Worried that my GF won't like me when I go bald.

[Anonymous]

I'm going bald, and I've accepted that I am... but I'm worried my GF will ditch me because of it. I've told her - warned her even - and yet she tells me she doesn't care. But I keep worrying, because she mentioned how this bald guy (an actor) is hot "even though he's bald" ... I'm super worried because I love her so much, even if she has a lot of issues like insecurities and that she used to cut herself.

[Orion1084]

Honestly, I think you're making a bigger deal out of this than it really is. I've read your responses to other posters, so I understand your mentality on this issue.

Add to the fact that I started going bald around the same age as you (about 17), and I can sympathize. You said that you've come to terms with that, but whether you realize it or not, I don't think you really have.

Trust me when I say that I'm not trying to attack you, please, but if you obsess over the possibility that your baldness will cause her to leave you, you may end up with a self fulfilling prophecy.

She said that she doesn't mind, and you need to find some way to accept that. If you keep worrying about it, she's liable to pick up on your fears, and consider it an insecurity. Women like confidence, and if she has to deal with what she considers to be your insecurities, then that, not your baldness, may be what ultimately pushes her away.

She's with you because of who you are, not because of your hair. When she says that she doesn't mind you going bald, then she's either telling the truth, or she's lying. If she's lying, which I doubt, then there's not much you can do about it, anyway. Plus, If she's that shallow, you'd be better off without her.

Like I said, though, I doubt she really is that shallow, and is likely telling you the truth. If you can accept that, you'll be much better off. If you can't, then you could potentially push her away. I'm afraid that you're your own worst enemy in this.

I wish you the best of luck when trying to get past this, and I urge you to accept that she cares about you, whether you have a full head of hair or not.

[Asker]

I have come to terms with it since I've shaved my hair off.

[Orion1084]

Well good, that's a very healthy attitude. Now you just need to accept that she'll be perfectly fine with it, and you'll be all set. :)

[DodgersGM]

I think you're worrying way too much about this.

She's told you that she doesn't care, so don't you kinda have to take her word for it? I mean, what else can you do? You can let these thoughts run wild in your head and cause you pain if you want to, or you can just believe her. If she did decide to leave you for it, oh well, what can ya do?

To be honest, I kind of wonder if you're not struggling with the hair loss yourself. If you felt more confident about it I doubt you'd be this concerned, ya know?

Lots of women actually like bald men, and even more women wouldn't allow the hair on your head to determine whether or not you're datable or worthy of their love. That's generally not how the female mind works, believe me.

Me personally, if I ever lost my hair I'd just shave my head and move on with life. I shaved once anyway (a bunch of us shaved our heads in support of a cancer-stricken aunt) and I thought I looked pretty damn good. LOL. I'm sure that once you adopt that attitude fully, you won't worry so much about what your girlfriend might or might not do. You'll feel better about it and you'll stop seeing this as a reason that she might leave you.

My feeling about it would be that hey, if she wants to leave you over the amount of hair on your head, then good riddance to her! Wish her luck, and you'll move on to find someone better. :-)

[Asker]

For the last time... I'm not insecure. Would someone insecure shave all his hair off, no? ... Just like you aren't insecure about the possibility of losing it.

I'm worried about losing her. You said 'lots', but that's not all - ok?

[DodgersGM]

If you truly felt good about it then I think you'd just let the chips fall where they may. That's just my gut feeling on the topic.

Why should she leave you anyway? She loves you, she thinks your attractive, and she's straight up told you that she doesn't care. What more can you ask for?

And to play devil's advocate, let's just say that she does decide to leave you over this. So what? It's her loss, you'll move on and find someone better if that were that to happen.

Sure, not ALL women will date a bald guy. Just like not ALL women will sate a short guy, or a shy guy, or a guy who wears glasses, etc. The point being, you are what you are, and if thus one leaves you for being who you are then consider it a favor. You'd find someone better for you anyway.

[DodgersGM]

*date a short guy

**this one

[TheEquestrian]

If you keep worrying like that, then she will leave you. If she said she doesn't care, trust her. If she really loves you, she won't care how much or how little hair you have.

[Anonymous]

You should go to the doctor, there is a gel cream that helps it but it is a slower process. There is also a quicker one which is a needle. It helps you grow your hair back.

[Asker]

I told you I don't care about losing my hair... I care about losing her.

[knotme]

Sounds like you are the insecure one, and you need to come to terms with it.

[Asker]

I'm not - honest. I knew I was going bald ever since I started to lose my hair at 17!

You girls would never understand it really - baldness. A lot of women find it super unattractive, a lot of women would call it a deal breaker, and a lot of women will dump a guy because of it.

[knotme]

We aren't talking about "a lot" of women. We are talking about your girl, and she haha stated and even shown you a male actor that she finds attractive; so that means your insecurities are getting in the way of trusting her.

[Asker]

Sorry, but you've got it all wrong here. I'm not the insecure one.

[findingdreamland]

Your fear is illogical. You will not lose her. She said she does not care.

[Asker]

We'll see, won't we?

[findingdreamland]

I don't think she refers you while talking about a bald actor. Because it is true, baldness doesn't suit everyone. She meant generally. No need to worry.

[Asker]

How is one bald actor generally? I've told her I'm going bald, she tells me she doesn't care, but then why deny that I am... she says "No you're not lol you got plenty of hair"

[findingdreamland]

She is nice and kind. What did you expect? She should have said, yeah you gonna be very bald?
You are just complaining. If you really want , go and have treatment. There is a solution for it.

[Asker]

There's is no long term treatment for baldness. I don't have 30 grand to spend like Wayne Rooney to get an obviously fake head of hair.

You girls don't understand this shit do you?

[findingdreamland]

Easy man
easy.
I understand if you let me. But you are just attacking.

Man she loves you this is why she is with you. Who cares hair if you really love someone.

[Asker]

Answer this honestly then: Would you keep dating a guy who was going bald?

[findingdreamland]

I honestly would date him, if I loved him. I would not care the hair thing.

[Asker]

So you're telling me if you didn't love him but were dating her you would dump him because he's bald?

[findingdreamland]

No. I would not date him already. Not because of baldness. I date people I like because.

[Asker]

HA see... if this guy had a perfect personality for you, everything you've ever wanted from a guy, but he was bald you would dump him because of the lack of her hair on his head.

[findingdreamland]

LMAO with that description I would make, him mine. I would not let him, go to be honest. Who cares hair hahahahaha

[rjroy3]

Honestly, if you own it and just shave your hair you will be better off. Instead of being the guy that's balding, you'll be the bald guy. I'm sure your girl prefers hair, but it's not the most important thing to her. So trust her when she says it doesn't matter.

[AlisonMcCall]

If she loves you she won't leave you, and it seems to me that she does. So no worries! Besides, she said that she doesn't care.

[Uniquexc]

If she doesn't like you for you then it was never ment to be :) because people's appearance don't make them... They make them.. :)

[Anonymous]

Go to when of those hair clinics where you re grow your own hair the faster you do it the better the results. I started to notice mine when I was 19 but waited till 25 to do anything. my hair looks good but it would be awesome if I'd gone at like 20 .

[Asker]

I don't have the sort of money they ask for... and for the millionth time I don't care about losing my hair.

[Opinion Owner]

it's only a grand and I didn't read you're comments etc I only read the title. No need to bite my head off only trying to help you keep your girl. Damn untwist your panties man

[Asker]

Hair transplants just aren't worth it... Wayne Rooney spent 30K on his and look how bad it looks now.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not a hair transplant man. they give you a pill that you take daily called finasteride. you apply minoxiidil to her scalp daily. you use some shampoo that they give you daily. and take some paw paw capsules daily. that's it. your OWN hair grows back NO transplant at all. A years supply is a grand.

[Opinion Owner]

your not her *

[Asker]

Finasteride fucks with your system man... it takes away DHT which is formed from a gene you inherit... if you take finasteride there is a HUGE chance you'll get some realyl nasty side effects, which I did get when I took them.

You need some research.

[Opinion Owner]

DHT is the bald gene. I've done research. I don't get any side effects you only take 1/8 of a tablet. DHT is what makes men go bald. Been taking it for years no side effects at all. See a DR every 6 months to check

[Asker]

It's not the bald gene... it's the chemical that causes your hair to thin... whatever dude...

[Opinion Owner]

It blocks the pore the tablet helps reduce it by 60 % this is formulated for hair loss this is made in Australia not the states. I have no side effects and patients in tests only 1-2% showed side effects. This is regulated properly it's not just buy it off the net dude lol

[Prettygurl12]

If you keep stressing about it your baldness won't be what makes her leave you. It'll be your insecurities.

[Asker]

As I've told everyone else... I'm not insecure about my baldness... I've shaved all my hair off... I'm just worried about her and what she'd do.

[Prettygurl12]

Well if you're already bald and she's still with you... I don't understand the worry.

[Asker]

Do you even know what bald means... jsut because I've shaved my hair off doesn't mean I'm bald lol...

[Prettygurl12]

All it means is that it won't grow back. I don't see the problem. Seriously.

[Asker]

Go bald yourself then... come back and tell me what's so wrong about it then ;)

[Prettygurl12]

You seem super insecure. Like I said. It won't be your baldness that'll drive your girl off. It'll be your insecurity.

[Asker]

Lol wtfever...

[Anonymous]

If you're bald you may as well just call it quits until you're over 30 and women get desperate to marry.

[internet_guy]

dude she cares about you not your hair

[Asker]

I jolly well hope so...