She left me, I'm with someone else now, she's all shocked?

[mshaker]

Okay so, 7 months ago she left me for another guy, I chased her for 3 months, begging for her back, she didn't care, she acted like a B****. Now that I'm dating some1 else, she's all worried.

She keeps asking my friends if this new girl is better then her, and what's so good about her. She's acting like she cares now. Why? when she left me for another guy. Why care now? She said to 1 of my friends, " find out things about this girl, cause if me and Mikey get back together I don't want her interfering in our relationship" why does she think she can come back now? I don't get it. She's also really surprised that this girl is 25, cause I'm 21.

Can you guys elaborate of what's going on with her? I don't understand her logic.

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oh I forgot to include something else, my friend Tracey that told me this, she said that she was acting all shocked and worried. But I still don't understand why, when she has a bf. Why care if you left? like am I wrong or no?

[GoodManDave]

She's jealous. I doubt that she really wants YOU (no offense meant to you); I think she's more jealous that you found someone first.

Ha ha. You did well, if this new girl is better to you than the old. You did the right thing (oh, minus the begging. You probably learned your lesson. Don't beg. If you DO choose to beg for a woman back, make sure it's a WOMAN you're begging for (someone special. A wife or something, etc) and not some immature little girl in a woman's body). You did well and that is the best revenge, not that revenge was what you were going for.

This girl is your ex for probably many many reasons. Keep those reasons close to you. Don't badmouth her, don't hate her, but continue to live well and improve your situation, and you'll do fine.

I think she's putting out the desperation feelers. If she tells your friends to tell you that there's a possibility you two might get back together, then you'll be more likely (in her mind at least) to come running back to her.

She wants to win. But it's not so much winning YOU back. She doesn't really care about you, but it's bragging rights that she got you back. She turned a man back from a girl. She stole you. "Ain't she hot stuff now!"

If she happened to be dating someone earlier than you had, and the guy was so spectacular, she wouldn't care. She "won" him. She won. But the fact that you happened to find someone more quickly than her, and probably better quality, now she's mad she dumped you and wants to play games she thinks she can win. Not a great train in a woman you'd want to date.

She's a teen girl. Her logic is most likely pretty screwed up. You're asking for logic with an illogical creature, which is impossible. But I'd like to think I've learned how things work to a degree in the real world.

Good luck in your decisions.

[Dubfire]

First of all, I just want to say good on you for turning the table on her. Secondly I want to say I have to agree with GoodManDave and UnknownFox. This whole time she thought she would never lose you and all of a sudden you've moved on to someone else, she probably started to realise what she is missing and started feeling jealous.

I also don't think getting back with her is a good idea because she has hurt you once and chances are she'll probably do it again. It’s best you try it out with the new girl because it’s a clean slate and there won't be any trust issues. I think GoodManDave nailed it when he said all those things about bragging rights. It's all about her pride and ego now and she's already started digging a hole by asking your friend(s) about your new relationship.

As far as her logic goes I wouldn't even try to understand it because men and women are genetically wired differently anyway. We'll never understand half of the crap they do, if you don’t believe me just go and pick up a copy of Cosmopolitan or Cloe and see how much they interest you or even make sense, besides for the pictures that is.

In case you decide to go against our advice and give her another chance, you make sure she bloody work for it, because after all she’s had many chances before and she missed it all. Good luck and keep the power on your side.

[kcm_05]

lol she's dumb. rerally young I'm guesing or just really immature. she is now realising what she missed out on and instead of berin an adult and talking to you about it she's going through friends.

she essentially knows she messed up and can't handle knowing you are wiyh someone else... maybe I'm getting the feeling that even though she doesn't nbeccessarily want you no one else can have you either... just a thought

[TaurusFemmeFatale]

Her actions are about CONTROL! She wants to know that IF she ever wanted YOU that she could have you anytime she wanted. Your ex actually did you a favor by dumping you. She's very immature. You certainly dodged a bullet. She needs to respect your current relationship status...and back off!

[nique23]

Totally agree . . . lets just hope he sees it the sameway

[UnknownFox]

Sounds like the guy she was with threw her to the curb and now she wants to go back. However I can tell ya girls like that most of the time (not all) are not worth it cus they will leave once again to chase the newest guy that comes along. Perhaps she also just enjoyed that you were acting like a lost puppy trying to get back and stay with her.

Its also odd how she says " find out things about this girl, cause if me and Mikey get back together I don't want her interfering in our relationship" almost like she expects to have you wrapped around her finger should you get back into a relation with her. So I do applaud your choice to not drop your current to go back to her.

[mshaker]

Yea like she thinks she can walk back in anytime she wants. And she is still with this other guy. That's what really boggles my mind, why does she care, if there still together.

[ILoveElectroHouse]

brah don't even trip on her. you found someone new and now she's regrets cheating on you.