Here is the answer to a good majority of all questions here...

[ShesSoSilly]

Whether it's family problems, romantic problems, coworker problems, any type of relationship problems there has always been one simple solution. It may be rephrased or adjusted for a specific question but I think the majority of my answers are basically the same answer. This thing called communication... try it out.

For some reason people fear it, along with it's cousin honesty, when they should be embracing it. There will be hot-heads and just plainly complicated people who cannot be reasoned with. However that's all on them and probably the only exception to not trying to communicate in my opinion.

I see one too many questions on here asking, "What does he mean?", "What does she want?", "Why did they do this?", "Would my spouse like this?"... etc.. it's a never-ending list. Well talk to the person you're asking about, because THEY are the ones that know the answer. In fact I believe they are the only ones that know what THEY think, feel, want, and like... and if they don't I think YOU know them better than strangers online. Trust your instincts.

Now all of that aside, think about communication this way. What is any type of relationship without it? You're left assuming things, wondering to yourself, and so on... Instead of just being an adult and respectfully but honestly saying, " think this.." or "I feel like.." so the other person knows what you want/think/feel. No one can read minds... when you open the communication hopefully they will reciprocate so you know what they think/want/feel...

It's really not as difficult as some people make it out to be. If you happen to find yourself in the company of the aforementioned lol... well acknowledge that there isn't much more YOU can do. That's is on them and if they aren't open to it, not much will happen.

Any type of relationship needs communication. One sided relationships do not work. It takes both people willing to be open and flexible. So when I see questions regarding trivial things like a sex position or hiding your honest feelings I just feel like shaking you.

Communicate. Express yourself. Be respectful so people feel like they can too come to you. Be understanding. Just say what is on your mind... that simple.

[Theguyoverthere]

I deliberately skip over all the questions with "what does he mean" simply because I don't feel like posting "he means" followed by what he said.

[Caren-Field]

Isn't it funny that talking directly to the person involved is often the last thing that occurs to us to do?

[Prof_Don]

Way easier said than done! That's why coming here to "test the waters" is such a common trend. :-D

[Hannah591]

Spot on, however I feel many people know deep down what the person in question is thinking, they just want a second opinion and to see if others think the same thing they first thought. I hope people don't think we actually do know what they're thinking; it's impossible! Most problems of mine are nearly always resolvable within minutes through good communication.

[ShesSoSilly]

I think many people already know the answer to their question too. This site is great for advice sometimes and even just reassurance if that's what one is after. Most anyone's problems can be resolved once everyone involved understands each other, assuming they're cooperative. (:

[auljackoftrades]

I agree, but knowing all the answers and living a life without conflict are two different things. Talking things out helps put things in perspective. Everybody is different. There is no cookie cutter approach to dealing with anyone's feelings. That's why sites like this exist.

[ShesSoSilly]

I don't think there is ever life without conflict really... small or big everyone has something their dealing with daily. I think it's important to be upfront so there can be an understanding among everyone involved. There is also enlightenment in this, as you say puts things in a different perspective when you can look past your own feelings and thoughts.

There absolutely isn't a cookie cutter approach to every problem, but this is a way to start the approaching. (:

[Prof_Don]

Yeah true... but they want to assess the risk factors, and get opinions and experiences about said topic, before "pulling the trigger".

GaG is very useful for that! :-D

[ShesSoSilly]

I agree with you and understand that. However it always still boils down to addressing the subject with the person themselves to resolve it. (:

[Prof_Don]

Yup very true... but nothing wrong with testing the waters beforehand! :-P

[dartmaul15]

well, asking here is testing how hot the antlantic ocean is by taking a swim in lake michigan or something.

[Prof_Don]

@dartmaul15 although what u say is true... for that one person's psyche, "testing the waters" on GaG is a huge deal to them (no matter how useful this "testing of the waters" really is.

[dartmaul15]

yeah. I guess that false sense of security can help them growing the balls to speak with their partner.
Though, i'd say they need help if it's that bad

[JosefK]

not wanting to sound too cynical but a lot of the questions could be answered with... don't worry - in 5 years time you won't even remember the asshole's name..

[ShesSoSilly]

That's kind of funny, and possibly true to quite a few questions. Maybe not the most constructive advice though eh? Hahaha. :P

[luvme56]

Ok... it makes sense... and i dont have very good communication skills! How can i improve them?

[ShesSoSilly]

Work on it slowly... start with something small that you normally wouldn't express and try to just say it out loud next time. Maybe finding someone who is understanding would help with this. You'd feel more comfortable being honest with them. Try to remember that regardless of repressing something or expressing it, you're feeling it. That doesn't just go away. So try to express yourself so things can be understood and resolved.
This isn't an excuse to be rude by any means. Be tactful and think before you speak. Also be mindful of who you are talking to. If you're brutally honest with someone who cannot take honesty very well for example, it's not going to go so smoothly.

[luvme56]

Thanks i will do that!

[Macklin91]

This is what people should be reading on this site.

[Sigma88]

Annnd this just became my favorite take, of all time.

[Findesemana]

true... but then if people choose to ask, nobody has to read...

[Fancy_burger]

The tr-r-uuth has been spoken!