So the question is pretty clear...
Would you cheat on your SO if there is a better person than your SO?
If not then why?
No. Because there will technically always be someone "better" than my SO (and me).
-Better looking.
-Better mentally, smarter.
-Better speaking.
-Better with manners.
-Better confidence.
etc. etc.
But that doesn't matter. If you're with your partner, the "betters" don't even compete with them. You love them as they are. And even though there are lots of "betters" out there, the person you love feels like the best for you.
And even if you did run off with every "better" you'll just end up jumping from person to person cuz technically, there are limitless potential "betters" but there is no "best" (until you finally decide).
And you'll never learn to appreciate and value what you already have.
Absolutely not. When I really care for the person I'm with (and I wouldn't be in a committed relationship with him if I didn't), I find myself not as attracted to other guys anymore anyways. I mean, obviously if I walk by a smokin hot dude I will notice and probably even think "nice", but I'm not thinking about jumping his bones like I would be when I was single.
If I find myself wanting to cheat or tempted to cheat, I know there is a problem in the relationship and I either need to figure out what it is and try to work it out, or break up with him.
Cheating is for losers.
I respect the person I'm with and the commitment I've agreed to. I put my effort into making the relationship the best it can be rather than chasing after some other guy. When I'm in a relationship, guys actually don't appeal to me, I never look at them as prospective partners because I'm happy with the guy I'm with. I'm extremely loyal, shame other people can't be.
Hannah, couldn't say it better. I feel the same.
87 guys didn't realize that when they voted it was anonymous! xD Nah man, id never do that shit.
I wonder if the fact that less than 10 percent of GAGers pick yes means people don't expect to cheat but wind up doing so anyway, or if it means that the cheaters are all out there cheating while we're all messing around on the internet.
Anyway, no. I've had the opportunity, and in retrospect will say "My girlfriend was cheating on me at the time, so I should have done it," but in the midst of my relationships I respected my partners and trusted that they respected me. If not, I wouldn't be with them.
She went abroad for a semester and I just stopped trying to get in touch with her. There was no "F-U! It's over!" moment.
voted for NO because you make a choice to go with someone and then you should stay with this person in my opion and if you aren;t happy anymore togetheren then break up and then you can go with someone else... and by the way there is always someone who is better in some way then your partner and so you can't never be faithfull
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N o way never ever. It can happen that you find someone to be more attractive than your partner. That is a pretty shitty situation. Only one reasonable thing you should do; work up the guts to tell them. See where it takes your relationship. But cheating is off limits at all times.
Pretty shitty of course, but I'd rather he'd be up front and honest about his feelings, instead of him being uncomfortable, unhappy or not satisfied for no 'apparent' reason. I'd hate to see him become more and more distant and not knowing why or how I could change that.
When I met my boyfriend, we kept it more as a light dating with benefits situation for about a month before he asked me to be his girlfriend. Since we took our time and take our relationship seriously (plan a future or go home, I guess), if either of us decide we are growing apart beyond fixing, it would be best to break up before daring to break hearts with infidelity. If any person decides to cheat, for any reason, I don't care if this causes offense, but I think they're lower than scum. Be an adult and end the relationship.
I wouldn't because with my experience looks don't mean shit. They can be abusive, controlling, bad in bed, narcissistic or douche bags all around. Don't be fooled by the face/body! Not worth it.
The only way I can date someone is if I have some level of respect for them. It's just against my morals and I couldn't be so disrespectful and cruel. I'm also an extremely loyal person and again couldn't go against my moral code.
What about you, what would you do?
Absolutely not. Doesn't matter how much 'better' this other person is than my boyfriend. I'd never go any further than just thinking the other guy is hot.
Even if they were some sort of Adonis with whom I clicked even better and had great sexual chemistry, it wouldn't cut it.
I would break up with my boyfriend before feeling like making a move on anyone else.
And what if you were married with three young children and in a financially tight spot. For past 5 years your husband has turned you down for sex constantly. Only having sex with you two or three times over those five years and without fore play. Divorce would split the family and crush you financially. You'd have to live with your parents even. You meet a charming man in a similar situation who comforts you and whom you confort back. He listens to you and feels your frustration as do do you to his pain. One night while your husband is out at the gym like always you and your friend meet. You kiss, hesitantly but you feel so understood and connected you can't stop yourself. You make love and a. Affair starts. Now you are happy and your children can feel the positive energy in the home. You go back to school at night and develop you professional skills so you can afford to move on when the children are older and can understand. What about cheating then?
same conditions stand. Like I said, the reasons why they cheated don't negate the fact that they still betrayed my trust by being unfaithful. Yes, this wife was not in a good spot in the relationship with her husband, but that in no way warrants what she did. Don't forget; she's a grown woman, and was perfectly capable of divorcing or breaking up with her husband prior to.
Yeah, that might have it's own negative consequences including financially, but do you really think splitting up a marriage by way of an affair will do any differently?
No.
When you're with someone that you love, there is no "better."
Sure, there are other attractive people, other talented people, other compelling people, but taken as a whole, nobody is better than the partner that you love.
I said no... for three reasons:
1) I could not cheat and live with myself period, because I would let her down and knowing that I hurt her would pretty much kill me inside;
2) That no matter how hot or rich that other person was, it would not replace what I have with her.
3) And finally, I have two daughters so demonstrating to them how a guy is suppose to treat a women, does not include cheating on them.
If there was someone I'd rather be with, I wouldn't have decided to be with my significant other at all.
Why would I take the chance of ruining everything I have worked so hard to maintain in my relationship, because someone is hot? No way.
If I wanted to screw around, I wouldn't have settled down.
Exactly!
I said no. I don't take being with someone lightly. When I feel something for someone I feel it strongly and deeply. I'd be content with who I was with and if I wasn't, I'd be a big girl and either sort out the issues or end it (if I felt like there was nothing that could done.)
And how is this other person better? By looks or personality. Either way I think it's low, so you'll cheat with someone better, so you're making yourself a worse person anyway.
There is no one better for me than my SO. I'm dating the best of the best. No such thing as better.
If this person is really more attractive than your significant other, breaking up with your girlfriend/boyfriend would be a much better alternative than cheating. However, one should think long and hard before being in a relationship before actually getting into one. It kind of requires you to be faithful if you want to make it last.
So does that mean if you found someone more attractive, and compatible in the sense of a life with them you would shift lanes?
Just to be clear, I am not judging you. I am not like a moral police or something, just asking. No disrespect meant.
I personally think that I would shift lanes because it would be better than staying in a relationship where I wasn't content with my partner. If I was looking at other guys already, clearly I am not as attracted to him as I thought that I was in the first place. It's true that there will always be someone more attractive, successful, and intelligent than your partner, but I think that sometimes there are exceptions to that kind of thinking. However, I don't think I would get into a relationship with a guy unless I had already weighed my other options in terms of attractiveness and compatibility. I think it's all about finding out who is the best match for you not only in terms of attractiveness, but also in all of the other areas as well. If I found a guy that was everything that I wanted, I highly doubt that I would look for more.
Sorry people who have cheated, but if you found someone who you like better than your partner for whatever reason, just end things with them and move on to this other person. Cheating is such an awful thing to do to a partner. It is more emotionally damaging than people who haven't experienced it can possibly understand.
My SO makes me extremely happy even in my worse days! Nothing would compare to him. ^_^ im sticking to my guy and will always be faithful to him^_^
ahaha oh wow :") noiceeee and yepp he is an amazing person ^_^
would you let your SO cheat on you if she found someone better than you? Yeah i don't think so.
This is why people should truly be sure first if they want to be together with a certain person because it means that you will have to commit to him/her only, even when temptation presents itself.
It depends on what I predict the future holds with my current SO. If I don't see the relationship making it very far, then I probably would. But I'm also a guy, so I have penis urges working against me.
It basically comes down to you deciding whether or not the relationship is worth throwing away. If what you have with that person is, or will be, so insignificant, that you decide the relationship is expendable.
Always those 2-3 guys/girls voting for the opposite gender... hmm... perhaps they're transgender...
Rookie mistake. That's what I did on my first question here, lol.
No I would not because I am already with the best guy for me.
If someday I change my mind about that, for whatever reason, then I would leave him and start over. cheating is a shitty and terrible thing to do.
Why bother having an affair with an "upgrade" unless your partner provides something irreplaceable? If the "upgrade" is better they provide that service inherently. This question doesn't really make sense unless you wanted to test the cowardice of mankind.
'Hot' means trouble, most of the time. Certainly it nearly always means lying, backstabbing, and self-centered.
So why give up a worthwhile person for someone like that?
No. If I am in love with someone I'm not gong to cheat on them just because there is someone else out there who is cuter or more polite. Deceiving a person in a relationship is the worst things you can do.
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