Can you find your soulmate at 16? Is it better to marry early or later?

[Anonymous]

I am 18 but I met him at 16. We really do care about each other. No he doesn't want me for sex. Yes I am sure.

TWO QUESTIONS AT ONCE! But they are not related. I dont want to marry him until I am like 25.

Yes you can find a soulmate at 16/ Early marriage is better

Yes you can find a soulmate at 16/ Early marriage is NOT better

NO you cannot find a soulmate at 16/ Early marriage is better

NO you cannot find a soulmate at 16/ Early marriage is NOT better

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[gemini888]

I met a soulmate when I was 14. I am 19 now. He's still in my life but not as much as he was before. We were never officially together but I know in my heart we are soulmates and we met to help eachother learn and grow. I think you can meet soulmates at anytime. soulmates always serve a purpose as to why they are in your life. the connection of soulmates is so strong and there is a pull/attraction towards them that leads you to think about marriage and what not. he could definatly and probably is a soulmate but I believe we have more than one that come into our lives to help us learn and grow, I'm not saying this man couldn't be your future husband, because he could, life is full of surprises and changes and we never know whats going to happen. I would just take it one day at a time. don't think about it too much, don't rush into anything. when you know, you know in your heart. listen to your heart. let it flow.

[Asker]

I agree.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Well yeah its possible to find your soul mate at an early age like one of the guys I had classes with in college met his wife when they were still in elementary school or middle school maybe. Its pretty rare now days since people move around a lot and teens go to different colleges and stuff but it still is possible. Just remember wait to get married people change a lot from their teens into adult hood and sometimes there is the possibility that you can grow apart. You also still need to experience a lot of things in your life. For an example I'm 23 and I don't really feel like I'm ready to get married but I have changed a lot from the time I was 18 . Stay with him but wait to get married

[Asker]

Oh I get you bruh. I think we can survive the changes though. Plus he decided to go to the same college as me without me asking cause he wanted to follow me.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Thats good best of luck. Just make sure to enjoy your life before you make a huge comitment there are a lot of things you need to experience like parties, and adult jobs, having an apartment

[Asker]

Thanks :*

[CaliforniaMaki]

It's possible to find your soulmate at an early age. But yeah, like what the others said, people can change over time, both of you. Priorities, character, values, attitude. You still have a lot to go through. You still have to grow as an individual and learn to be not too dependent of each other.

So for me, marriage should come at a later time. Times have changed and the years where our grandparents married early and made it together until they're old can happen, but not as common as it was back then. Marriage isn't just about feeling and being in love. It should be coupled with logic or rational thinking.

[Asker]

Yeah. I think we can make it though but I am NOT marrying him until we are ready.

[ChromeFlux]

People change with time, generally because of events that change them or people. Say you marry at 16, when real life hits and people get jobs and go to college that will change him / you. Say something happens and suddenly you both decide to get a devorce or start arguing too much and you separate because of that, then it's better to marry afterwards so you dont have to get into that before you have already settled into that life. My parents and many others married before college, had kids and couldn't support themselves and the kids while in college. It ruins your college life, / career when you have kids in college and decide to quit. However. I do believe that you can meet your "soulmate" at 10+ really. It's not Likely i suppose, but i do believe it happens. Disclaimer - i am only 15 (about to turn 16 in august) So dont take everything i said 100% seriously.

[Asker]

My grandparents and his parents and grandparents married early and are still together. I think we can survive these changes but thanks!!

[ChromeFlux]

Man now i wanna know how your life will turn out xD i feel like i'm invested now.

[Asker]

lol you need to know our history to be truly invested.

[ChromeFlux]

Either way, Best of luck.

[Asker]

Thank you :D

[ChromeFlux]

Oh that's what i forgot, In middle school my best friend was in a relationship with the same girl (never seperated) from 6th grade up to now. That's why i say about 10+. I truly believe that they'll be together for life. Not once have i seen them argue, not once have they said they didn't want to be around eachother, not once have they ever had conflict, tucker is an amazing guy even from sixth grade he was mature and she is raised from a strict family so they're both very calm and collected but also weird in their own ways. That's what i would classify as soulmate.

[Asker]

Well he and I do argue, he always forgives me and I forgive him. We are very loving of each other. He actually changed colleges for me (he was going to one with all his friends) without me asking or saying anything. And although we are apart, we will be together hopefully some day.

[Anonymous]

It's possible but rare, you are still cahnging a lot at 16 so you probably won't want the same person in a few years. And even if you do there's no reason to get married young, if they're your soul mate you will still be together in 10 years so you can get married then if you feel you need to

[Asker]

Yeah.

[Random_chick_2384]

My parents found each other when they were 18 and got married when they were 19. So far we live in a mansion, they are still together ( 22 years! ), me and my 3 other siblings all have the same parents, we own tons of land too. Life is really good for us. Also better get married now so u have him pined down and he doesn't run off lol. But my moms friend who waited longer got divorces and crsp like that.

[Asker]

A MANSION! Shit! How do they get that much money?

Ignoring that part of my brain. Awe thats sweet! It really depends on the circumstances but I think he and I could be like your parents

[Random_chick_2384]

Yeah. We'll it's not huge huge but it's pretty big. Also they didn't build that house till I was 4 so it took them 11 years of living in a small house first that they remodeled. And my dad didn't go to collage so he opened his own business in masonry and my grandpa gave my mom awhkle bunch of land we raise cattle on. Md my mom had another job. I think at job core and fast food. She also went to law school after we built that house hit she doesn't work. She is a stay at home mom which is great!! But they still have alittle bit left to pay off but they are almost finished paying off the house.

[Random_chick_2384]

My parents are both really smart so they made good life choices. And God has blessed us.

[Asker]

Oh wow. It seems like a nice thing. I wish them much luck!!

[Random_chick_2384]

I wish u luck too. That your life turns out great with this guy. :)

[Asker]

Thanks :D

[Random_chick_2384]

You're welcome! :)

[dolphinsncurls]

my parents got together at 15. married by 21. and they're still together at 45. but I don't think it's a good idea for early marriage. you guys both need to grow, mature, and learn things.

[Asker]

Oh of course but that gives me hope <3

[AlaskanEdition]

I met my wife when we were children in elementary school, started "dating" her at 16 had a few breaks but been together for 8 years now and married for 4... I'm 26

[Asker]

Awee; How have you dealt with changes? Like growing up and such

[KidanisCortes]

early marriage is ALWAYS a horrible idea, just keep dating and marry when you're like at least late 20's and thats still a long shot. Noone marries anymore and those who do usually wait up to like 35

[Asker]

I just read it was better because you are still capable of changing and growing.

[KidanisCortes]

and to be honest soul mates dont exists peopel grind and work hard to make relationships work they dont magically find someone whos perfect

[Asker]

Soulmate to me means someone you love so much that you work hard to keep them

[apexalpha]

Yes it can happen

[Asker]

Cool

[Anonymous]

I think you can.

[Asker]

Okay