Former US President Clinton's Secretary of State had a strong point. Apart from faith, nothing comes about without hard work.
So why does it matter to strive? Well why shouldn't it? Everything we do requires work/effort expended in some form or another.
but then to be contented in life at least to me requires every person does some work in that end, namely:
- Figure out what pisses you off/annoys you
This is the elemental step. If one has exam stress, then don't cram. If one has the cold, then rest, keep warm, etc. Understand the issue at hand, and then act accordingly. I know I was denied standard knowledge, so I'm finding out how all others got it. I know it was because their families and others in their community told them at whim, so I'm figuring out when/how they are told. The social norm/law was for all to get it, so I'm rectiyfing this anomaly.
- Find steps to get what you want
Once you've outlined the course, you have to figure out how to get what you want. this requires a basic plan, but then figure out what you have to give up in order to get it. I know that to get standard knowledge, I have to buck up, compete, hussle and make my mark. Others competed and got what they wanted, so I can do the same.
- Measure if you're getting what you want
In any plan, one has to measure to see what is required, or if the goal is in sight. If it's to lose weight, then weigh regularly. Check to see calorie/food intake, etc. for me, it's based on interactions. More people now say I'm on the ball, and I seem to get respect for being as such. Then once I get this full knowledge, I'll be in good stead to date and get a gf. I have other stuff/goals covered, but for me these are two principal of many goals I have on a regular basis.
- Once you've acheived your goal, celebrate!
Doesn't have to be anything big, but then go pat yourself on the back, and be proud of your achievement. Recently, I passed my degree, got praise for my social media business, and completed a four mile hike without much difficulty, so I booked a two hour Swedish massage at the local five star hotel.
So like everything else in life, it takes a proactive attitude, and a little persistence and determination. Anything can be done with a little graft and inspiration. :)
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What you're describing is success, not happiness. I suppose one could find ones happiness in success.
yes... and? to be honest, i don't care if you dismiss my post... your dismissal means little... perhaps learn some social skills next time...
@dthdhdghadh Agreed.
I think his social skills are perfectly fine and what he says is true. Your title says happiness, this is more success, not that there's anything wrong with that.
do you know him? meh... i'm not bothered..
i don't think he does, and neither do you, but meh..
I am under the impression that this may have been a gamechanging revelation to you and thus you might defend overzealously against any critique, while as you pointed out frequently, this may come natural to many. Consider that all I said is, you're speaking of a different topic which is fine, it doesn't attack the message or anything. It should just be filed under a different category. I wasn't trying to be rude, I thought it was pretty neutral. Maybe you hoped it would trigger in other such success as it did for you, and hopefully it will so it might have been disappointing to bare your soul like that and get my comment instead.
If your quest really is self improvement and happiness I would recommend you to take a less defensive stance on such things as in the end it's only denying yourself learning experiences.
eh? i'm not bothered... sorry dude, I don't know you, so i don't have to respond well... if you're so clued up/learned as you project, you'd know that...
I guess it only looked like you were upset.
no, just calling you out... and yes it's wrong to be upset... ok..
Calling me out on what? Rudeness?
lololol... ok, so you control how others express themselves and what they can express... OK...
I don't even.
sorry, dude, if you attempt to read me, i read you in kind... it's how the human system works... i don't subscribe to your cultural norms... leave me be now...
Again with the social skills. Is that some defense of last resort?
erm... if you dismiss my point, then i respond in kind tbats all i stated... you seem to think i must grovel to you but meh.. no.
Where do you get the idea that I dismiss your point. I just pointed out that the title would be misleading.
Passive agrressive also? Lololol... I've had my fill here..
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