When a guy calls you too emotional?

[Anonymous]

My crush called me that :( Is it a really REALLY bad thing? :|

[kaylaS91]

So long as you don't have borderline personality disorder or anything to that degree, it's fine. I wouldn't say it's necessarily a bad thing, as more often than not females will be more influenced in their actions by how they feel than males.

I don't know how long you've liked this crush, like if it's a new guy or if you sort of have a thing with him. I know when my boyfriend said I'm being a bit emotional once, I said that's just how I am, that I try to keep it all in check but if sometimes I crack, he has to understand that's just the way I am and not take it personally. As silly as it is, but I found explaining what one would think to be obvious, that sometimes I get a bit overwhelmed with everything, helps a lot when guys seem to start blaming themselves for something they took no part in.

[Asker]

He does not even know I have a crush on him. He is my closest friend actually.

[Azara]

It is t bad in itself. I know some really emotional guysso and they are very creative and charming. But he seems to have a problem with it bc he said "too" plus I'm suspicious as he just attacked your character without actyally providing information.

1 he's attacking you he's not saying it as a positive thing

2 he's keeoing jt ambiguous so you dk even know what he means causing you to have doubt

3 he's not mature enough to discuss things with you openly

If you'd done something that bothered him he could have talked about it instead of just ignoring it then attacking your entire character.

Tbh he's the one that sounds volatile. not upstanding and honest at all.

[Asker]

I don't know what's up with him. The only incident I can remember is wjen we fought, I cried. But he avted equally hurt and overreacted but didn't cry (obviously.) But if that's the case then it bugs me since he is my closest friend and am I supposed to act like a stone?

[Azara]

Crying diesnt mean anything. It's saline coming out of your eyes it cleans away debris and helps prevent infection. Why it happens to some oeople while upset and not others no one actually knows.

The fact that you guys are having an argument means everyone is upset. That's what an argument is.

The fact he can't handke acknowledging that in arguments people- including him- get upset just indicates he's very immature.

The fact he's ok arguing but will hold any reaction you have against you while ignoring his own involvement in causing that reaction along with his own reaction means he's a shit fruend. And ir he's hiding something.

His behavior is suspiciously defensive offensive and antagonistic.

The fact you cried just meant you had an honest reaction. Him getting angry at your crying is covering up other stuff and it's dishonest. He used your tears to deflect whatever it is he was pushing away from his ken mind.

[Azara]

It is not obvious that he did not cry. Plenty of guys cry plenty of women fint.

Anyhiw furst if all what was that fight about and how did it end.

As fir when he said you're too emotional was that during the fight ir another time?

You're focusing too much on if what he said means he he thinks badly of you. This is causing you to leave out all sorts of detail that can provide insight into why he's attacking you in the first place. Which by the way is not good and is an " emotionally charged" act on his part. It's nit bad bc it's emotional it's bad bc he's attacking your character when you're not even from what it seems doing snything wrong.

When you fought WHY did you fight. Who started it. How was it resolved.

When he saud you're too emotional. What preceded that statement. What did you say in return. What followed from that interaction.

This is what I'd like to know. It'd help provide a picture of what might be going on.

[Azara]

I went to comment on a post and evidently I'm blocked. so I'll just say what I was going to say there, here:)

@ California

saying things you don't mean is very different than saying things without thinking... Usually when you're not thinking is when you say what you mean. What he says indicated he has a problem with her and I think with them being friends it's significant bc if he's going to hold who she is against her it makes him a very poor friend. She has a right to know what he's referring to and if that's something she thinks is worth pushing through or not.

One can always choose to ignore something and decide itd not relevant. What's the harm in finding out what it us first... It's almost like people are afraid to really know so they pretend it doesn't matter. If something isn't a big deal then asking about it shouldn't be a big deal. But ultimately it's how you choose to relate to people.

[Azara]

Continued-

Obviously since she asked the question shed the sort of person who likes to understand where friends are coming from. That may not be you. But since she asked the question bc she was wanted some insight, it seems peculiar and dismissive that your contribution is to tell her to ignore it bc no one means anything.

How do you decide when someone means something vs doesn't mean anything? Is it when you like what they say it is "trye" and when it doesn't suit you they must not have meant it... how could you avoid complete breakdown in communication?

[Asker]

Uh... if you really wanna know what was the problem about, can I message you?

[Azara]

Sure. My message box is open. Feel free:)

[emmabee11]

Your feelings are never a joke honey never... i had a friend who used to say i'm "over-dramatic" and that i should start playing a violin just for showing how i truly feel, your crush doesn't sound too great at all when he wants to make you feel guilty for showing how you feel... we all have emotions that vary so some of us are just more emotional than others, we aren't the same, so he should respect how you feel no matter what, there is nothing wrong with being more sensitive than others so don't let them make you feel your the problem.

[emmabee11]

Don't listen to most people on here ether... people jsut say anything but assume that what a person is saying about you must be true... it's not too great at all... they shouldn't be saying anything to anyone because they are essentially makng you feel your the problem automatically, these people don't knwo nothing about emotions, nobodies feelings no matter how emotional is a joke and people should stop treating them like a joke and be considerate of others. I can be a sensitive person too but it doesn't mean what i'm feeling isn't real and that there isn't something real behind it.

[Asker]

I can't change that part of me. I have accepted being too emotional a long time ago. But I was never on a crying fest. He has the capacity to turn as sentimemtal as I. I agree that once we fought, I cried but he acted equally hurt and overreacted without the tears part.

[emmabee11]

So he's saying you can't hurt and cry yet he can? and he says he doesn't cry? what a load of bull... he's human... so if he says he doesn't cry he's telling you total lies... he doesn't sound great at all when he makes you feel expressing your emotions isn't right... yet he's aloud to get annoyed? he's jsut tryting to make you think your the problem all the time when clearly by doing this he's the problem.

[emmabee11]

How can you ever be yourself with him when he just makes you feel like he doesn't even know you and never will? if he is to be with you he needs to accept everything about you and learn to be nice to you, if he can't accept everything in the package then he should go find some other bum who will let him boss her around.

[The_Eternal_Emperor]

Everything has a limit. Take alcohol for instance. When you ingest too much, you get sick, and nobody likes being sick. It's the same way with emotions. There is a time and place, and a limit, to how emotional a person can be before it becomes detrimental to social relationships, and more specifically, your body.

Being emotional drains your energy. That is why people who are emotional are also oftentimes tired and weary. If you are so emotional that you cry a lot or or get upset easily, you will quickly drain your body's energy reserves.

Aside from that, not many people enjoy being around emotionally exhausting people.

[Asker]

But I never act like a girl who is always ready to cry. In fact, he is sensitive as well--sometimes more sensitive than me.

[Azara]

Lol no. People who release emotions are healthier it's just annoying fir other oeople who are repressed with high blood pressure.

Emotions dint exhaust you nor do they give you energy. They are simply the expression of being stimulated. You either release or get eaten. They will exist either way.

Now there can be positive and negative outlets but neither creates ir destroys emotion.

When you're angry you can go running or rock climbing ior do intense physical labor. Or negatively you can do drugs drink punch someone break the law or destroy rekationships by accusing other oeople fir being emotional bc it makes you sick about yourself so the only way you can feel distant from it is to project.

Either way everyine has emotions. To say a person is emotional is a completely redundant statement. To say too emotional is subjective and nebulous.

No one even bothered to ask her exactly what he was on about before pouncing on spilt milk burnt fries and crying marathon

[Anonymous]

Too emotional is a bit weird. You can be too emotionally sensitive or volatile, I spose that's what he meant.

[Asker]

Yeah, emotionally sensitive.

[crazyincalifornia]

We all say stuff without thinking about it.
That's the dynamics of being vocal.
I wouldn't read too much into it.
If everything else is in order, I probably ignore 80% of what my guy says, and I know he does the same thing with me.
Love him, sex him like a whore, and ignore the BS.
(Did I get too graphic) Sorry! Comes natural to me. :))

[Asker]

Lmfao XD We are just friends so sex is not in the equation. hehe.

[crazyincalifornia]

Oh!
I guess when you said crush I jumped conclusions.
:))

[findingdreamland]

If someone can't embrace you as you are, and label you, I don't think they are the *right person *
Just be yourself, if this makes you emotional. Then hell yeah! That is great because that is you, nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

Lol I am on a crying spree but I don't get how some guys can expect a girl to not cry if she's hurt. I thought that he was the only one who acvepted me the way I was, but I guess I was wrong.

[R3d_Anonymous]

Don't lose sleep over it. We are all different. I am sensitive and emotional too and I love that about myself because it makes life so much more fulfilling.

[Asker]

I love that about me, too but I have generally read that it's wrong to be called that.

[cavmanier]

You're not too emotional. What he probably meant was he's bothered by certain emotions. Not all guys will feel that way though.

[Asker]

I don't know what emotions he is talking about. I have always tried to be a good friend and that's all.

[cavmanier]

It's hard to know what's going on based on that. Having emotions isn't bad though. He may not be a good fit for you.

[Asker]

I was never on a crying fest. He has the capacity to turn as sentimemtal as I. I agree that once we fought, I cried but he acted equally hurt and overreacted without the tears part.

[cavmanier]

Crying isn't bad. He's just not being sympathetic to you. A lot of people are pretty emotional unintelligent.

[Hello_Lemonz]

It's not the greatest thing to say...
It's probably either a statement or an insult..
Definitely not a compliment...

[Asker]

I know it's noy a compliment. Yeah, I am too emotional. But he is an emotional person ad well.

[tinyclit]

You're okay. Emotions are what make us human. Buck up and find another guy.

[Asker]

I fill find another guy but uh... it bugs me that he said it as we are close friends.

[tinyclit]

You're close friends? Then maybe he wasn't as serious about it as you think. Have a frank conversation with him about it. Tell him how you feel about what he said. Tell him how you feel about him.

[Asker]

But still... if he has said something like that then it might mean that he won't ever see me as anything more than a friend who is too emotional.

[Overactivetits]

you're probably too emotional.

Men say what they mean. Women say what they want you to think.

[Asker]

Yeah I know that. But why is it a bad thing?

[Azara]

Po what do you mean " yeah I know"

You're agreeing that all men say what they mean and all women say what they want you to think?

@over. meaning what you say doesn't mean what you say has any meaning.

Like right now you may truly belueve what you're saying yet it diesnt actuslly mean anything. There's no such thing as one way of talking and there's no such thing as women ir men as a single thinking group. Nor dies any one person represent billions of other people.

Why didn't you even ask her about what happened? Why were you do eager to just dogmatically conclude someibe said something so therefore that must be the case. People lie and are confused themselves all the time. just sounds like you're more intersted in proving something about yiursekf rather than trying to look at her situation.

Also side note. If you think men just tell the truth then you have successfully been manipulated by the men in your life.

[Littlett25]

It's bad. I doubt anyone would call me that though.

[Asker]

Why is it bad?

[Littlett25]

They just don't like it if you get emotional a lot. It makes them uncomfortable. Aaaand I forgot what else I was going to say...

[Asker]

Lol it's okay. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Meaning you probably cry over burnt fries... is burnt fries really something to CRY about?

[Littlett25]

But... but... Fries? 😭

[Opinion Owner]

If you're 14 and don't want people messaging you about their sex lives, why are you on here? The posts on here are extremely disturbing... and I've had to report a couple, due to underage people on here

[Asker]

No. I don't cry over that. Lolol xD

[Littlett25]

Because not all questions on here are about that stuff

[nert73]

If he says you're too emotional, that isn't good.

[Asker]

But I don't get it why.

[nert73]

If you're moody, cry a lot, get upset easily, things like that. That could definitely be what he means by too emotional.

[nert73]

It isn't good to be called TOO emotional because it usually means you chat handle your emotions very well.

[nert73]

Can't not chat

[Asker]

I know I have some flaws but so does he. He acts too cold at times. But beong good friends, I accepted it and thought that he would accept me as well.

[nert73]

He should accept you. If he doesn't, either leave him or get him to accept you.

[Anonymous]

Either you're too emotional or he's just a douche.

[Asker]

I AM too emotional.

[Anonymous]

It gets annoying. Very annoying.

[Asker]

What does get annoying?

[mutedaisy]

Not a good thing.

[Asker]

Why so? :(

[mutedaisy]

"You're too emotional" That statement has been made negative, by the word "too". The definition of too is also "to a higher degree than is desirable, permissible, or possible; excessively."

[mutedaisy]

Whoever down voted this is too emotional XD

[Asker]

Lol. But being a friend he should accept me the way I am.

[mutedaisy]

Guys do not think the same as girls. Most guys were taught not to show emotion. They were told real men do not cry, which is why they kind of freak out if we start crying and don't know how to deal with it. It's weird,

[mutedaisy]

We have to learn how to work around it...

[Asker]

I am highly empathetic. When I put myself into someone's shoes, it makes me too emotional. When I learn something bad, I cry. It doesn't mean that I am weak. It's just I am highly sensitive. I don't think I will change this quality of mine even a little for a guy. He gotta accept me the way or I am.

[mutedaisy]

I get wanting him to accept you, but he won't want to come around you if you are crying. It makes guys uncomfortable. If you aren't willing to try and not be so emotional for him, why would you want to keep him as a friend? You don't seem like you want to put extra effort in.

[Asker]

I would want to put efforts in altering the things that are not good in me. Being too emotional is not a bad quality as per me. It's not like I cry all the day. But being friends means accepting a person's personality. Being emotional is a part of my personality. I am not hurting anyone by being emotional. If some guys can't deal with someone's emotions, I guess being their friends is just enough instead of changing myself as per his standards.

[mutedaisy]

So you accept that crying women make men uncomfortable?

[Asker]

It might make some men uncomfortable.

[mutedaisy]

Okay, well you take care._.

[atomique]

Its a bad thing.

[atomique]

For him at least.

[Asker]

But why so?

[atomique]

It could mean drama. Some guys really hate drama.

[Asker]

I don't do drama at all. If I won't show emotions then he has a problem. If I would show them, then he has a problem. :|

[Ihav2fart]

Get a new crush.

[Asker]

:( What's wrong with being called that? I like emotional people.

[Ihav2fart]

Nothing wrong with that, your crush doesn't like it so move on.

[Asker]

I can't move on like that. We are good friends as well.

[Ihav2fart]

You could move on and still be friends?

[Asker]

But it has changed my perception for him. I thought that he accepted me the way I am. But I guess, not.

[Keyspirits]

Lol don't have to be harsh on ma Anon cutie lye dat ;P