My girlfriend cheated... Is it ok that I'm crying?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend were best friend turned lovers... Our chemistry is unmatched and we get along so well and we show tons of public affection etc.

well I found out she cheated on me with her ex hehind my back... She said there was nothing wrong with us we were perfect she just wasn't over her ex and he invited her over and she got curious but she ended it a while back... She asked forgiveness and I'm testing the waters to see if it's a possibility...

the pain of what she did makes me sad because of how we were being instantly changed now I have have this pain that comes and I just start crying because I'm sad of how strong our love was and it was crushed because she stepped out on me...

I cry in front of her I'm not afraid to show her the pain she caused and I hope she learned from this experience... Is this normal for a man to cry like this I have never been in love with anyone as im has I love her.

[HyperOrphic]

It's normal, but personally I don't buy your girlfriend's excuse. If she wasn't over him she shouldn't have gotten with another man.

If you want to work it out you need to have requirements for her to fulfill before you can trust her: she has to cut off all contact with her ex, has to be completely transparent, and you both need to attend couples therapy. There does have to be a point where you stop crying and start taking action though.

[Asker]

Well I understand her excuse they broke it off and there really was no gap between me and him... At the time I did communicate and asked her was she sure about me and her I'm not trying to be a rebound and she said they were done and over with. She told me she told him about us and she told me she deleted his number a while back also... See I found out she crashed at his house and it was back in January... We hooked up in December so it was like 1 month after we made it official. Still no excuse for cheating but I see her point of view

[HyperOrphic]

I don't. I feel like she was just using you as a rebound but then ended up falling for you. I am sure she loves you, but what she did was completely selfish in my opinion and I don't see it as a justification in any way.

[Asker]

Oh I had my day when I gave her a piece of my mind and yelled at her for it she knows I'm mad about... No excuse. Her falling in love did happen after January which was the time she saw him bc in Fenuary is when she told me she loves me...

[DuhDarling]

It's definitely normal to feel like that and be sad.. But i think your girlfriend is making excuses.. she should not have cheated on you if she really had feelings for you... It's completely fine for you to cry, you're not being a wuss! But you can find someone that will treat you much better..

She cheated once, and she may do it again.. I've learned that throughout the years with people cheating.. Stay strong and best of luck to you!

[Asker]

I exp the once a cheater always a cheater... The main difference is this URL wrote me a 6 page letter and kept blowing up my phone right after I found out and was crying. I ignored her for 4 days etc but now it's going very slow I don't feel like being around her much right now.

[thewanderingme]

of course it's normal. I don't understand why so many men try to hold it in. it's healthy and natural. let it all out until you feel better. and talk. don't just let her see how you feel, tell her.

[Asker]

Trying to be tough but I learned being strong isn't about being able to resist the human emotion it's about embracing them and not being afraid to face them...

[thewanderingme]

exactly! it's good you've realized that. (:

[SunDevil11]

Yes men are not unfeeling emotional robots. We have feelings too dammit and we should be allowed to show them! It is perfectly fine for you to cry especially over something as hurtful as this. That was an awful thing for her to do to you :/ sorry man

[BleachedBurgundy]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NhOJDYPQt2w

You'll be ok. She's a whore.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

Such wise words sensei... :P

[BabeBarlow91]

Why are you asking if its normal to cry when you've experienced such heart-gripping pain? Cry as much as you want to. When pain strikes, let it out.

[Asker]

My guy friends tells me I'm being a wuss so I just do it behind closed doors and today I just got an attack in front of her and I cried and she got really teary eyed and wiped my tears off my face and told me we will be close again don't worry

[SunDevil11]

I hate how guy friends and society have taught guys that showing emotions is linked to being weak and unmanly

[Asker]

In reality it's weak that they are scared to show their emotions... It's strong to be able to control them during certain times like work.

[Klaatu51]

coz she cheated on u? sure dude it's ok.. but don't let this bring u down eh? :-)

[Anonymous]

Its better than what most men would do buy beating the hell out of the other man or even killing him

[Asker]

Can't do nothing about the guy... It makes me sad that the one I love made the decision.. I'm upset at her she is the one I care about.

[Opinion Owner]

That makes since I'm sorry for u I feel your pain I have been there

[Asker]

It's actually crazy when she admitted it she like stood there looking at me and she ask well aren't you going to hit me? I was like huh? No lol

[Opinion Owner]

Why would she say that

[Asker]

I know for sure she was in a relationship were the guy beat her maybe that was it.

[Watermelonoma]

Well she hurt you deeply so I wouldn't expect anything less

[xClassicx]

You're a human that has been hurt. Of course it's okay to cry.

[Minxxie]

Humans cry are you not a human?

[Grant101]

It's fine , there is no greater loss