Is it weird that my boyfriend and I never call each other?

[Regis-Snick]

We've been in a serious relationship for over seven months now, and not once have either of us called the other just to talk. We text regularly, but even when we are away from each other over school breaks because we live in different states, he doesn't try to hear my voice. Over the summer, I asked if we could video chat, and we did a couple times, but it was always awkward because we didn't really know what to talk about. Now I don't want to be the one to ever ask for him to initiate some form of communication other than texting because I feel like if I did, he would just call me out of reluctance and not because he actually wants to hear my voice. He called me on Christmas just to tell me to have a good day (and because his mom told him to), and I told him he doesn't need a special occasion to call me. He said "I'll remember that," but I still doubt he will ever call just because he sincerely wants to. Any suggestions?

[kelseyk]

I wouldn't say that it's "weird". I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 and a half years and we texted constantly, but there were only a handful of times that we called just to talk and have a conversation. Our relationship was fine, but we also saw each other almost every day at school and heard enough of each others' voices in person.

Basically, a relationship is not sustainable only by texting, because let's face it, as great as texting is, it isn't everything. You need to hear each others' voices regularly, whether it's in person or on the phone. If your chats are awkward, you might not know what to talk about because you already pretty much covered it while you were texting. Try not talking for a day or two and then calling each other. In that time, you should have plenty to talk about. Ask each other questions and listen actively. Ask about his day and tell him about yours. Also, let him know your frustration in this situation so you aren't just holding all your upset feelings inside and he isn't wondering why you're upset.

With practice and communication on both your ends, it will get easier. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

No. at least you're not like one of those melodramatic girlfriends that's ready to break up with their guy if they haven't heard from him within 24 hours. you have your life he has his. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you have to constantly hear from each other.

[Blondiee2014]

Suggestions? Talk on the phone it's weird your not missing each other lol.

[Regis-Snick]

I miss him like crazy and I tell him that almost every night, considering we haven't seen eachother for about two weeks now. We also spent the whole summer apart and never once talked on the phone. Always just texting. =/

[Blondiee2014]

Why don't you keep instigating it until it doesn't become awkward?
It's awkward for everyone but you keep doing it and it become easy!
My gf is very shy in general and seriously socially nervous and suffers anxiety, we have been together 3 months and talk for at least a hour a night as she lives the next town across from me, start calling him.