If you’re on good terms then maybe yes because you might want him to be aware of this in case you ever feel bad about it or accidentally tell him whilst drunk. He’s gonna think it’s weird to not tell him and will wonder what else you have lied about. It’s a pretty serious secret to keep. Only way I wouldn’t tell the guy is if the relationship is breaking down (say he is abusive towards me or I know he wouldn’t want to have that child or anything to do with me) then I would avoid telling him to spare him harm/avoid the confrontation. But like I said if you guys are together then you’re a team and he deserves to know. Try to not present it in a very macabre way too, otherwise it might get blown out of proportion. How pregnant are you by the way?
If he will force you to stop you, dont tell and abort it. People on gag hate it when women abort it but when she gives birth to it and be a single mum, she will get hate again. Dont listen to the replies of retards. You can't do anything right in their eyes. Sex-education ain't a thing in america and so no wonder why people in the comments are retarted. You still get pregnant even if you use contraceptives. If you did not have sex-education, you may use condoms or contraceptives wrong. For example pills dont work well when you take antibiotics. This happen to a girl i know and her doctor did not tell her about it.
The best contraceptive is condom but too many guys dont like it and so except from women to take responsibility. They also can't wait till marriage but also hate you for getting pregnant. Somtimes i am so happy for not being an American/western woman since i did not have to deal with these fucktards
Not telling could cause you n him relationship issues, however came to another post yesterday were guy found out his girlfriend got abortion against his judgment and now he can't look at her same.
Never easy choice i have 6 kids 3 are biological 2 step kids 1 adoption. I wasn't ready but i am there for them and provide best i can. Sometimes a child can make u want to man up. Others just dip out.
Up to you to tell him or not and abortion is a choice. It falls to what you want. His opinion matters but in this case not as much as urs. he's more a foot note.
You should tell him because he needs to know the kind of person he's with.
If a woman I was with wasn't being responsible with birth control I'd be pretty pissed, but I'd try to make it work and care for a child.
The abortion thing, particularly if it's because of irresponsible failure to use birth control would be a deal breaker, I'd put that kind of a person out of my life.
Some women struggle for years and pay fortunes for the life you're literally throwing away. You're free to choose, but your actions definite your character or lack thereof.
I want couples to communicate. That way if she wasn’t taking the pill, he would know. It is his responsibility to ask. Therefore if she wasn’t, they would be equally responsible. Because they were both aware of the risks.
And by the way, unwanted pregnancies can happen even if someone is on birth control. I used to babysit a little girl who was conceived because a pharmacist didn’t believe in birth control and gave the girl’s mother a thing of placebos. They chose to keep the pregnancy, but that’s only because they were able to support the kid, and they were considering having a baby anyway.
And even if someone just forgot, that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be able to get an abortion. We still treat people in car accidents, even if they were the cause of the accident. One bad decision doesn’t mean someone doesn’t deserve medical treatment.
But yes. Men and women should be equally responsible for birth control. Because every couple should talk about that before having sex. Just like how you should talk about STDs and such. (I also recommend both parties in a new relationship get STD tested before having sex.)
Anyways don't try to "explain" things to people who don't request it.
I don't have to justify myself to you. Kill your babies and end up with regrets and mental trauma if you want to.
You're free to be as big a moron as you like, just don't expect me to be your friend if you engage in self destructive abhorrent behavior.
There are occasional justified reasons for abortion, but being callous about a human life being inconvenient despite it being created by your own irresponsible self conduct isn't one of them.
If I went around killing everyone I found inconvenient I'd be the fuckin grim reaper and I'd run out of money for ammo.
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I am not a fan of abortion, but I use birth control when I don't want a child. I too recently found out I was pregnant with my fiance, but we both agreed to go off it a few months ago because we get married in three weeks, and we want to start a family as soon as possible.
I can't imagine ending the life of a partners unborn child without his input or at least prior notice.
If you live together yes you should. In all other cases you should tell him if you tell anyone outside the abortion clinic. And you should have told him first, So if you can keep the lid on and go through it without anyone knowing it's probably the best option as an independent woman. No issues or opinions will be raised.
No need. Just go get it done. Otherwise he may well try to stop you or guilt trip you.
That was my thought as well...
Why did you both have sex if neither of you were ready for a family? Immaturity... Now you have a life growing inside of you and you want to end its existence... What if your parents would have done that to you? Do you know you will effect not only this life but also the future lives this baby would have?
The baby is half his. You should, in my opinion.
I feel that he should have a say too seeing as you both made the decision to have sex and he is your partner. It's a huge decision to end a life and he may resent you forever if he finds out you lied and hid something like that from him
Why have sex without protection if your not ready to have children? And why take that risk with someone you don't feel you can be honest with? In your other comments you've made it clear your worried he might try and 'guilt trip' you into keeping it, doesn't that say something about the relationship you two have?
How old are you? You are not 16 grow up put your big girl pants on! And take responsibility raised that child. You were having sex Why didn't you get on nexpleon or use any other birth control? And don't come up to me that you can't afford birth control, If woman can afford Iphones then they sure as well can get on birth control. Now you plan on murdering an innocent child. Oh I'm not ready to have a baby. Well you should have got on birth control! It's not your boyfriends fault it's all yours.
Make up your own damn mind. Your body, your choice isn't that what you females always say? Your body should only require one person's opinion on anything and it's your opinion only, not a doctor's, not some other person's, definitely not some rondoms on the internet, just yours.
If she was mature enough to decide what to do on her own, why was she not mature enough to not get pregnant?
Women scream that only a woman should be in control of her body. That is %100 correct.
So to all women I say take %100 control of your reproductive system and only get pregnent when you want to get pregnant.
Disgusting. You fuck around unprotected, then kill the child to not have to raise it. Absolutely disgusting.
Absolutely right
Or you can just carry the baby to term, and put them up for adoption instead of taking your irresponsible choice of sex out on an innocent life by killing it!!!
You know I find it disgusting that people thumbs down my comment. It just means you support taking the easy way out of being responsible for your actions. And by murdering an innocent life, you would rather choose to lay on your back and spray his juice inside of you, rather than keeping both feet on the ground. You might want to wake up and realize that punishing an innocent life is inhumane. Not to mention the fact that you would have to face God at the time of your judgement and answer for it. In his eyes, you violated "Thou Shall not Kill".
I am officially turning off notifications for my initial opinion, just because I have said my peace and I don't want people getting in my face for stating the truth.
you're not ready for a child but you were immature enough to get knocked up although there are tons of birth control measures you could take. Women have become disgusting baby killers.
It's a fetus, a bunch of cells. Life doesn't begin at conception. Its not a baby
Are you not also a bunch of cells?
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And let me guess you think a woman who is raped or involved in incest should couldn't the baby, don't you, you dog?
*should keep the baby
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All humans are a bunch of cells. That’s the lamest argument I’ve ever heard to murder your unborn child.
My grandma has emphysema. She is just a bunch of cells. Millions and millions of cells. Maybe we should just kill her too.
@BlackBeauty90 Maybe if you didn't have that black gangsta ghetto attitude I would give a serious answer. Just maybe, because arguing with women is a pure waste of time. Women are always right. Men are always wrong.
Because of HIS selfish choice to NOT employ a dollar condom
YOU are electing to undergo an ultimately invasive multi-hundred dollar's SURGERY---
YEAH, I'd TELL him! "NO 'glove' NO Love! ~
That is not how abortion works anymore, hun
If you didn't want to get pregnant and have a kid, why did you get pregnant.
The need for abortion on demand tells me that many woman cannot take control of their own reproductive systems.
To those women I say grow the fuck up!!!
Thank you!
You should tell him, as someone who's been through that with a parter, I would have been devastated if she hadn't told me, I would have felt guilty I wasn't able to support her, it would've been horrible to have found out later. Everyone would react differently but yeah, let him know, and be honest and straight up about it, if he's worth the wrap he'll have your back the whole way home
I think you should tell him. Relationships are all about honesty, right? What would happen if he found out after that you hid something like that from him? Telling him gives him the chance to support you through this.
I would tell him beforehand. He may be bummed, but he may also want to support you emotionally. Every relationship is different, but in some relationships, this may translate as a breach of trust.
I think you should, especially if you're going to tell him afterwards. He may try and convince you to keep it but that shouldn't stop you if it's what you really want.
Don't tell anyone. Just look at how awful 'people' are they don't know your life or have to deal with it but judge you for your decision which you didn't ask them to do.
You should tell him and have him help pay for it. Personally, I'm against abortion but it's your body not mine. My wife and I were in the same situation when we were just dating. She told me right away and we discussed it. We chose to have the baby.
You should tell your boyfriend and not get an abortion. You should also get on birth control so this doesn’t happen again.
Yeah, I think it's the right thing to do. You're in this together. You get through it together and he can be there for you.
Ultimately it is your body so you have the final choice, but if you want the relationship to stay strong, hear him out first.
get a sonograph still of the baby and your used pregnancy test. put those in a bag and along with the fetus and throw it at him. he'll get the message
tell your boyfriend, def tell him then go from there, goodluck to you
Have the baby and give ti up for adoption if you don’t want it but using such words seems wrong, also your boyfriend needs to know about his baby too.
Of course. Yes, it's your body, so ultimately it's your decision, but it's his child too, so he needs to know.
A mature couple would make the decision together. You need to tell us if that's where you are, and what the best outcome is for him, and for yourself.
I would. Ultimately it your choice but try to considerate of his feelings. Ever if you know he will agree with your choice let him be a partner in the choice.
You should but if you love him and you think he will leave you , he will leave you anyway no matter what ! but if he is thinking about marrying you , i would discuss with him.
Well it's your body but maybe you should talk to him about it
You should definitely tell him. That's not something a partner should be left uninformed about.
Would you not please please please consider adoption, taking a life will be affect you.
Have a child secretly if you can. If you want, propose him for marriage in public.
You and that other guy know y’all can troll, make up situations and lie your ass off on here
🙄 some people actually go through this & aren't trolling, sweetheart.
If you are planning to get an abortion tell him you can't leave him in the dark about it. Just let him know he would need to take full custody and responsibilities.
Yes ofc bcz if he was invested in it and wants to keep the baby why would you get rid of it
Killing the baby would mean that you are extremely ignorant
Yes. And if he chooses to leave you, let him go. He has only proven he is not worthy. :)
If you don’t, that is breaking a lot of trust in your relationship.
It's your decision to make that you wanna have a baby or not but I think you should tell him because he deserves to know and that's on which relationship is made trust, loyalty, truth.
If you are not ready he probably won't be either. He will be at your side if you tell him. He will give you support through the entire process of terminating the pregnancy.
Ideally. Specially for support.
Don't go believing it's a walk in the park.
No tell him later. No need to upset him.
Or not at all.
Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.
🙄 yeah, yeah, I'm a troll because i don't know if i should tell my partner I'm pregnant before i terminate the pregnancy & need advice.
If there's a chance you think he will want you to keep it, then don't tell him.
Imagine spamming the same question multiple times a week
I've personally never posted this question before, dear, but thank you for your input.
You have but alright, talk bs
Nope, i personally haven't. Some other chick may have, but not me
Unless he's an abusive person then yes you should tell him.
You disrespect life itself and are therefore life unworthy of life.
How do you think men feel when girls have 100% say so over their kids
Why would you not tell him?
He has a right to know..
Judging by your responses, you're the kind of woman that proves that women aren't worthy of trusting. Thank God my wife is not like you. Men value honesty even when it hurts, you would do well to learn that.
🙄 What the husband doesn't know won't hurt him.
Deception is a disgusting trait in a woman. If you don't respect him enough to tell him the truth you should not be with him.. Liars are worthless pieces of trash no more no less.
If you don't tell him, never tell him.
Yup tell him and ask him what he thinks
He has a right to know
Yup you can, really up to you
Tell him. Both of you are responsible.
dont tell any one
people will turn against you
If that’s what you have decided, then no.
Judging by your responses to the guys, this question looks to me nothing more than antagonistic trolling.
What a shame
wow you're a piece of shit
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