A man that got burned by a relationship is like an abused dog.

[RiseofArtemis]

As the title says, a dog who got abused is the same as a man that got burned by a relationship. Both will very likely take a long time to trust again or not ever trust again in their life, especially not those who remind them be it man or woman as the perpetrator.

Most men or rather people today are broken on the inside and others never really care to get to know them. Which then leads to them becoming jerks or bad boys.

The worst part is when those people think they can trust someone again only to be burned anew. It never heals and only makes it worse over time where the victims, often those who have a good heart of gold end up with an icy she'll to protect themselves from even more emotional scars. They push others away to protect themselves.

Those signs are quite easy to tell if you know them.

[Loki97]

I use to believe that but in reality the bad boy is the one who never learned from the mistake of being a “good guy” which is good guys finish last. You can be kind it’s not a trait only associated with “good guys” however good guys don’t know how to say no, good guys don’t know how to put themselves first, good guys are needy and desperate never fully over their abandonment issues. So seriously the only one to blame is himself and those who lead him to believe you’re a good guy if you expect your needs to be met just by being good. It’s pathetic.

[Unit1]

And nobody cares. The transformative male loneliness is a one way path to become self-reliant in such a high degree, that it results in "making an island with only you being on it" and others call it toxic masculinity.

Women for the most part don't understand that. They're dealing with their own bubble.

Is it of any surprise, that men turn to Andrew Tate to reshape their perception and mentality in accordance to life as a man is war? Or get hooked on sweet and caring AI girlfriends?

[goodnightgrace]

Once trust is broken it's almost impossible to fix not just for the person who broke it but for the person who had it broken and everyone they try to trust going forward. I wish people took care when in relationships and realize there are ripple effects to their actions and all people are fragile.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Just burned? Doubtful. Abused? That would be an accurate comparison. People who got abused in relationships can react the same as a dog who got abused by its owner, and take just as long to heal or never fully.

[MicahRaine]

Yep ^

[bobalife]

Sad truth, but it goes for anyone who experienced this than gender focus. Sometimes, I wonder if it becomes a form of trauma that’s why it’s hard to get pass it.

[blueonblack22]

Women and society has a lot more sympathy for abused animals then it does for abused men.

[MicahRaine]

Sadly true

[Unit1]

Why am i trying to deny that and fail to do so... rhetorical question.

[msc545]

Absolutely true and ironically very sad. Nobody cares about men.

[MicahRaine]

You're forgetting how sexist we are and how everything is our fault 🤡😂

[blueonblack22]

It all comes down to how society tolerates male vs. female bad behavior. Society has much more sympathy for women vs. men when it comes to “hurt people that hurt people.”

[MicahRaine]

Yep. The double standards are wild.

Fun fact of the day: women are significantly more likely than men (according to the US government) to be perpetrators of and aggressors in domestic violence.

[msc545]

@MicahRaine right. every bad thing that happens is our fault, and we are all molesters and rapists.

[MicahRaine]

You forgot that we're all murderers too

[Flower7]

It’s wrong for someone to take things out on other people just because they’ve been hurt in the past.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women destroying men has become so commonplace that most men (50%+) are no longer pursuing relationships. Add to this the danger to a man in marriage, and you have clear divide. This is what feminism has done to us.

[msc545]

You are not exactly saying something that the rest of the world doesn't already know. This is like telling everybody that water is wet as if it were some big Revelation. Guess what? It isn't.

[captain_voidwalker]

Not realy, people will care about an abused dog. No one will ever care about a man

[Yannae]

How would this be only a man thing?

[RiseofArtemis]

I had my focus more on the mens perspective because I'm a man but I tried to somewhat write it for both sides which is why I wrote "people" as to not disregard others.

[Yannae]

Yeah like having trouble to trust again, scared of the same happening... I think that is a normal feeling to have after abuse.

[msc545]

It is more of a man thing because men have far less social support than women do. When a woman gets burned in a relationship. She has the support of all of her friends and female relatives and of society in general. She is giving time off work. She is cared for by mental health professionals and she is sympathized with to the extreme. Equally important is the fact that for a woman finding another man is a very, very simple thing to do. Sometimes it involves something as simple as picking up a telephone or walking down to the nearest bar.

Men on the other hand, wind up lonely, isolated and hurting. A lot of men often turn to alcohol or drugs to ease the pain. Yes, we have friends and to the extent that our friends are willing to listen. Sometimes things get a little bit better. Remember that the friends of men are often. Just other men and other men or sometimes not very good at listening or sympathizing because they haven't had anybody listen or sympathize with them. So yes, in the face of a big loss or a big betrayal or the collapse of a relationship, it's far better to be a woman than it is to be a man.

[foxsquirrell]

Yeah, you're right.

[strateguy632]

I disagree

[MicahRaine]

You aren't wrong.