I don't know anyone that has waited to have sex until marriage, but I don't think its a bad idea. It's everyone's person choice to make and what they think is right for them. No one should be judged or forced to think something is right or wrong. Everyone can have their own opinions on any subject. I personally love it too much to wait that long, but props to the people that do! More power to you!
They say it's safer if you wait until marriage, but I didn't wait. And my dad started telling me sex is for married people and if you do it when you're not married, you can get diseases. And I've seen young people who aren't married and pregnant. They can be single moms.
Save your virginity until it's with someone you love. It makes losing it a whole lot more special. Unfortunately I was raped so I can't keep up with my own beliefs.
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I was going to wait until marriage, until I met my BF. Long story cut way short: he was my best friend, then he asked me out, then we knew we were goin to get married, then sex. "I fell in love the way you fall asleep; slowly and then all at once" (Fault In Our Stars)
@DodgersGM That's where you're wrong. It's VERY practical in real life, and has been the foundation of all family structure for thousands and thousands of years, and it's been proven time and again to be the most effective. Only a fool would think that any marriage between whores is as valid as a marriage where people focus on character rather than sex.
@DodgersGM has a good point thought. What if you find out you and "the love of your life" are not at all compatible in bed? Say (s) he is way into BDSM and you just want regular "vanilla" sex? Sex is an important part of a relationship. While I don't believe in waiting until marriage to indulge yourself in sex, I do believe in saving your first time for someone who is as special to you as you are to them and not just a one night stand. Can't believe the amount of down votes you got on this dude.
Thanks @Ninja86ed, I appreciate it. Funny thing is that, ironically enough, I'm a relationship-only guy when it comes to sex. I just don't think that people who see it differently than me are "fools" nor "whores" as @Jarus seems to believe.
Also, @Jarus, impracticality doesn't necessarily mean "bad." I'm simply stating that, in today's world, fewer and fewer people are waiting for marriage.
It's really only for the religious folks, which I'm not one of. So the idea of putting sex on this holy pedestal has no meaning to me. Sex is another aspect of a healthy relationship (not to mention it's just fucking fun, pun intended).
So yeah, I'm not down for waiting until X or Y deadline. Not that I'm trying to rush a girl (which is what people seem to assume with their polarized thinking), just that it's sex... not life or death.
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Anonymous
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Seriously, I can't go a month without getting fucked. Never understood the waiting for marriage. What's the point anyway in today's society? Seeing the results of the poll and the comment section, I understand why people actually still vote for the republican party. Because they can't keep up with today's modern society.
The answer is simple if you think about it. Someone that wants to sleep around will go along with it and promote it. Someone who actually cares about it will tell you to wait. I made a couple of mistakes in life but if I had it to do over again I would wait no doubt.
My opinion of a women lowers if she has had a boyfriend who took advantage of her sexually. If she has regrets or especially if she appears to be deceiving herself about having regrets, then I do not like that. It demonstrates a lack of intelligence, barring extenuating circumstances.
Well it's fine if you're courting two weeks then getting married. Like how if used to be when the rule was established... But people stay engaged sometimes for decades now.
It's just not very practical plus it takes a lot out of life.
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Anonymous
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It's a good way to protect your heart. It was my original plan before I met my boyfriend. But we fell in love and he didn't want to wait and I gave in. Haven't regretted it. Not going to say I wasn't VERY lucky with him though. He really did and does love me, unlike many other boys who say what a young lady wants to hear just so they can get in her pants.
Personally, I don't feel the need to wait until marriage. Rather I just believe that I'll only ever sleep with someone I love.
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If you can discipline yourself to stop at mutual oral until marriage, you can have a satisfying relationship, one free of pregnancy and its fears and save the treasure for your husband. Both of you CAN wait on this basis. Even if you are not a virgin (at 15?, darn!) it is still worth stepping back. And never, ever discuss sexual history with guys.
Virginity ends only with penis-penetrative intercourse, vaginal or anal. To group intercourse with non-intercourse sexuality denies people a reasonable line not to cross to retain a degree of virtue. Guys' rationals are, of course, is "Girl, you are already a slut for going to oral, so give up and give it all up!" Right?
I hear this at church a lot but i don't agree. I think you should do it when ur with the right person. Don't just throw urself around, hooking up is a different thing so do that if u feel attracted to a person who u know won't be serious
I voted C. Why? people do what they want but I never expected to wait. Waiting until marriage only exist in religious communities in my country. Most of my friends, are active, so were the generations of my parents and grandparents.
If I know within a few months that I'm completely compatible with her and that we will certainly get married, then I can wait. However, I don't see that happening. I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting until marriage, but it's not for me.
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Where I live, women get married anywhere from 18-22. And they all have happy marraiges that last.
So I'm going to wait until marraige. I'll probably get engaged in 4 years anway because that's what happens in my culture
Whats your culture?
I don't know anyone that has waited to have sex until marriage, but I don't think its a bad idea. It's everyone's person choice to make and what they think is right for them. No one should be judged or forced to think something is right or wrong. Everyone can have their own opinions on any subject. I personally love it too much to wait that long, but props to the people that do! More power to you!
They say it's safer if you wait until marriage, but I didn't wait. And my dad started telling me sex is for married people and if you do it when you're not married, you can get diseases. And I've seen young people who aren't married and pregnant. They can be single moms.
Wait til Marriage...
Doing it before hand will just put your life into a pool of sins.
I lust everyday because I once thought my first would be my last.
hahaha, to be young and dumb.. sadly, still young.. and still a fucking moron.
Doesn't get any easier to avoid, even 6+ years later. :/
Its just a vicious circle
should never avoid it, always embrace it.
It'll make you stronger, If it doesn't break you first.
Cheers.
Save your virginity until it's with someone you love. It makes losing it a whole lot more special.
Unfortunately I was raped so I can't keep up with my own beliefs.
I was going to wait until marriage, until I met my BF. Long story cut way short: he was my best friend, then he asked me out, then we knew we were goin to get married, then sex. "I fell in love the way you fall asleep; slowly and then all at once" (Fault In Our Stars)
It's a nice idea in theory, but it's not all that practical in real life.
That said, if it's something you want for yourself, then by all means you should totally strive for that.
@DodgersGM That's where you're wrong. It's VERY practical in real life, and has been the foundation of all family structure for thousands and thousands of years, and it's been proven time and again to be the most effective. Only a fool would think that any marriage between whores is as valid as a marriage where people focus on character rather than sex.
@DodgersGM has a good point thought. What if you find out you and "the love of your life" are not at all compatible in bed? Say (s) he is way into BDSM and you just want regular "vanilla" sex? Sex is an important part of a relationship. While I don't believe in waiting until marriage to indulge yourself in sex, I do believe in saving your first time for someone who is as special to you as you are to them and not just a one night stand. Can't believe the amount of down votes you got on this dude.
Thanks @Ninja86ed, I appreciate it. Funny thing is that, ironically enough, I'm a relationship-only guy when it comes to sex. I just don't think that people who see it differently than me are "fools" nor "whores" as @Jarus seems to believe.
Also, @Jarus, impracticality doesn't necessarily mean "bad." I'm simply stating that, in today's world, fewer and fewer people are waiting for marriage.
@DodgersDM I am the same way actually
It's really only for the religious folks, which I'm not one of. So the idea of putting sex on this holy pedestal has no meaning to me. Sex is another aspect of a healthy relationship (not to mention it's just fucking fun, pun intended).
So yeah, I'm not down for waiting until X or Y deadline. Not that I'm trying to rush a girl (which is what people seem to assume with their polarized thinking), just that it's sex... not life or death.
Seriously, I can't go a month without getting fucked. Never understood the waiting for marriage. What's the point anyway in today's society? Seeing the results of the poll and the comment section, I understand why people actually still vote for the republican party. Because they can't keep up with today's modern society.
The answer is simple if you think about it. Someone that wants to sleep around will go along with it and promote it. Someone who actually cares about it will tell you to wait. I made a couple of mistakes in life but if I had it to do over again I would wait no doubt.
My opinion of a women lowers if she has had a boyfriend who took advantage of her sexually. If she has regrets or especially if she appears to be deceiving herself about having regrets, then I do not like that. It demonstrates a lack of intelligence, barring extenuating circumstances.
Well it's fine if you're courting two weeks then getting married. Like how if used to be when the rule was established... But people stay engaged sometimes for decades now.
It's just not very practical plus it takes a lot out of life.
It's a good way to protect your heart. It was my original plan before I met my boyfriend. But we fell in love and he didn't want to wait and I gave in. Haven't regretted it. Not going to say I wasn't VERY lucky with him though. He really did and does love me, unlike many other boys who say what a young lady wants to hear just so they can get in her pants.
I don't really think anything of it. If someone wants to wait until marriage then cool, and if not, that's cool too.
I respect people's decision to wait, or to not.
Personally, I don't feel the need to wait until marriage. Rather I just believe that I'll only ever sleep with someone I love.
If you can discipline yourself to stop at mutual oral until marriage, you can have a satisfying relationship, one free of pregnancy and its fears and save the treasure for your husband. Both of you CAN wait on this basis. Even if you are not a virgin (at 15?, darn!) it is still worth stepping back. And never, ever discuss sexual history with guys.
Oral still counts as loosing virginity. www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7221-why-virginity-still-retains-value-even-in-modern-times
Virginity ends only with penis-penetrative intercourse, vaginal or anal. To group intercourse with non-intercourse sexuality denies people a reasonable line not to cross to retain a degree of virtue. Guys' rationals are, of course, is "Girl, you are already a slut for going to oral, so give up and give it all up!" Right?
I hear this at church a lot but i don't agree. I think you should do it when ur with the right person. Don't just throw urself around, hooking up is a different thing so do that if u feel attracted to a person who u know won't be serious
i think there's no point to save yourself till marriage
Why is that
Sex is irresistible
I accidentally down voted but completely agree with him sex anytime yes please
@tina15xox that's ok... after all i received lots of downvotes.
in our today's society.. sex before marriage is a "bad" thing accordng to those people...
gosh
I'm not married and I've had sex it's amazing
@ You are completely wrong. Just browse my opinion history.
Whoops. @Slimshadylp2
I voted C. Why? people do what they want but I never expected to wait. Waiting until marriage only exist in religious communities in my country. Most of my friends, are active, so were the generations of my parents and grandparents.
If I know within a few months that I'm completely compatible with her and that we will certainly get married, then I can wait. However, I don't see that happening. I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting until marriage, but it's not for me.