She dumped me and told me to leave her alone now she's writing me?

[Anonymous]

Hi.

Long story short we were going out for over seven months and it was just getting serious as in I've really fallen in love with you and want to have a real relationship with you when she all of a sudden got weird and somehow her ex boyfriend got back into the picture and she told him that she was with me and they got back together. Then she was really an ass about everything with me and told me to stay out of her life and that she never wanted to see me again and I told her I was fine with it and I didn't want to see her again unless she decided to come back into my life for good. I meat her last week and we sort of had a little argument but now she keeps messaging me. She wished me a nice weekend and then started writing me last night and then when I didn't respond she wrote that she wouldn't write me again and that she knows I'm angry at her.

What do I do?

A friend told me she was on a hike by herself yesterday and I saw her by herself on a walk in the evening.

I'm confused and I don't know what to do because I'm afraid she's just looking for attention or maybe she's trying to apologize. But I don't want her to apologize I want her back.

I don't know what to do.

Thank you for your help.

[ShyLittleLady0]

I've been in this type of situation with my ex you need to leave ASAP she's playing you she will eventually go back to him if he lets her sometimes you need to take an extra step to move forward keep yourself busy there's more better girls out there who will respect your feelings it's going to be hard but sometimes you have to do what you have to do eventually you will find someone who actually cares about you if you stay chances are her ex is still going to be in the picture later she's not completely over her ex and she probably knows you still have feelings for her so she's using that to take advantage and who wants to compete with past lovers anyway? it's not worth getting mad or sad over

[Asker]

I wasn't competing with him she told me she loved me and for a while I did really feel that from her. I know she has problems with some stuff in her life and she's afraid of losing people. But like I said non of witch is my problem now since she told me to screw myself. I'd want her to come back but only if it's permanent not just playing with my emotions.

[lethal23]

She's playing you but not into you. It's not working out with her guy and she knows she misses you, or her guy and her are over and rather then be alone she thinks it would be easy to reignite things between you. It's the get over your emotions by getting a new guy tactic. You deserve better, she's just looking for a crotch atm. Someone to hold her when she's down and show her attention etc but would very easily move onto the next. These people tend to play a lot of games and like being the victim. Keep the contact to a minimum, you've given her an ultimatum already and that's giving her all the power. Make her work for you or move on. Goodluck.

[Mgoods]

Don't waste any of your time on this lady. Move on.

[Asker]

Why? I really do love her and she had feelings for me but I don't understand the situation.
Unfortunately I'm not the type of person that can just move on.

Do I write her back or do I wait a little longer.
I mean I've decided I'd give her another chance but only if she's serious.

[Mgoods]

Well, if you've made your decision, so be it. Just don't trust that she won't turn around and do the same thing again.

[Asker]

True I agree with you that's why I'm a little cautious.

[loda1994]

if she has done it once she will do it a second time.
i dont want to sound cruel or heartless but you could get back with her and leave her out of your heart. use her and when she dumps you again (yes she will) tell her how you fuckin used her like a free hooker (sorry). problem with that is that you may miss on a great girl if you keep exclusive with that bitch (again sorry)

worst mistake of your life to to think of her the way you used to think of her before she dumped you.

[Argus14]

Ignore it and move on with your life. Best case she just wants to apologize as catch up Which is pretty useless to be honest. She did what she did, said what she said and probably meant all of it. "I'm sorry" doesn't make that go away. Worst case scenario she's not with dude man any more and you're just the airbag.

[Asker]

Well she did say a couple of things and yeah I agree saying sorry doesn't do much. Actions speak loader than words so until she shows me how sorry she is I'm not budging.
I just don't know if I should tell her that or just leave it alone.

[Strider90]

I knew it! Only by reading your questions title I guessed that there is an ex involved in the story. Do nothing mate. Just give it time and if she wants you let HER make a move. And don't have much hope cause these girls never know what they want.

[RPGamer]

Don't even try it. Move on, she's not the one.