Would my girlfriend be mad if I deleted her from my snapchat?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend are arguing about snapchat. I don't like her talking to other guys on it. So I figure if i delete her from it, I won't have a problem with it, because I won't know when she's talking to other guys. I know when she is because of the scores going up. Think she would be mad if I delete/blocked her?

[Ozanne]

Well that is probably the most mature thing I've read all night - taking matters in your own hands to save yourself from it becoming a bigger issue. :) Yes, I say this to compliment you. I think if she knows that very reason is why you want to delete or block her, to rid yourself of bad feelings when she communicates with other guys, then how can she be mad at that? If I was with you, I'd find that so amazing that I'd just ditch any guy that was causing the problem just to keep you from deleting me. I'd tell her what you're doing first and give her the opportunity to change her habits, but it sure shows you aren't doing it to control or make your jealousy issue worse. Then if she agrees, do it then it's out of sight, out of mind. But personally, I think she needs to quit with the chatting since she has a nice guy like you willing to make your own changes to keep your relationship strong. :)

[Asker]

Well thanks for the positive feedback. I just don't like her focusing a lot of her attention on another guy. It just bugs me haha

[PurpleTeardrops]

Yeah she would be mad. Blocking her is childish. If you have a problem with her talking to other guys, tell her so.

by the way when you say "talking to other guys", do you mean she's flirting with other guys? If so, you still need to tell her that it bothers you.

[Asker]

I've told her twice already. But she doesn't seem like she wants to stop talking to them. And I dont think she is flirting. But I dont trust this one guy she's always talking to. He's a friend of ours but i dont trust him, i know him to well. It is a pretty childish thing to think of but when she's not trying to do anything to help me fix this, I have to take matters into my own hands.

[PurpleTeardrops]

I feel for you in your predicament. If you were talking to other girls, everyone knows your ass would've been buried in 5 minutes. jk. You should repeat to her to stop talking to other guys and if she doesn't, you'll block her.

Most likely she'll get mad, but if she really cares, she'll stop.

Why is she talking to that many guys in the first place? Is she not satisfied talking to you? The only man I speak to like that is any boyfriend I have at the time.

[Asker]

She's already mad with me. We haven't talked in about 2 days. But of course. They're still talking right now as I type. I couldn't tell you why she talks to other guys that much. Guess im not as interesting as other dudes at the moment

[PurpleTeardrops]

I don't want to say it, but I think she's "talking" to one of those guys in a flirtatious setting. If she is talking this much to other guys, she's not satisfied in the current relationship. The ball is in your court to either break up with her and find a girl who's more understanding or continue to be unhappy and eventually break up in a dramatic fashion

[Asker]

Yea I hate to say it. But i agree with you. I love her. Been with her for 9 months. I'm not ready to let her go just yet. Me and her are gonna have to go to World War 3 at least one more time before I let her slip away

[PurpleTeardrops]

Good luck to you man. Honestly I hope y'all win that war. I think you just need to get her attention again. Do something out of the blue. Build a pillow fort, get some horror films, have a pillow fight, play hide and seek in a walmart, while you're both in pjs, take a night flight (wake her up in the middle of the night and take a plane somewhere, like monte carlo, florida, lego world)

[Anonymous]

:D yes, you're cute though. Plus if she doesn't agree not to talk to other guys (unless they are really her friends) then deleting her will not solve anything you might need to talk about it

[SomeoneImportant]

Well it's obvious you're hoping she gets mad for the sake of revenge

Why do you care about her talking to other dudes anyway?

[Asker]

I dont know how to explain it. Like she talks to him all day and night. That's not cool with me. I feel like he has no reason to be talking to my girlfriend all the time. She doesn't want to stop talking to him so im trying to take matters into my own hands.

[SomeoneImportant]

You may not be down for this, but I'll share my view on these matters

I've learned that the best thing to do here, is not give a fuck. Think about it, I assume she's at least moderately attractive, so she can fuck that guy if she wants to. The only thing stopping her, is he loyalty to you.

But, she could still fuck him if she wanted to. So, why worry about it? Why sit in fear of something that she ultimately can do at any point?

So what I learned, is you need to not give a fuck. Even if you do, pretend you don't.

Because what you're doing is trying to not only get back at her, but shift this little bit of power. But women's power is you being in fear of what they might do (in this case, you fear something may be brewin between the two, or may at some point in the future)

So to deal with it, you don't care. Simple as that.

[Asker]

Well we haven't talked in almost 2 days. I guess that's a start in not giving a fuck.

[SomeoneImportant]

Yup. But when you do this not giving a fuck thing, don't do it in a "I hope this works" type of way, like you're expecting any results.

You need to truly not give a fuck. Because they can sometimes tell when it isn't genuine and you have a motive behind it

[Asker]

Yea I get what your saying. Thanks for your view on this

[SomeoneImportant]

No problem

[Mesonfielde]

I think you should just stop being insecure jealous possessive controlling.

[Asker]

I mean its not like im trying to be jealous. Im trying to avoid getting jealous and being too controlling by deleting her. If i take her off it, there should be no problem right?

[Mesonfielde]

You have to fix your inner quarrels that makes you think just by talking to any other male she will jump all of their bones and cheat on you, the assumption is incredibly offensive and unreasonable unless she really is untrustworthy in which case there is nothing you can do

[Asker]

I know she's not cheating. I'd never jump to conclusions like that. I just have a hard time seeing someone talk to her almost more then i do. So if i take her off, I won't see how much they talk and i wouldn't be getting jealous as much

[Mesonfielde]

... Just stop getting jealous

[Mesonfielde]

That is nothing but territorial behavior

[e900325151]

But deleting her from it still won't solve the problem

[Asker]

Why not? I think it would.

[e900325151]

But the problem is still going to be there whether you know she's talking to him or not. she's talking to him now on snapchat so of coarse she is going to continue to talk to him on snapchat if you delete her. You never solved anything. You just made yourself feel better for a short period of time. Why does she talk to him?

[Asker]

I know the problem will still be there. But if I can't see her doing it, I know it won't bother me as much. I know she talks to him because he is a close friend of her. He's a close friend of mines too which it annoys me even more. Like they'll stay up til 2 or 3 in the morning talking. In my eyes there is no reason for any other guy to be talking to my girlfriend then. It's not cool with me.

[e900325151]

Talk to him. Tell him (and her) how you feel about this situation. Tbh she doesn't seem like a loyal girlfriend

[Asker]

I feel like if I talk to him a bad situation will unfold. I'm trying to avoid having problems with him. But I've told her twice already. I feel like if she was more loyal she would've stopped talking to him the first time i asked her. But oh well, think I might just have to block/delete her so I can get my point across.

[e900325151]

Just throwing it out there but, are you worried about them two together? I would be freaking out if I were you

[Asker]

No i definitely know they are together like that. Her parents rarely let her go out so I know they aren't seeing each other physically. But I worry because I don't know what they are talking about on snapchat. Makes me think like " what do they talk about all day to still be talking to each other at 3 in the f**king morning." I don't know guess im a jealous boyfriend in her eyes

[e900325151]

Do you want my completely honest opinion of what I think you should do?

[Asker]

Yes I do. Be 100% with me. She's not trying to help me solve this. So i'm hoping someone will

[e900325151]

I don't know you guys or anything but I interpreted it as she doesn't seem loyal. So why do you want someone who isn't loyal to you? She doesn't respect how you feel about this whole situation. So she doesn't respect you at all. If they are talking till like 3 am, that seems a little sketchy. Who the heck talks to someone until 3 am in the morning unless there's something going on between them. I don' even talk to my friends till 3 am. Its very rude of her not to care about your feelings. So why stay with her? Why let her drag you around like a doll? Your her doll. Its seems like you care so much about her but she's not doing the same in return. Its a one sided relationship. Your putting in effort while she's not. I feel like you deserve so much better than her. You aren't suppose to be worried if your partner is cheating on you. Your relationship is not making you happy its making you stressed, anxious, and second guessing yourself. Why would you want a relationship like that?

[e900325151]

Also your friend isn't a true friend because he is still continuing to talk to her knowing that she's with you. Better yet she isn't a true girlfriend

[e900325151]

because she's doing the same

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion. Real helpful. I do care about her a lot. That's probably why I haven't broken it off with her. I keep hoping she'll come through. I don't really want to, but if nothing changes within the next few days I think i might have to take breaking up with her into consideration. Thanks again for helping

[e900325151]

I really truly hope I helped you. Your right. You haven't broken it off because you care for her. But I would def consider thinking about the future and see if she is really worth it

[Asker]

Yea you did help me. I just removed her from my snapchat. And im feeling better since I can't see her talking to him anymore. Not stressing anymore.(= gonna suck when she finds out i removed her tho lol

[e900325151]

can u help me with my problem now? can u private message me

[tslife]

Do it is for the best
or ask her or tell her

[Asker]

I've talked to her about. Now she's just mad. I think i know what i should do.

[tslife]

Lol well u know now