why women are single... by choice , there are unlimited supplies of men if they so choose , and many factors at play , many , if not most Western women , view men in a negative light , at least 20% outright hate men , most women much prefer the company of their own gender , the " women hate each other " stuff is BS , their is a far stronger female own gender solidarity / in group bias , than male. Female friendships are much stronger than male , and more tactile , and meet each others emotional needs much more than men can , also at least 80% of women can happily be totally celibate , the few that want sex , have it on tap. Women are sick of male attention , so men would do well to distance themselves much more from women and many men need to develop self respect... stop being simps & fueling huge arrogant female ego's. This is the age of " I don't need no man " ... men are surplus to a woman's requirements... so guys , work on yourselves , the only person you can truly rely on is yourself.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Same reason why men after 30s are single. You are an example lol. Anyway tell that to bald fat fugly men after 30s. And an average western guy is overweight in Europe according statistics. So average western man is fat aka a landwhales. Then it is none of your business whether a girl post half naked pics. If you dont like non modest women, then dont date non modest women. I also dont understand why men show their secondary sexual traits like facial hair, body hair, etc. but have the audacity to complain about women showing off her cleavage aka showing off a little about her secondary sexual traits. The sperm quality of men also get shittier, when they get older. So i dont think any women would want disabled/mental ill kids which is the cause of shitty sperm quality.
I also dont understand why American cuntservatives are so obsessed with women who show off their body or are obsessed with working women but also except others to respect/tolerate their traditional values.

[hi_it_is_me123]

Emotional cheating? Lol then men should stop watching porn and following other girls on insta aka emotional cheating

[GoldenTulip]

Totally agree. You go girl! And what about the guys who string girls along for years? Saying to marry her etc.. but years gone by..

[Alpha4U]

Enjoy your cats...

[hi_it_is_me123]

Enjoy your dogs lool. I know enough women like who are married. Dont worry about me lool. I am just doing the same as the asker but suddenly it is not ok for guys like you. I just said some facts and common sense. It is is a fact that male sperm quality get worse the more the man get older. I also point out some statistics and it is also common sense to not date non modest women, of you want modest women. Maybe i should not be that harsh but my point is clear

[hi_it_is_me123]

I am modest and wait till marriage and have no problem with marrying young but i would not want a hypocritical guy who does not fo the same as me

[Alpha4U]

Im doing great with women.
high value men in their 30's can get tons of women
women in thier 30's can get beta men but not the man she wants.

deal with it.

[Alpha4U]

Men and women are not equal. we are defferent. thus we have different standards. thats what so many modern women who believe in "equality" dont get.

you can scream "sexism"... it does not matter

[hi_it_is_me123]

You are delusional. Women tend to marry someone in their age rank according to statistics. So this means 30 years old men can't all women. It is uncommon for a woman to marry someone 10+ years older guy. Women usually marry someone their age or slightly older guy. I also doubt that a woman would choose 30+ years old man over a hot 21-25 old man

[hi_it_is_me123]

I never said men and women are biologically same. I dont understand what you are talking about

[hi_it_is_me123]

I like young virgin men like men. So you can have same standards

[Alpha4U]

oh dear... you dont know about reality.

the no.1 reason is status. what many women look for. "im not like that" does not work on the reality. most of married ones that you described ends in divorce.
who initiate the divorce? women
why? the no1 reason is financially one.

Im talking about high value men... not the average man. a lot of men are not doing good i agree.

[Alpha4U]

we are different n EVERYTHING. even in mentality. thats the biggest feminist lie you all fell for it

[hi_it_is_me123]

What? You only can attract Golddiggers with your money. Women with proper job aka money would not want any much older guy.

[Alpha4U]

virgin? yikes.
you whole "morality" is based on some religious or prude bs. it does not mean anything.
your "standards" are... nothing

[hi_it_is_me123]

Every invidual is different. Women do also care about man's age/looks like men. I dont think any young pretty young girl would date an old man. This is unusual. Many pretty girls do it for money but not because she l8ves him. Why do you want a girl who loves your money, instead of your looks/personality which is part of you?

[Alpha4U]

here is the bomb !!!
high value men dgaf about your career or how much money you make. so jokes on you

women date up and men date down on the level of finance. so men will always have more option as they grow in their 30's IF they are high value.

jokes on you and feminism... all you can get is average guy lol

[hi_it_is_me123]

You can dm me. I dont want to spam the asker anymore

[hi_it_is_me123]

Blocked. So stfu. I am done with your spam. Go attract golddiggers with your money or shit. You are delusional if you seriously think women care about your caarer or bullshit. Again you only attract golddiggers with this attitude. Average guy is the majority of men. So most men ain't high value aka are trash according to you lool

[Apope16]

Men stop watching porn and following insta girls?

Thats actually good advice.

[Apope16]

85% of divirce initiated by women.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I am not denying this. Bad women exist for sure too. But i dont think that 80% of women are all at fault. I also heard that married men cheat a lot and i dont know howtrue this. maybe this is why they divorce because of cheating or because she is the bad one. Why would you want a bad woman who divorce you anyway. It is her loss. I seriously think people should not divorce if there is no violence/cheating even if you dont have feelings for your partner anymore. I also think women are more desperate due to societal pressure when it comes to marriage to the point she marries any guy which end up with divorce or cheating. This does not justify cheating or using a guy for marriage but this explains it too. I have seen this in Asian/middleeastern culture where people have arranged marriage since they could not find anyone before their 30s but in the past the only option was arrange marriage. Since divorce is a taboo in asia/middleeastern people stay together but even some hate eachother to death lool. I know so many old couple who just complain about their wife/husband so much and hate eachother but dont divorce. I dont know which is better-divorce or bad marriage forever. I also think that young western women have it difficult to find some guy around her age to marry but in the past young men were kinda encouraged or even pressured to marry in western countries. It is more healthy to marry someone your age since also the divorce rate is higher for people with huge age difference. The another reason is that marriage is only seen as bad, traditional or not feminist which may scare some girls. I personally think you can be non traditional, be married and feminist which is kinda common for middleeastern/Asian feminists.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I also dont think it is bad to stay single as a women. If being single or beig non married makes you happy, this is fine/good. People should do what them make happy. Marriage is not everthing

[GoldenTulip]

People who use the terms "Beta, Alpha, High value" are crazy on their own. Wtf is that bullcr*p. Hahaha like it makes any difference in people liking you more or less? People like the person in question... not their status as "oee he is high value". Do you have a sign hanging on your neck? Haha what a joke.

[Elsa143]

You're 33 and sound like a bratty teen.
Did you even graduated high school?
You're not young either so stop wasting your time here and work on yourself first.
You're behaving like an immature teen.
Make this website more useful rather than spreading sexism and hate.

[Apope16]

I have a masters degree. But who cares?

[DollAlone]

I pretty much agree with everything but the emotional cheating. Thats always been done to ME by dipshit guys who claimed to be something theyre not. I also believe that while women may filter their pics, men completely photoshop their whole lives and create special effects about themselves that would make George Lukas feel like a virgin

[Apope16]

Emotional cheating is very sad. It sucks but for guys its about sex. For women its about love. Which is worse?

[dudbud]

@Apope16 but womans do that bad thing to

[Shamalien]

Imagine my surprise when not a single woman in this comments section could take that criticism.

The stats don't die, obesity is an epidemic, being overweight is way too normalized (for both men and women) but let's face it, women's looks matter a lot more than men's looks. Being fit and in shape for a woman should be as important as a profitable business / career is for a man. Oh no yeah I know I'm so old fashioned oh lord if only the evil that was me didn't exist, all would be perfect in this world, right? There's no reason to not want to be in shape, make it a priority and GET IT DONE and your life will just be better. Really feel this guy's point about the filters and angles, that shit is INSANE like holy fuck! With makeup, angles, filters, any girl on this earth can make at least 8/10

[TruthBringer]

Absolutely well said! Of course you've offended some overweight snowflakes who ended up disliking your comment without having the guts to confront anything you've said. Because they know it's right 😂

[Midnight_Kiss]

You sir sound like a complete arsehole.

FYI, I'm not nor have I ever been married because I don't want to get married it's not a requirement, I don't have kids because I've never felt the urge to have them and I'm single because I'd rather be alone than be with the wrong person.

[Elsa143]

It's difficult to find a good man who doesn't want kids either. I will never ever produce a giant life threatening stuff for the sake of another man.

[modelUN242]

You're right, I actually realized this when I turned 19-20, I didn't want to end up being a butthurt woman. I started dating for marriage last year and I ended up finding a good man.

[TruthBringer]

YOOO look at all the pink dislikes. Because how dare you as a woman want to remain healthy and not complain victim of the patriarchy which in turn got you a good man! 😂

I swear I can bet my arm that the majority of people disliking your comment and this Take are overweight 😂😂. My girlfriend is also in great shape, takes care of me while enjoying life doin what she is passionate about, and she agrees with this Take 😂

[CherryStripes]

@TruthBringer That's not why she has dislikes LOL."Butthurt woman" is the reason. She basically said any woman who is single after 30 is gonna be butthurt. Everyone has a different focus in their life. Girls like her care about marriage and husband. While we are females, we are also humans who are trying to get through life just like everyone else. I mean you men will also blame us if we just sit there and waited for men to provide us like a golddigger 😂

[TruthBringer]

@CherryStripes So much wrong in 1 comment. There is a major difference between a golddigger leeching off of a man and a woman who is getting taken care of by a man, but is actualyl still contributing to a relationship in a healthy way. Also, where did she call out women in their 30s? I don't see her say anything about women in their 30s though. And she is right, there is a lot of butthrut women out there hating on other women who simply save themselves for marriage. Just because a woman wants to save herself for marriage and doesn't want to involve herself in the vice lifestyle of the west, doesn't mean she hasn't got anything else going on in her life.

It's simply obvious that those who dislike what she says feel spoken to and are butthurt that she managed to get herself a decent guy

[CherryStripes]

@TruthBringer Golddiggers are also contrivuting with their body by the way. I said 30 cause that's the age men say " a woman has hit the wall". I have some friends who don't even wanna kiss their boyfriend until marriage or at least engagement and none of them have been shamed.
I never meant she doesn't have anything else. If you look at all thsoe comments including yours men are clearly saying a woman whose main focus isn't a relationship or dating is a man hating feminist and that she's miserable.

[modelUN242]

@TruthBringer That’s great!!

[TruthBringer]

@CherryStripes Golddigger contribute by their bodies. So are the other women we speak of. The only difference here is that a good woman doesn't LEECH off of her man, while a golddigger is. Not sure which comment you refer to, but my comments on this take are based on the fact that I agree that many women happen to not be in relationships because of things like being out of shape or having a bad attitute.

[KrakenAttackin]

@CherryStripes No, she is saying that "hookup whore" culture is not for her, and you can't stand that.

[CherryStripes]

@TruthBringer If such women don't date, then why did i see like 2 or more questions where men were asking why fat women go for slim guys and stuff and i personally have seen a lot of both out of shape men and women in relationships which is not anyone's business other than theirs
@KrakenAttackin What she does with her body is none of my busines and i don't give an f about it. And i am asexual and a virgin. I personally have no reason to support any promiscuous or sexual culture

[TruthBringer]

@CherryStripes Your questions are very out of place. Firs tof all, we are talking about women being butthurt because @modelun242 agrees with this Take and got herself a good man while understanding that many women are simply butthurt (which they are).

Also, this Take doesn't imply that anyone who is fat would automatically remain single. If you're living in a country like the US, so many people ARE overweight. And many people are also DESPERATE to get into a relationship. Hence why you see so many dudes date down in terms of looks, just so they can get some pussy. But the truth is, the MAJORITY of men don't like nor prefer overweight women. Just because there are overweight women in a relationship, doesn't mean that being overweight will not hold you back from even more potential suitors.

[KrakenAttackin]

@CherryStripes Why are women so hell bent on behaving a way that is guaranteed to make them miserable later in life? I was told growing up that delaying gratification was the key to success (get an education, don't spend stupidly, don't have kids too early) and yet women seem to be completely lost on this basic fact.

[CherryStripes]

@truthbringerYour 2nd para does make sense as to why such relations exist.
And i am sure there is literally no reason for anyone to be "butthurt" cause some girl online has a man. Her comment basically supports that a 35 year old woman is miserable & unlucky cause she doesn't have a man by her side thus implying that women should live and breathe only for relationships

Anyway thanks for clearing that up. I am leaving this site. It's just amateur play here and nothing useful. So won't be replying again.

[TruthBringer]

@CherryStripes Even though you left, I'll leave this for others to read. She actually didn't claim women are living and breathing for the sake of relationships. That's your own twisted interpretations. And bye bye from G@G.

[Thedivinechic]

If obesity is an epidemic; then, cheating and NOT having self-control to keep it in your pants while falling prey to your desires is the problem. Some guys (not all) have no remorse when they go out there... cheat and risk STDs then go home and also risk giving it to their wives or gfs and their wives kiss their baby. Super not cool, but cruel. Just like Usher. Very disheartening. I think men are going be the main reason for human extinction in the future. Lower your standards and you might be happy. Either you're trolling or just a bitter person drowning in misery.

[cjmtherfcker]

Does lowering your standards womens desire for finances and swag

[cjmtherfcker]

Does lowering your standards apply to women's desire for finances or confidence

[es20490446e]

I personally know a bunch of quite good women that didn't find their partner till late in life, and even got a divorce.

To some women it has became difficult to tell when a man is good for marriage these days. No surprise to me they are so defensive.

The solution isn't to blame them. But to be coherent, clear and easy to be around yourself.

Then you will see a sift in attitude in many of them, when they no longer feel they have to defend from anything. For instance they are CRAVING being in such situation.

Spend time to get to know the lady before even dating, and only do so when you are totally sure she's reliable and fully into you.

Don't be a bitch.

[snackthatsmilesback]

You know you could just cropped the little extras and made that first point "you are fat" the whole mytake? in my opinion seems like your main point anyway.

I agree women should be encouraged to put in more time at the gym, but not just to lose weight. I hate that workouts constantly appeal to men to gain muscle and women to lose weight. Women can get muscle as well and that makes them both more powerful and more attractive.

Yeah unhealthy is unattractive, but fit is even better than just healthy. And then you could both pick each other up (although I've never understood why either sex would enjoy being picked up, seems more annoying than protective). Also I'm not turned on by petiteness or weakness thinking how I could overpower her. But I don't know maybe most men are.

[Anonymous]

Do you even DO anything except for complain about how bad women are? Get a life dude. It's perhaps gotta do more with how lame YOU are if you keep seeing flaws in women.

[Elsa143]

He wants a servant not a woman.

[TruthBringer]

@Elsa143 How does wanting your partner not to be out of shape and loyal = wanting a servant? Do enlighten us please.

[Elsa143]

@TruthBringer he's blaming everything on one gender for being single. What if she's single by choice?

[TruthBringer]

@Elsa143 That's why you have to take takes like this one with a grain of salt. Takes lilke this one see things from a general perspective. Every woman's reason is different. But he does speak about A LOT of women out there and quite frankly, he is spot on.

[Apope16]

@Elsa143 my 5/9/2021 take will focus on men... but my area is giving advice to women and protecting guys.

[nevernevernever]

Wow, I genuinely think this is the worst take I have ever seen on here, and you've got some fierce competition

[nevernevernever]

Plus, do you even know how much women are supposed to weigh? I'm 5'6" and 150 is the most healthy weight for me to be. I could only be 120 if I was anorexic

[Apope16]

The weight is based on a height of 5ft 5 inches tall. Its an average recommended by the scientific community and heart health experts. The weight differs by height. You are 5ft 6 inches. Thats different. But this take is targeting whales on tinder demanding x, y, z from men

[nevernevernever]

@Apope16 you think an inch makes all that much difference? it doesn't matter what this take is targeting, it matters what it actually says, and it says that to be sexy a woman of 5'5" needs to be between 120 and 135 pounds. I'm pointing out the ridiculousness of that statement.

[Dchrls78104]

This take is partly correct. I don't want a large or overweight woman and in fact the only date a morbidly obese one should be having is with a doctor and a dietitian. I also don't want a rude, bad-tempered, gutter trash girl or one still hung up on her ex or her baby daddy. You have to close the first door, lock it, and throw away the key before you open the second one.
I, however, happen to know some women who are single but for reasons different from the ones you highlighted. Some have no choice in the matter; no man has asked them out although they were pleasant or their prospective date or mate moved on or died. Some are single through religion or career. Some are scared off of relationships by unhappy childhoods involving abusive or cheating parents.

[WowwGirl]

Here's to your Fat, Classy, and FiltersI am the real deal!!!

Can you post the same?

Don't talk the talk, if you can't walk the walk
Mr. pope

[Apope16]

Ask 10 guys if they think puppy filters are cool and sexy. Report back what they say.. grown men. Not boys.

[WowwGirl]

I've never used one don't have to I'm cute without them and over 30

[WowwGirl]

So what else is going on?