10 Reasons Why Fighting Is Good For Your Relationship

[Anonymous]

Initially, fighting might not sound like a good thing for your relationship, but believe it or not; conflict is essential in a relationship.

We figure out each other's boundaries via conflict. With these new found boundaries, we get to relax, be ourselves, and be vulnerable with your significant other.

Fighting in a relationship is inevitable and depending on your perspective, it can be positive! Below are 10 reasons why fighting can benefit your relationship.

1. Resolution

Reaching a resolution together shows teamwork, maturity, and your commitment to having the best relationship possible.

2. Character

Fights and arguments can increase your patience, care, and love because you focus on the bottomline – that you care for your partner and want them to be happy, but want your needs met too.

3. We're All Human

Nobody's perfect! We're all human and we make mistakes. Sometimes we get selfish, are cranky, and take things out on each other.

4. Individuality

After you've been together for a while, you get comfortable and assume you know your partner like the back of your hand, but they are still their own person! Sometimes you can tell when they're mad, but sometimes you encounter a new layer of their personality.

5. Intimacy

Fights encourage emotional intimacy and appreciation in your relationship by telling us what is important to our significant other, his/her likes, his/her wants, his/her boundaries, what cheers them up, etc.

6. Peace Of Mind

Letting your partner know how you feel is like a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. If you don't talk to your significant other, your issue with him or her will just eat at you.

7. Trust

Overcoming a fight together will make you both resilient and reassure each other that you have each other's back. "I trust that you didn't know that was going to piss me off.."

8. Communication

Voicing your opinion is important in your relationship because if you don't speak up, your partner will continue to do whatever is bothering you or upsetting you and vice versa.

9. Compromise

Fighting and arguing facilitates compromises in your relationship. There's nothing wrong with the "give and take."

10. Excitement

If you and your significant other constantly agreed on everything, your relationship would be BORING! Challenging each other will help you two get to know each other and if you have a heated argument, the making up is bound to be HOT as well!

I have friends who have perfect relationships with their girls and they never argue or fight about anything. I used to think that was what I wanted until I realized that the yelling, screaming, crying and the sometimes throwing of items was worth it if it made the relationship better. How has fighting affected your relationship?

[Anonymous]

Fighting can be fun, but can also be a sign of unhealthy relationships. It drains you. When you don't have to go with everything your partner does it can also be unsafe at time depending on the temper, previous experiences and the issue you are arguing about. You can learn about boundaries in a peaceful and constructive way, and fight to spice up your love within those. Meaning you wouldn't want to cross your partner on purpose or out of stupidity, right. Not unless you want to hurt them or lose them. Much prefer negotiating to fighting

[Anonymous]

This is why 50% of married couples in the U. S. end up divorcing -- because society teaches us that fighting is normal and to be expected. It's not. Disagreement is normal; even the most perfectly matched couples won't agree on everything. I agree that couples need to learn how to civilly disagree with each other, but fighting hurts relationships. One or two fights a week, and somebody will be filing for divorce after a few years. Worse yet, you may end up staying with someone who thinks you're lower than dirt.

[MaskedSanity]

This is perfect. MHO, if it was available.

[MrLi0n]

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Well I've gotta invite my boy @mistaninja314 here for this 1...
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When I was in a relationship with a girl this is how it use to go down with me all the time due to my popularity lol👇🏽
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I know fights are necessary though to find out your mates boundery levels and their likes or dislikes... Usually I never to show agression or raise my voice unless she does something that cost me a lot of money... Then I raise my voice And storm out lol (all this assuming I had a girlfriend)

[MrLi0n]

@mistninja314 *👆🏽

[mistninja314]

WTF HHAHAH LOLOL #ICANTEVEN finna throw up my food from laughing so hard LOL

[MrLi0n]

lol I had to do it

[meatballs21]

I never fought with my ex, and we were together over ten years.

This take is NOT good advice, fighting is not and should not be inevitable. It should never get to that stage in the first place, you should trust and respect your partner enough to talk things out with them.

[dartmaul15]

I agree. Conflicts and problems will occur and are in that sense essential, but fights... if it escalates into ifghts it just shows inabiliy to comprimise and cooperate to solve the problem.
And no, that does not mean making him appologise for telling truths you don't like (looking at you here, girls. We guys hate that crap) Nor does it mean just dropping it and pretending nothing is wrong.

As said, conflicts and problems are ok as long as you solve it TOGETHER. If you do that they will never evolve into fights.

[hypno-trip]

Wholeheartedly agree

[abzence]

I would prefer the "boring" life over this "exiting" life you claim fighting will create. Not everyone is into drama or constantly needs to be challenged on everything to grow.

With proper communication to begin with it would never have to get to the state of fighting. If you fight a lot then perhaps one should instead question if you are compatible to begin with.

[hypno-trip]

So agree with this

[1GuyOpinion]

I don't think fighting is good for the relationship, but it can help you prepare for the next one. Like if two people never fight or argue with each other, when they DO fight, they not gonna know what to do and might see a side from their SO that they have never seen before and it could be quite shocking.

[dthdhdghadh]

Not much to add, just maybe this:
www.businessinsider.com/formula-predicts-success-of-marriages-2012-12

[EllaC]

I always thought there was something wrong with me because I got bored with nice guys, who always agreed with me. Then I met this one guy that expressed his opinion and we had those heated debates and gosh, I've never felt so great arguing with anyone. And when we weren't arguing, we had those interesting talks. Too bad that has changed...:(

[Anonymous]

fighting was actually what made my first relationship exciting... my boyfriend taught me how to fight lol we'd spare all the time and people thought he was abusing me which is why was thought it was funny because he never tried to hurt me and he actually saved my life a few times... once from drowning and then another time when I was about to get jumped by a LOT of other kids... he was AWESOME

[muspelhem_5]

According to this, successful couples address conflicts before resentment grows too big. And they hold a basic, positive view of their partner.

I don't think poisonous relationships which occasionally erupt into terrible fights benefit anyone.

[muspelhem_5]

Here is the link:

https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-31168242

[tattooedhandfet]

That opener with the lions is awesome!!!

Anyway sometimes it good to get out all that agression. It's all about being open and honest after all.

[Anonymous]

Or instead, have standards in your relationship and avoid dysfunction altogether.

[MaskedSanity]

Nope, can't have that, it makes too much sense.

Some people are so shit at communicating, they'd rather make up bullshit reasons why being jealous and arguing with your significant other all the time is somehow "healthy".

I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and can count on one hand how many fights we had.

I don't see how being shitty to each other is supposed to help with communication, compromise, resolution, intimacy and whatnot. Those things should ALREADY be in place, which would PREVENT any stupid fights from happening in the first place.

And citing excitement as a good reason to fight just makes me think OP is nuts, if they require fighting to keep a relationship from getting boring.

[DaddyRollingStone]

I was with a girl for 3.5 years and we did not have a single fight. Not one. We never raised our voice to each other or took our anger out on each other, and of course we never physically fought each other.

It wasn't boring at all, I miss her a lot actually. For every negative interaction you have with your partner, you should have at least 5 positive ones. If the balance is tipped towards the negative side it will obviously cause disparity.

[gray_sailor]

@MaskedSanity

Thanks for telling this nutcase off. My first wife fought with me bitterly, with what seems to have been the singular goal of raising my blood pressure.

I'm happy to now be married to a woman that does not use me for sport. If there is a fight, that is a sign of a failure that needs to be addressed. It's not an activity like racketball or rollerblading to pursue with your intimate partner.

Yes, fighting can make you feel alive, so can jumping out of an airplane without a parachute.

[MaskedSanity]

@gray_sailor

Exactly. Fighting should hint to people that something is not right with the relationship. If fighting is a regular occurrence, that's in no way a good thing. Hell, people go gray over stress, therefore fighting is actually physically bad for you along with being emotionally draining.

[hypno-trip]

@maskedsanity I agree.

[mason007]

Im sorry but in my past experience fighting makes things worse

[hypno-trip]

I hate fighting. I hate it when my parents fight I hate it when strangers figh I hate it when I fight. I never want to fight with my girlfriend and I don't see how it could help our relationship.

[Nathand]

i know females love to fight, but i rather solve the problem without making another problem.

females don't like cats like me.

[Anonymous]

Or it just breeds bitterness and resentment. Whatever.

[hypno-trip]

Yes this

[MosaicMind]

Lol, the beginning pictures were great 😂😂

[Trini-Rose]

Great information and help :)

[hypno-trip]

So wrong

[Trini-Rose]

Why wrong?

[phanindra554plus]

Really a good. I observed many good points 😊 .

[anon839]

Lion pics 😁👍

[MrLi0n]

That's a damn lie!! It's not like that with me! I'm offended!!!'😁
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Lol

[YourFutureEx]

Funny pics.

[Despondency]

I'm surprised.