Relationships

To get real world answers, ask some REAL WORLD questions!

You want to really communicate? Ask a focused question!



Let's admit it: Many questions are general, vague and repetitive:




  • Does he like me?

  • Why does she always look at me?

  • Should I play hard to get?

  • Why did she dump me without warning?


Unless there's an actual situation presented, we're only guessing when we try to answer such questions.



So, I ask questions that arise from real world situations that I myself, or a friend have confronted. At least four advantages stem from this approach:



  1. The question is focused, and I can provide the relevant details

  2. I can provide more information to answerers when they request that

  3. I can compare the advice I get with what I or my friends actually tried to do.

  4. We can see if the answers get any RESULTS in a specific situation!


In addition, the people answering get the satisfaction of knowing what happened when their suggestions were put into practice. It's a good way to start a Gag 'relationship', where you frequently answer each other's questions and discuss ethem.


For example, if a friend is having a conflict with a valued, longtime buddy, we get good suggestions from fellow members here, such as getting a neutral third party to arbitrate the differences.


In that particular case, while the jury is still out on whether a real reconciliation can be achieved, we all certainly learned a lot from the process of presenting the case to someone removed from all the incidents and past conflicts that contribute to a problem!


I find the most engaging and wortwhile Gag experiences result from asking questions, not from answering them.


So, ask away! Some people almost never ask anything, although they answer a lot. Me, I just asked my 1,000th question, one of maybe 3 people to have reached that level, and increasingly, most of my time on the site relates to my questions.


And even if I don't get a SOLUTION to the problem..hey, life is about enjoying the trip, not arriving at a destination!



To get real world answers, ask some REAL WORLD questions!
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