Girl who rejected me now says she likes me? Now that I am rich. Can power make a guy more attractive or is she just trying to use me?

Question

I started a company about a year ago that expanded very quickly and I now have over 30 employees. Obviously being the owner and CEO of a company this size, I now have a lot more money and as a result, more power. 

Three years ago in university, I told one of my best friends that I was in love with her and she told me, among other things that I wasn't tall enough for her, and it broke my heart. But she wasn't trying to be mean, just frank. Anyway, over the years, we've stayed good friends. A couple of weeks ago she told me that she has feelings for me. We have a lot of history and I do still love her. I told her that I would have to think about it.

I know that it's easy to assume that she just wants to use me, but is it possible that she now has real feelings for me? Can power make a man more attractive? I still dress and act exactly as before. Girls are my one weakness, I need some advice.

P. S. I have no interest in casual sex or anything like that, I have always wanted a meaningful relationship, so please don't suggest that I just have sex with her.

Starrk · Accepted Answer

Power, wealth can definitely make a man look more attractive. Celebrities are the biggest example of this. I'm pretty sure you have seen a male celebrity who looks like a Jeep ran over his face, but this same man has a drop dead gorgeous girlfriend. Why? because physical attribute isn't the only thing that women look at when selecting a man. They also look at security. The more wealth and power a man has the more attractive he looks, because he can provide her a secure and stress free life.

As for your case it's harder to gauge because even though she did reject you, that was 3 years ago, and a lot can change in a person attraction in such time span. The more younger and immature you are the more superficial and shallow your standards for a partner is (more focused on physical attractiveness) . But as one age and mature they begin to look at more other factors beside physical attributes.

Me personally, I wouldn't pay her any attention, because that whole "You're not tall enough" comment would have hit a nerve and I would've held a grudge against her for that. Not to mention I never backpedal. If a girl rejects me, then she is instantly placed on the undateable list. But if you feel you want to give her a chance then go for it, however be wary and go into it super slow. But if she start snooping in your finances or you sense she's trying to take advantage of you, then end it quick.

Anom_Omous · Accepted Answer

She's a leech! AVOID AT ALL COSTS! Even if you're still into her, she'll just use you for your money, marry you, have a kid, divorce you, and take half your money and income from then on

xobrowneyedbeauty · Accepted Answer

Power could make you more attractive but she also could have grown up and developed feelings for you. If you really care about her, you could date her and take things extremely slowly and don't spend extra money on her. Treat her like you would if you weren't rich. If she gets irritated you probably have your answer. I hope this helps!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would say try it but to not send too much on her. Like don't bring her shopping for 300$ of clothes randomly or take her out and pay every night. Try and spoil her but with attention and not money. If she talks about the money often then that's what she wants.

Princessofpersia · Accepted Answer

Power makes a man very attractive, but don't trust her

tyber1 · Answer

She made her bed, let her lay in it. She didn't think you were good enough before, and you haven't grown taller. She was one of your best friends, so you know that she knew your personality very well before. Money often times makes a woman attracted to a man, it isn't for gold-digging necessarily but something that just happens unconsciously. But do you really want someone who you know for a fact wouldn't be into you if you didn't have money? What happens if the money disappears?

I know you are in love with this girl, but she isn't in love with you. She's in love with the version of you that has money. She isn't a bad person but you shouldn't date someone who wouldn't have loved you if you were just an average guy.

Eric644 · Answer

I would date her and gauge to see if she really had a change of heart if it is sincere congratulations, how she rejected you will become a funny story that both of you can laugh about because then she is truly sorry. but if you sense she only wants your money, You should bang her and leave her the next day. When you told her you were going to have to think about, did she look hurt or shocked or was she indifferent, if she looked hurt or shocked she really likes you and knows she may have blown off a good catch

Anpu23 · Answer

I also used to have a decent situation. Congratulations on your success. Girls can find money and power attractive, but I think there is something more going on here. You say you said, in collage, that you find her attractive and that you have stayed friends? Realize in collage that everyone is still young, and full of idealism even in relationships. What someone in collage would call ugly, at 25 year old may now find acceptable, or even attractive. She sounds like she's been thinking about this for a while, and has matured some. Just take it slow, and see where it goes.

blondfrog · Answer

Dude yes and so does money money makes a man attractive too I don't care how many women keep denying it wee have seen over and over again social experiments being done on this where gold diggers get exposed and its not even like oh well that is a small amount of the women no its more than that some statistics have shown that only 40% of women are not gold diggers or at least aren't attracted to a man cause he has wealth. It just so happens that after you become more rich and successful now all of a sudden she is attracted to you? Don't give her a chance man there plenty of other chicks out here hotter than her, smarter than her, and have a better personality than her don't sell yourself short if it was vice versa that she was a CEO and you had the social status and money she did she would reject you.

Mysterio421 · Answer

Men age like fine wine. When we do well in our careers we get more money and power, which can get you more girls. She rejected you and now that your successful wants to be back with you. Pal, she all of a sudden is interested because of the company. I plan on starting a tech company too and I am in a similar situation with some girl. Find a better girl. by the way, what products or services does your business offer?

timmy111 · Answer

Remember the saying for better or worse? Well she already disappeared when it was worse, don't give her a look.. And you can probably date higher quality women now anyway

Klaatu51 · Answer

then it's obvious that this girl is after your money basically ;-)

Eugene · Answer

She wants the money, lad. Don't fall for it.

The slight problem for rich folks is that unless they're okay of having someone who's with them only because of money, they have to keep their income level somewhat private.

bryon · Answer

It doesn't make a man more attractive but it can make people more shallow and two faced. Take that girl you spoke about as a fine example

The_Technomancer · Answer

If you have money you should also have serious trust issues. They are necessary even with friends because money is coveted.

NedfromtheNed · Answer

Bang her then throw her out like an old pizza box you find under that old couch in your grandmas basement.

chrisbigman · Answer

I think she is more to use you than to actually be with you romantically. Could I be wrong? Yes. But the fact that you are powerful - you need to be wary.

05candyman · Answer

Not just power, money too. She knows you'll end up spending a lot of that on her. Fuck her, find someone real

LauraLovely · Answer

Take her on a cheap date and see what happens

scooogy · Answer

Tell her you'd donate everything you have, and then wait for her reaction.

MrDetermined · Answer

You are obviously stupid if you now let her use you.

marksmith108 · Answer

Now I ain't saying she's a gold digger

thewanderingme · Answer

nahh. only works with some women.

queeninwaiting · Answer

Don't trust her

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