Would you rather be SINGLE or MARRIED?

[Anonymous]

If you had to choose - and there were no other options. What would you choose?

SINGLE

or

MARRIED

and please list why:

SINGLE

MARRIED

[DonkeyKong1979]

Married, no doubt.

Being single was fun in my 20's, partying and bed hopping, what's not to love? But let's face it, being single on the downhill side of your 30's wouldn't be anything like that.

And I am quite cerebral and introverted, love my alone time, so sharing your life with someone, especially when you add in a kid or 2 can be very stressful for me at times, somebody always demanding your attention both at work and at home get's tough.

But trade your little guy charging into you demanding to be picked up for a cuddle as soon as I walk in the door for a quiet evening to myself? Trade being booted and poked by my wife to go get her tea and toast at 7:30am on a Sunday morning for a lie in? Not on your life, hope I'm stuck with her 'til the day I die.

[YourFutureEx]

Married because I love this scenario.
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<3

[Asker]

Wow that's a gorgeous image- thanks for sharing!

[YourFutureEx]

It was a pleasure :)

[FatherJack]

Be careful what you wish for... I'm married & it's often very stressful.

[YourFutureEx]

@FatherJack - I expected such replies LOL

[snowangle]

Awwww I just died a little. That's precious.

[YourFutureEx]

Thank you @snowangle :)

[hypno-trip]

I agree @FatherJack

I'm single and want to get married but I'm going to be very very cautious about timing and stuff.

[YourFutureEx]

@hypno-trip - Only YOU will decide the intensity of stress. If you are loyal to your life and honest with your deeds/work, you'll forget what stress is.

[vishna]

Hmm very hard, if I was single forever that would kinda suck because I'm with someone I want to stay with. So, even though I'm not at the marrying stage yet, I guess married if I had to pick.

[tizz704]

Married because i think life is better if you have someone on your team. I think its harder to be married than to be single but like most good things in life, you need to work for it.

[MissNowhere]

Married cuz my singleness doesn't make me happy and if I was married I'd actually have someone who likes me and who I can trust (I guess, right?).

[Zendrya]

I have always wanted to be a wife and I am in a relationship with someone I would like marry so that is why I pick married.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I can't believe how many voted B, so when the magic fades and your inevitable divorce comes, are you going to be happy to fight over money, possessions, and custody of your kids? Because either that happens, or you're stuck in an unhappy marriage for eternity.

[Asker]

Given your perspective I can understand why you chose A! Do you think that marriage equals divorce?

[snowangle]

I take care of seniors at my job and 99% of my clients stayed with their spouses until they died (or they're still alive). They all seem happy, too, so it's not impossible. It'd be amazing to have a companion through all stages of life like that.

[Opinion Owner]

@snowangle, consider their generation though. Women were much more stay at home mom's with limited options, they didn't really have much of a choice to leave an unhappy marriage (not to mention that it was much more taboo to divorce in their time). Now, women are more independent and look at the divorce rates, they can leave awful marriages and support themselves.

Think about when you first get into a relationship, that "honeymoon phase", how long does that last for? Not forever, love erodes slowly overtime.

[SomeoneImportant]

@snowangle They're happy because their spouse is dead, about to die, or they're about to die lol...

[snowangle]

Actually, they're always distraught when their spouses die. One of my clients lost his wife over 2 years ago and he still can't talk about it without crying.

People of this generation just need to learn what commitment means. How to work through problems and not take the easy way out. Just because you don't feel sparks anymore doesn't mean it's time to quit.

[SomeoneImportant]

@snowangle Well of course they are, they just lost their partner.

What I meant was, during marriage, you eventually reach the point where your spouse makes you happy and miserable. Happy in that you're not alone, you're going home to someone every night. But at the same time, you want them to leave you the fuck alone.

My grandma and grandpa are old school, been married for like 45-50 years. They love each other, it's obvious. But they also can't fucking stand each other. But I also know both will die inside when the other passes.

As far as I know, marriage comes down to this.

You love the person, but you don't like them. You need them in your life, but wish they'd just go away.

[mistninja314]

I'd rather be "SINGLE and ready to MINGLE at a MOMENTS notice" how about that? since I would have no obligations to anyone #SmartMove

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[FatherJack]

I voted single & yes I'm married... a family can be infuriating & stressful. Plus I also do all the housework... any woman that says men do not pull their weight , please come and live in my shoes over a typical weekend !!

[snowangle]

When you feel like quitting, remember why you started. I hope you guys work it out.

[Asker]

Well said snow

[FatherJack]

Hmmm... suppose I was on the harsh side yesterday.. got to do the best for my 2 kids ( in piccy ) Would be nice simply to be appreciated for what I do , I work , sort everyone out & am starting online business ventures. Snowangle... yeah , I need to stop being such a grumpy bastard !!

[Outofthegrey]

Married, no question about it. Why would you choose to be looking for "the one" if you could choose to already have them?

[Asker]

Wow such a great answer

[Dandeus]

I'd rather be in a stable, long term relationship that doesn't involve marriage.

[Asker]

Oh okay fair enough. Why is that?

[hypno-trip]

that's almost the same thing

[Dandeus]

Because marriage is a product of society that no longer exists. It's unrealistic to expect people not to change for life anyway. Working on a relationship is one thing, but refusing to acknowledge a failed one is foolish. And at that point, marriage law is very detrimental to men.

[AleDeEurope]

Right at this moment I'd rather be single, but if this will be choosing how I'll be for the rest of my life, I'll choose married.

[Asker]

Great answer and justification for choice. Thanks!

[James0]

Single, there so much I still want to do in my life

[Asker]

Do you think that you can't do those things if you're married?

[James0]

I hear a lot of how marriage puts you life on hold and have seen this happened way to many,

Usually, there would be kids, relatives, and more responsibility. I can't just say I quit without consequences. or go to places without having to tell someone

[atomique]

Married. I can't go solo forever. But we (future lady and I ) can go solo together forever.

[Asker]

Love that answer... United alone. Awesome

[atomique]

Because most other people suck

[SomeoneImportant]

Single, without a doubt.

Marriage just looks fucking awful. I agree with @Dandeus , I'd prefer a long term relationship without the marriage...

[SomeoneImportant]

The people who voted B are a mixture of 3 groups

Single and lonely, so by default they choose marriage

In a relationship, and think getting married will be the magical cherry on top

Currently married and prefer it over being alone.

[HiiLyFe]

Tbh u just said some real azz shit! I totally agree with this!

[BigbuttLvr]

Married, but have separate houses (you didn't specify any other rules).

[Asker]

Hmm interesting proviso ! Why separate houses out of curiousity?

[BigbuttLvr]

I was joking, implying that I would be married but get the best of both worlds so I can still mess around.

[Asker]

Oh. I think that's called cheating (if you did choose marriage)... maybe singlehood is better for you!

[BigbuttLvr]

What about open marriages?

[Northeast106]

I voted B. Even though I'm against legal marriage, I still want a woman to spend my life with. In that way, I'm very traditional.

[YazanAA]

I would prefer to be married over being anything else when it comes to relationships

[dudeman]

Single I would have said married eight years ago though.

[ponybabies]

married so I know I can do some weird shit and he'll still be there !

[Anonymous]

I went with single. Yeah I want to live with someone I love but not get married. I mean it's just a piece of paper that doesn't prove anything. And no we don't get lower fees or anything. Doesn't apply in my country

[HiiLyFe]

Bro totally agree with you! I dont really see the reason to get married. If u love someone you love someone.

[RationalLioness]

If it's for the rest of my life? Married.

[Asker]

Fair enough!

[Anonymous]

Single. Being married sounds like a gigantic waste of life.

[snuggle_bunny88]

I would definitely rather be married.

[Asker]

Thanks for your answer! Why?

[snuggle_bunny88]

I don't like being alone. Being single, for me, would mean being alone. Also, I like to take of my SO. I like to feel needed.

[Bards]

Who wants to be alone? Lol

[Asker]

Fair point!

[FatherJack]

ME !!!

[jacquesvol]

Married, no doubt.
I'm married and very happy with it.

[Luvme66]

Its a difficult choice actually!

[Asker]

It sure is!

[Luvme66]

Well I will realize it when the time comes... uptill then I am living the present!

[soberpiper]

Married and in a polygamous relationship...

[DesiDoo]

Married! Eh Mer Gahd! I want to be badly

[menina]

Single. I can't and I couldn't be married.

[Succcesssfulll]

Married, you'd have someone and won't feel lonely.

[Despondency]

Married filing jointly.

[DesiDoo]

What exactly do you mean by filing jointly?

[Despondency]

Haha, nothing important.

[subzero007]

Married and get doomed xD

[georgiaaaagirl]

married because I only have ONE man to satisfy :)

[Anonymous]

Loneliness is a black abyss of pure despair.

[hypno-trip]

I want to get married but not ready for it now.

[apexalpha]

you pay less tax as a married person

[Despondency]

Actually if you MFJ you pay slightly more tax... :p

[Starry_Night93]

I'd rather be married.

[FistSlaminElite]

I've always wanted to get married

[ArabianPwincess197]

Choose to be married

[Anonymous]

to have sex everyday...