Men Can Get Abused Too

[Anonymous]

Whether it's physical, sexual or emotional abuse, we hear about women being attacked and threatened all the time. It is condemned and looked down upon by all of society, and rightfully so, since it is indeed very wrong. But what about violence against men? It may not happen as often, but it's still very real, and I believe it deserves some media coverage as well.

It is especially non-physical violence that tends to be overlooked. It is absolutely not okay to humiliate and embarrass your partner, make them feel worthless or inferior. Mean comments like this can be just as hurtful as physical violence, although it may not seem so. It is even more of a problem for men than for women, since society teaches them to not whine about their problems. I can imagine many won't seek help or even end the relationship purely out of fear of being called a pussy or less of a man.

Threats and blackmail are forms of abuse as well. Women usually get custody of children when a couple gets divorced, and sadly, some of them use it to their advantage. It is unethical, almost disgusting, to blackmail a man by not letting him see his children. Not only does that cause a lot of harm to him, but it also hurts the kids. Either the women who do this are too stupid to realize this, or they are monsters.

Severing all the other contacts the guy has, whether it's done intentionally or not, is horrendous too. Limiting the times he sees his family or friends is just plain cruel. You may think that a ''strong'' man would never let a woman do that, but that's not entirely true. Love is blind. He may care about her so much that he is willing to give up his friends for her. As devoted and romantic as this may seem, the girl should never ever ask this of him.

Anyway, these are just a few examples of abuse that can happen to men. I don't at all mean to hate on women, or say that every single one of us is guilty of this. I simply want to raise awareness of the issue, at least on this site.

#maybeshedoesnthityou

[Anonymous]

Emotional/Psychological abuse that happens towards men is more common than people probably realise.
My younger brother (who's pretty strong willed and outgoing) fell victim to a girl we shall call Satan. (I won't go into details but if I ever meet her I will quite happily kick her down some stairs.) She frequently told him he wasn't allowed to talk to his friends, he wasn't allowed to tell anyone he was seeing her, and just a series of awful things that had it happened to a woman the police would have been called ages ago.

Fortunately he's out of that abusive enviroment and is in a significantly better one.
These issues are just as important as those that happen to women and we definitely need to support and help men in these situations too.

[ADFSDF1996]

In my opinion, all those people that laugh or don’t take male victims seriously are part of the problem. They scoff whenever someone tries to bring awareness to this issue without realizing that they are the main reason why many men’s rights movements try to bring awareness to the issue in the first place.

[GreatestName]

Definitely, by not taking male victims seriously, the problem is dismissed and that's a huge problem. Honestly it's horrible how society cry for women who's been abused but then turns around and laugh at the male victims, rather than showing compassion for both.

[ADFSDF1996]

@GreatestName Exactly, that’s what they call double standards.

[CoffeeWC]

This is a serious issue that needs to be addressed. There are so many people out there that think men can't be victims, or that women aren't able to abuse men.

[Anonymous]

My roomate's last ex was pretty controlling but I never guessed she would resort to violence when he tried to break up with her. He's like 6ft and really well muscled. He sat her down and explained to her that he didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore and when he tried to leave she dug her fingernails into his arm and wouldn’t him go. He tried to remove her hand but she dug her fingernails in even harder. He pushed her off of him, at which point she looked at him like I hit a small puppy because “men aren’t allowed to push girls!”… So she retaliated by punching me him the nose. Blood was getting everywhere and instead of trying to calm her down again he ran out her bedroom and burst into our room where i and my boyfriend were hanging out of course she followed him screaming abuse. My boyfriend restrained his girlfriend and gave him enough time to run out the front door. I ran after him and all I could think of saying, “I don’t care how big you are! You can’t take that abuse and feel fine.” he broke down right there and wept. Glad that bitch is gone he's found someone who makes me very happy.

[Anonymous]

#maybeshedoesn'thityou but she drives the whole family crazy, gets my dad arrested, is manipulating, controlling, and has caused emotional scarring that has split that the family deeply apart. She also doesn't understand what LGBT+ is and hates me for being remotely involved with it, more so than my dad... What am I saying from this? Women can be just as bad. Often, the situation can be worse because society does not see women as equal but regards them as weaker but at the same time, puts them on a pedestal.

[bacca400]

Thanks for this.

One of the worst things is many cities have an official policy to arrest the man in cases of domestic abuse, regardless of the evidence at the site. In other cases, the state charges the man with DV, also regardless of evidence. This is simply crazy wrong.

This is why a lawyer will often recommend a guy bring along a friend with a video camera while the guy gets his belongings out of a house during a divorce or break up. Men are guilty until proven innocent.

[martyfellow]

Yes, from adolescence on, most of us are told we don’t measure up the wealthier guys most women worship...

ANd we’re not even getting into how common physical abuse is; most guys think it would be unmanly to report it, so it isn’t in the headlines.

[10dsw]

I completely agree!

In a way though I do think the blame lies partly on males (not the abused male - but males in general). At the end of the day it is males who are teaching females that this is okay but not standing up for themselves, by complimenting females with empty flattery, by being desperate for sex... I mean come on...

[AynonOMouse]

It usually isn't physical, but more common for a woman to threaten to take away a man's kids, or his house and money.

I think it would be better if the man killed her if she tried to take away his kids. It would take up less of his time to just do the one prison sentence than to work for years and give her everything while she turns his kids against him.

[NerdInDenial]

Even if men are abused, it’s assumed he deserved it. While I appreciate your sentiment, men need to take care of themselves because society is not going to help.

[MelaninDoll]

when the hell are men going to start speaking up. like honestly it's like you guys are ok with these women making you guys out to be the bad guys or do you guys just not care? speak up.

[lord_chilled]

No one cares when they speak up. All these so called "feminists" want to sweep the under the rug, to further their own "masculinity is evil" narrative

[MelaninDoll]

@lord_chilled Exactly, feminism is toxic.

[Mr_Smile]

No one really cares enough because those people just aren't worth the salt. And even if we do, we just get called sexist, woman hating bigots. You can't win with these people, no matter what you do.

[Aynsof]

What point is there in speaking up if the only response if there even is one is just to be told to buck up be stronger don't be such a wimp you probably deserved it or things of that nature

[onlyonce]

I was mentally and emotionally and physically abused. for at least.15 of my 23 year marriage.. and people tend not to believe that it was all true.. I've just had to accept that.. cause no matter what anything that anyone thinks.. is not like getting the belittlement I was receiving before...

[GreatestName]

Thank you for bringing this up, this is a very serious problem, one which many ignore or straight up denies that it happens using the "men can't be victims"-mentality.

[Anonymous]

Society in completely unsympathetic to men who are victimized. If they report it they risk ridicule and shame. I know of a case where the guy hid it for years and the one time he tried to defend himself he was charged with domestic violence.

[Anonymous]

Any controlling, manipulative, possessive, or otherwise abusive treatment will get your ass a swift boot to the curb. Been there once. Never again.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for helping to dispel the feminist myth that "women are victims and men are perpetrators".

[InsertCoolName]

Are there radical feminists who legitamately hate men and thus think men can't be mistreated by women? Probably. Are there feminist who don't think this, absolutely!

[Opinion Owner]

In case there is anyone left who hasn't figured it out yet, the 71 years old "male" use who said Twitter isn't a scientific source is actually a woman. She has been posing as a man here at GAG for years.

[Tuliprose]

Well, really important issue. I have been all through this my uncle suffered all the mental, emotional and physical abuse. i know how it feels i am very close to hin and felt very bad about him

[larswisner]

The last time I almost cried in public i got called a fag. No surprise.

[imwithstupid]

I feel like a pussy just for reading this. going to check my man card and kill something right now

[dogfish]

i know 😢 it's about time someone understands #stopviolenceagainstmen

[vannanas]

fact, about 40% of domestic abuse in USA is woman-on-man, or it was when I read the stats

[Anonymous]

I don't like seeing men getting beat on by women either