Does she regret leaving me?

[Anonymous]

Okay so my girlfriend were together for my entire college days. I am graduated, she is in graduate school. She broke up with me in July after 4 years. She thinks the grass is greener somewhere else I guess. Every time I see her Facebook she is out at a bar with some girls partying. I've heard rumors she's had multiple sex partners since we've broken up too. It's only been 4 months. Yes I was her first bf, first "love" apparently, and I took her virginity. I gave her everything I had. Heart, soul and all my love. I think I created a monster. She was never attractive, or popular or anything. Now she has friends, she's lost some weight and tries to look good.. and it's almost like she's too good for me? I got her to where she is now. Why do girls do this? Will she regret leaving me? I hate her for this, but I still care? Wtf. What next? Does she regret leaving me? I was so good to her, and I can't see anyone even coming close to that...

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She got cold feet. You treated her great, and she wants to maybe get used and treated like crap. Ya you did create a monster because I know I wouldn't treat a bitchy girl that good. She sounds like a reformed loser.

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..Ya that was me re-assuring myself I did the right thing

[Anonymous]

I am sorry for your loss. You are still grieving and that is normal. It is part of the process. It will get better, but it will take time. I have a different perspective for you, one from an older lady who has been around the block...

I dated a boy 28 years ago, off and on, all through high school, and we were each others first loves. He broke up with me a few times to chase other girls, and I knew he cheated at least once, but I always took him back. I describe my relationship with this guy as me being a doormat! I loved this guy with every fiber of my being, so it nearly killed me when we broke up. My parents eventually bought me a plane ticket to London and told me to get away from the situation for awhile.

He moved away, just before I left for Europe, but he had already gotten another girl pregnant. That was the "kick in the pants" I needed to move forward with my life, he was going to be someone's Daddy and I wasn't going to be involved with anything like that. I met a nice guy, got married, had two kids and lived life like I was supposed to do.

I never forgot about my first, and I worked up the nerve to contact him 17 years later. I wanted to see how his life had turned out. He apologized over and over about being a jerk, that made me feel so much better. He had thought about me for years as well, I was the "one" who had gotten away.

So, yeah, if experience teaches us anything, she will wake up someday to the thought that you were "the best", but by then it will probably be too late. I, of all people, know it is hard, but keep living your life, move forward. There will be some other girl out there who will be thrilled to find a man who is so loving, generous and caring. You have a proven track record of being a good, stable partner, that will make you a wonderful catch for some lucky lady.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I may not be the best looking she could get, but I am the best. Period. I hope she does see that someday, and I hope for my sake I can find that other girl.

[Opinion Owner]

You are going to do just fine, Sweetie. When the other girls see that you are no longer sad because you are dealing with your break up, they are going to be lined up to get your number. Thank you for selecting my answer as the best, and in return I am sending you my best wishes for a bright future.

[Asker]

That means a lot :) I've never had a problem getting girls, I've always been told I'm attractive. It's just finding the right one that's the tough thing.

[yoursolutions]

that is most likely her way of dealing with the break up. she's prob trying to make the best of a bad situation/ distract herself etc. as far as your questions go it all depends on why you broke up.

[Asker]

We broke up because basically she wanted to see what else was out there. she's in good shape, and I am kinda chubby... but I am definitely attractive. she just thinks that now since she gets attention from guys on her Facebook and she actually has friends, that she's entitled to an abercrombie model. I took pride in treating her so good, and I just really miss her

[Sexy-Senior-09]

Honestly dude if you want her back, she's going to have to see for herself that she made a mistake. Maybe after she gets played by a couple asshole she'll realize your the one that always treated her right and ask to get back together.

I would maintain contact but at the same time keep my distance...

[Asker]

Thanks bro, we haven't talked in several months unfortunately. I mean she didn't even have the courtesy to wish me happy birthday last week.. I haven't seen her since I returned a movie I had of hers with a card.. In the card I thanked her for being a great girlfriend, my best friend, and the love of my life.. I wished her well.. and haven't heard a word from her since..