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I'm in the same boat, possibly pregnant, 10 weeks but hpt won't say. I'm 43, I want and can care for a child. These are the questions I asked myself:
1. Do I want him to have a say?
2. If he wants to be involved, how much do I want him involved?
3. Do I hope for a relationship with this man?
Answer 3 first, it was a one night stand because I wanted sex, not a relationship of Amy kind, with him. Answer 1. I don't know him well enough to trust him with my child, my first responsibility is to my child. Answer 2. I decide this, no one else, I don't want him suddenly deciding he wants to be in the delivery room, or calling me his baby mamma or complaining to anyone about child support.
Also I have talked to him in the following week or two after we hooked up. I did mention I though he shot blanks (he didn't even a dress this). He knows damn well there is a chance Im pregnant as we didn't use any contraceptive method. If he really wanted to know if a baby was on the way he'd keep track of me a little, keep in contact at least text to give me an opening just in case. He's avoiding me, he hopes I'm not pregnant and that tells me he wouldn't want to know. Fine, I don't need the complication and I can raise a baby just fine without him. He's a sperm donor, sperm donors don't have "rights". Plus, he might be a real jerk and a bad dad. No dad is better then a bad dad. Forget the cushion money. That's bs.
He does have a right to know and you were both big enough to have sex that night, you are both big enough to raise a child and all the responsibilities that come with it. Life doesn't deal you all the cards you want sometimes and may not fit into your plan but you take it as it is and deal with it. If y'all were so concerned about pregnancy you should have been protected. I know it's probably been preached a million times but all this is really avoidable if you just wear protection.
Well if you want your child to have father and somebody to help take care of it with you, then I suggest you tell him. But if you're confident that you can take of the child on your own and that it doesn't need two parents then You don't have to tell him. But I think the best option is to tell him because it's best for him to know even if you don't want him apart of your kids life
There's no decent way to tell a guy that he got you pregnant, you pretty much are stuck with just blurting out 'I'm pregnant'. You can tell him over a phone call if you can't meet up right away but telling him in person is best. It'd be good to have some questions answered before the talk, so you can properly think about them and so you aren't fumbling if/when he asks them (How sure are you that I'm the father, are you keeping it, what kind of role do you want me to have, should we move in together, etc).
He needs to know about the child, and you need to know if he will support you and the child. I'm pretty sure he won't be willing or able to give you and the child the required support.
So, do you still want to keep it?
Chosing to keep the pregnancy is also choosing to depriving yourself of a chance to raise a child under much happier circumstances with someone who cares for you and the child.
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He's mature enough to take responsibility?
You cannot make that assumption based off of someones age.
No one wants to be pregnant by a one night stand.
The fact of the matter is, you have to tell him.
I hope he is man enough to stand up to the plate and support you.
There really is no way to say it... than just to be out with it.
It's going to be a really big shock.
You need to tell him it's his child too. He helped make it. Also whether he wants to take care of it or not he needs to take responsibility.
But hopefully he wants to be in the child's life anyway. If not at least you have some cushion money.
You need to tell him, because he's as entitled to knowledge of his child as you are.
You're his pee stick, in a sense.
He has the right to know. Whether he will man up and be there or bail is his ultimate decision. No child should grow up not knowing who their dad is or was.
You should tell him. What he does with the information is solely on him. But he can never say that he didn't know if you tell him.
Just because he's 27 doesn't mean he will take responsiblity lol
I mean he had sex with a 19 year old girl Haha
Tell him
what doesn't kill you makes you stronger
He has a right to know and you have a right to the help a father can give and your child definitely should have the opportunity to know both parents.
If one night stand would tell me she's pregnant, I'd get a ticket to another city or country.
You can tell him if you want to, but I doubt he's going to be happy about it.
Tell him. I mean I doubt he will stick around but it's good that he knows so that the kid can meet its biological father one day
Damn... I feel sorry for him because his life is about to change.
Yep you should tell him
Casual sex FTW.
LOL.
I'd tell him, he has a right to know.
Or lord, your not from Ohio I hope.
Seems like common courtesy.
tell him... poor you guys...
You are in trouble.
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