Would you rather settle or be single?

[xastranger]

I'm picky and reject a lot of guys in real life. I feel like why should I settle for a certain race, age.. unattractive or men that aren't fit and then be miserable? I'm single by choice. I feel like I need a certain type of man in my life and I don't see him NO where. Not online or in real life. It's so frustrating.

[dangerDoge]

Sure, being single isn't exactly fun, and I can't say I particularly like it... However, I'm going to be single rather than settle for something less. There's no point in dating just for the sake of having a relationship.

I think of it this way-- why do I want to be in a relationship? The answer is to be happier than I am currently. I feel that happiness is largely brought on by compatibility and feelings for the other person. If you aren't compatible and have feelings for the other person because you settled for something you don't like, you most likely aren't going to be happy. Not to mention you may lose an opportunity when someone compatible does come along but you are in a relationship already.

So yeah -- I'm going single, not settling.

[dangerDoge]

Thanks for MHO

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

I'd like to settle down with a nice woman, a woman that I can go to the park with, just sit and watch the sunset, go hiking with, work out with, go mountain climbing, bike riding, bungee jumping, sky diving with, enjoy a night in watching a movie with, cook and do dishes with, barbeque with, garden flowers with, take a bubble bath with, learn new recipes with, go to the spa with, go on cool vacation with, discover new parts of the city with, have great conversations with,

... and the have rough, kinky, dirty, perverted, jaw dropping sex with.

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

then*

[TheInnovator]

I would rather be single, which is okay because I like being single, so its not a frustrating thing for me. I'm more comfortable being single than in a relationship (not that being in a relationship is bad, just a different experience that I'm not used to).
Its not fair to the guy if I settled for him because I wouldn't be able to give him the type of relationship he deserves. If I'm not super into a guy then we don't need to be in a relationship.

[CocoRachelle]

I'd rather be single. It's not fair to the guy for me to settle, because I might not love him just like him. That could crush him, and I don't want to hurt any one.
I'm not super picky, but if I don't love the guy then that means his personality probably isn't appealing to me, and I wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyways.

[SensualScribe]

I would rather be single than settle. To be honest, my current significant other has set the bar really high for any other man. Because of his health, I know he is not my forever love, but he has shown me what I want and deserve in a relationship and I will never ever settle for less.

[HandsomeRaj]

Chaps like him and me are the real bad boys albeit with good intentions. It's painful at times to see the girl's situation when her bar has been raised as are expectations. My sincere recommendation will be always read a new page afresh devoid of the earlier one's experiences :)

[SensualScribe]

@HandsomeRaj Far easier said than done. Thankfully, I do not have to think about that for the time being.

[HandsomeRaj]

My apologies if I didn't say that right, my intention isn't to patronize or contradict :) while I never preach what I've not already put into practice :D

[SensualScribe]

@HandsomeRaj No need to apologize. I was not offended at all. I understood where you are coming from, but he is my first love. He will be very hard to forget when the time comes... trying not to think about that, though. He and I face a lot of obstacles, but he is worth it. Correction, we are worth it.

[HandsomeRaj]

Thank you for being understanding :) appreciate it wholly <3 That's so awesome and I sure hope things always work out right for both of you whichever direction you guys decide to take either individually or together :)

[SensualScribe]

Thank you very much. No matter what happens, he will always be my best friend.

[AvaMarina]

Be single. I'm not going to subject myself to a relationship I'm unhappy in, what's the point of that? I'm not picky on purpose, but I'm not compatible with very many people, which is fine. I'll enjoy being single until I can enjoy being in a relationship. :)

[HandsomeRaj]

1. I am a man of responsibility hence for all practical and personal reasons I'll always prefer to be settled. But by the virtue of being polyamorous I'd be happiest settled in a polygamous situation. (www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a21923-polygyny-polygamy-polyamory-know-the-difference) thank you @dragonfly6516
2. I have no fixations hence, the question of expectations remain rational related to situation, environment and reasoning :)

[JenkPac]

I could have any woman I want but I've learned females amoral, low and petty nature so I don't even bother with you all anymore. Too much work, too many headgames, not to mention the danger of one of you pretty little liars potentially giving me a fatal (or just plain annoying) STD infection.

A fleshlight, a paid escort or even my own hand are far safer options than the dating scene.

Though that said if I ever encounter a true lady with a kind heart and a classical sex appeal then I'd marry up in a heartbeat but with radical feminism and women's own nature combining to ruin female behavior in the modern world finding such a woman would be like walking outside one's home and stumbling upon a diamond in the dirt ie not very likely.

So no I'd rather grow old and die than ever settle for the average modern mean spirited radical feminist "womyn".

[FreeYourSoul]

Sorry I meant to thumb u up!!! Lol

[JenkPac]

@FreeYourSoul Oh ok. Perhaps you are the kind of lady I'm looking for then? Well anyway later.

[AidenBlue]

I think you are shooting for a masarattti when in reality the Honda Accord would be much more appropriate in the long term.

Go for personality and someone you enjoy being around.

Even if you fans that super buff guy with some James Bond look - it will fade. Then what?

I'm not saying seek out someone unattractive but you'll find people will be more attractive if you get to know them and actually like them.

By the sound of it you are fueled by looks at all costs and that is a dangerous road.

[MissNowhere]

I am not a fan of being single, but I'm not gonna settle, I want to be with someone I'm crazy about and who I adore in all ways possible, I'm never gonna be with a guy just for the sole purpose of having a boyfriend. I want it to be the real deal.

[alecz]

There is a difference between settling and expecting perfection. I used to have really high standards for girls and had this really tall list but I've seen my own weaknesses and imperfections, and I've come to accept others imperfections. The fact is, I'm sure you aren't so perfect yourself, so would this perfect man you're looking for be settling for you? And if yes why should he?

Loosen up. I'm not saying to give just anybody a chance but be reasonable. Just saying.

[0112358]

If you're happier single then with the men who are interested in you, then stay single.

If you'd be happier with the men who are interested in you but are holding out for something you don't seem likely to find, then either lower your standards, or increase what you're offering to the point you can get those men, if that's possible.

[scott63a]

You don't see him anywhere, because he doesn't exist. The only men shallow enough for you, don't give you a second look, because you don't fit their "perfect woman" mold. Sure, they might f u c k you, but they won't stick around. I'm sure they are frustrated as well.

[Tromba]

My attitude was ideally I'd like to be single and free and have lovers and everybody be happy. Unfortunately women almost always wanted to marry me and so I decided if that's what they want, relationships basically are job interviews with sex and that's how I'll treat them. I went through 27 before I got one I couldn't see a reason not to offer the job to and she took it. I'm happy now and I'd have been happy if I never found her. Each way has it's rewards and it's drawbacks.

[XRabbitHeartX]

I will never settle. I see how it worked out for my mom and will never make that same mistake as her. You'll be happier in the long run single OR with the right man for you.

[Takada]

I'd rather be single. I don't need perfection, but if a guy has qualities that piss me off, there's really no point in staying with him. I feel like it'd just be leading him on.

[MadameJulietta]

There is no reason to be with someone romantically that you aren't physically attracted to since that would be the same as being alone anyway.

[Kay211]

I'd rather be single. I think it would be better to be single and wait for someone to come around that I actually feel something for. No point in being in a relationship just to be in one.

[Prof_Don]

I'd rather be single. Looks aren't a big deal to me, but when it comes to personality I don't settle for less.

You will be shocked how many females I've encountered that I was into physically, but their personalities didn't cut it for me.

[justbanANNAz]

i'd love to settle someday.
keep searching, u never know when he'll pop up.

[Sara413]

I'd rather be single than fake it with someone I'm not actually happy with.

[THAT-1-guy]

Be single, when you settle you end up unhappy in a relationship you dont want to be in.

[virgo2323]

Never settle like ever. But if you have that magical 101 list of criteria for a guy you would only date I would look at that list and narrow down what you really must want in a guy and what's 'not that important'

[littlemermaid89]

I'd rather be single right now, although I don't mind to have a boyfriend. I would settle maybe one day, if I met the right one. and yes I'm also single by choice. I don't want just anybody just so I have a boyfriend.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

Being in a relationship isn't settling. It's being so happy with someone that they're enough for you, you don't need nor want anybody else. Relationships are as much of a choice as you deciding to avoid one.

[S0ph5t3R]

I'm perfectly fine being single, but if I cross path with someone I like, I'll be even better.

[drummerdude25]

I'd rather be single... so I remain (super) single lol.

[kangy]

if i can't find a guy that i feel comfortable with i would choose to remain single forever...

[RexCatholicissimus]

I agree, fuck ugly people, why do they have to hound beautiful people like they have a right to be human?

Frankly I think anyone who isn't up to my standards should be sent to a camp and shot.

[normalice]

I'd rather be single, but I have an aversion to rejecting women, so I try to just hide from everyone to avoid a relationship I would later wish I wasn't in.

[ixi10]

You shouldn't settle but you should also realize that you might never find someone that's 100% of what you want.

[meatballs21]

Your standards are too high, which is different from settling.

You can die alone surrounded by empty ice cream tubs and cats, or you can consider giving guys who tick *some of* your requirements (not all of them) a chance.

[I_am_repulsive]

Well.. If you believe this crap:
https://data.whicdn.com/images/99644448/large.jpg

[Sara413]

My boyfriend and I argue over who is the "reacher" and who is the "settler". We both think we're reaching lol

[I_am_repulsive]

@Sara413 That's good because that's how it should be XD

[Jessicocoa]

I'd rather be single of course. Settling is a horrible idea in my opinion and it leads to a lot of issues.

[silverfeline]

if I can't even get someone that ticks a few boxes of what I like. Plan Buffalo is speed bank and die alone😊

[Pinkbeauty]

I prefer to be single because a relationship can be hard and I like guys young as 20-22 age range plus both looks and personality are kinda a big deal to me

[existing_not_living]

Single! I will not settle for anyone. I will not allow myself to.

[SelenaRandall]

Im choosing to be single just cuz I've seen most of the relationships go really bad.

[IamNuts]

I already found the love of my life so I'l be fine with settling down.

[ihatethiswebsite]

I'd much rather be single than settle. I can definitely live my whole life single but I'd rather not of course.

[smahala1991]

I really want to settle any marry a good caring lady :)

[alonzoslade]

There is a difference between settling and have UNREALISTIC expectation

[AmeerX]

I would settle down. Those who are always picky are never happy.

[LordZero]

I don't see any girls on planet Earth worth settling for.

[Kelfuma]

I'm single by choice too, I'm not really interested in the women in my area.

[Ren-Riven]

Right now I choose single, am too busy with 'me'

[chocolateismylover]

I'd never wanna settle 😐

[ShayanMortazavi]

I dont know

[Jared____]

Settle for sure