Three years ago in university, I told one of my best friends that I was in love with her and she told me, among other things that I wasn't tall enough for her, and it broke my heart. But she wasn't trying to be mean, just frank. Anyway, over the years, we've stayed good friends. A couple of weeks ago she told me that she has feelings for me. We have a lot of history and I do still love her. I told her that I would have to think about it.
I know that it's easy to assume that she just wants to use me, but is it possible that she now has real feelings for me? Can power make a man more attractive? I still dress and act exactly as before. Girls are my one weakness, I need some advice.
P. S. I have no interest in casual sex or anything like that, I have always wanted a meaningful relationship, so please don't suggest that I just have sex with her.
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Power, wealth can definitely make a man look more attractive. Celebrities are the biggest example of this. I'm pretty sure you have seen a male celebrity who looks like a Jeep ran over his face, but this same man has a drop dead gorgeous girlfriend. Why? because physical attribute isn't the only thing that women look at when selecting a man. They also look at security. The more wealth and power a man has the more attractive he looks, because he can provide her a secure and stress free life.
As for your case it's harder to gauge because even though she did reject you, that was 3 years ago, and a lot can change in a person attraction in such time span. The more younger and immature you are the more superficial and shallow your standards for a partner is (more focused on physical attractiveness) . But as one age and mature they begin to look at more other factors beside physical attributes.
Me personally, I wouldn't pay her any attention, because that whole "You're not tall enough" comment would have hit a nerve and I would've held a grudge against her for that. Not to mention I never backpedal. If a girl rejects me, then she is instantly placed on the undateable list. But if you feel you want to give her a chance then go for it, however be wary and go into it super slow. But if she start snooping in your finances or you sense she's trying to take advantage of you, then end it quick.