Why would a guy get emotional when he says "I hurt you" ?

[Sumcool]

[TommyMountainFigure]

Can you provide some context please, as that comment is somewhat ambiguous. Did he deliberately hurt you and felt bad afterwards? Did he accidentally step on your toe?

[Sumcool]

he gave me a lift when we met for the second time and had a deep discussion then i got attached and made it too obvious i liked him then he would avoid talking to me unless noone else was around mainly the young people apparently his mum didn't matter i also saw him watching me with his friend which i asked about. he said he doesn't talk to the girls every week but never approached me to say hello. it could be because he's 4 years younger and it could be seen in controversial in a church setting

[TommyMountainFigure]

Sorry, I meant can you elaborate on how exactly he hurt you? Or do you mean he cried because he thinks he ignored you?

[Sumcool]

he would ignore me most of the time unless we bumped into each other, slow texts, say he doesn't talk to the girl when i always see him talking. he didn't cry but he conveyed a lot of emotion for someone that seemingly doesn't care. he didn't use to be like this once the rumours spread about me and him he changed maybe because of the age and he didn't won't anyone to think there was something between us so to do that he would avoid me. but he would also maintain prolonged eye contact every time we spoke and when i hugged him at the waist it lingered and he also held me at the waist but then he darted off

[TommyMountainFigure]

He sounds like a terrified puppy. Instead of trying to work him out, because I think that is a lost cause. How do you feel about him now, and what would you like to happen, if anything?

[Sumcool]

im not going to that place again so i won't see him. i guess i wanted to know if he liked me or at least cared

[Sumcool]

i told our mutual friend i liked him and that it was abit creepy on my behalf but she seemed to ignore my comment or not make much notice of it but invited me to an event he would be at so not sure about that

[TommyMountainFigure]

I would steer well clear of him if I were you. Not that I think he is dangerous, but if you ever watched a horror movie as a kid from behind the settee, and poked your head out occasionally? That is how I picture him when he talks to you!

[Sumcool]

no hese not creepy i think he just cares about his reputation

[TommyMountainFigure]

I keep explaining myself badly. I didn't mean he was a horror show. I meant he is frightened of you, and that is what I find creepy. Why would anyone be so in awe of someone that they are nervous to talk to them?

[Sumcool]

because im 4 years older and it seems weird in conservative circles. gossip escalates so i think thats why he was avoiding me

[Sumcool]

i just want to know if he avoided me and he feels bad is it because he liked me but just had to that because he cared too much about what others think hence being emotional

[TommyMountainFigure]

I think you have summed it up the same way as me. He liked you, but was nervous around you, and probably scared of how others perceived him too.

[laly520]

1 he regrets hurting u
2 he is being a manipulator

[12karen]

Bc he's aware of what he did and he feels bad about it

[Sumcool]

does that mean he cares or likes you or just feels bad