On the one hand women are saying the reason nice guys finish last is because they only going for super hot girls, and bad bitches and ignoring the nice girl.
On the otherhand men are saying that nice guys are not in demand and even the nice girls they go after throw them to the side and go after bad boys. These girls then get used by man whores (bad boys) and become either sluts or bitches. Some guys also insinuate that women only want to date nice men when it is time to settle down and start a family but don't want anything to do with them when they were younger and hotter.
So the question is which oppinion is more grounded in reality: Women's view that nice guys all chase super hot girls, attractive girls and ignore the nice girl or men's views that women don't give a shit about nice guys until it's time to settle down?
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The discrepancies between the sexes when it comes to nice guys?
If they're considered unattractive, they won't get much attention regardless of how "nice" they are. Male or female.
The only difference is that guys really cannot handle rejection. I get it though, they are the ones to put themselves out there more and the ones who put a lot of effort to "impress". But I still think it's childish to get so pissy for being rejected, you know the risks.
Honestly, if a Honey Boo Boo mom or Rosie O Donald looking chick was the nicest woman in the world, would you seriously give her a chance? Looks aren't everything, but you need somewhat of an attraction to your partner.
I don't know why only women get shit for this? It's basic biology. Basic nature. It sucks for those of us who are not "first picks", but I still don't think it's necessary nor appropriate to demonize the opposite gender or give up.
Here's the problem! A man can literally have movie star looks, but if he is very kind, considerate and respectful, most younger women automatically put him into the friend zone! Failure to be a pushy, arrogant ass can make a young man undateable! This changes when women become more mature!
Okay, here's what I think: A lot of times, "nice" guys aren't very attractive. It's the sad truth, but they usually just aren't that cute. They have to be nice becuase if they're ugly AND mean then? It's over for you, bud. xD The super hot guys tend to be "players" or a little on the douchey side because they KNOW they can get a lot of girls. Now, if you are super hot AND nice then wtf YES that's the perfect combination! Most girls (incliding me) want a Pride & Prejudice romance. Being nice isn't a turn-off or anything. Most of the time, the nice guys aren't the attractive ones, and if they are, then they're already taken :/
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I know a lot of hot girls who picked the nerd and got dumped and cheated on the moment when the nerd became successful. Lol
Yeah everybody does that. That's why marriages where the women starts out earning the man end quickly. Everybody takes the piss when they have the chance lmao
The female view is TOTALLY ridiculous in this case! The women show incredible arrogant gall in trying to claim that:
"[nice guys all chase super hot girls, attractive girls and ignore the nice girl]".
I guess it's too difficult for most women to comprehend that nice girls reject nice guys the same as other girls do! Since any fairly decent looking woman is NEVER totally unwanted by the opposite sex, they have no frame of reference to understand that many nice guys really are TOTALLY unwanted by the opposite sex except maybe as a friend! Very few women have EVER faced such a reality!
Every sex has a different view on this. Girls won't undesirable guy's views, and vice versa. I've always gone for the nice girls, and usually bad girls don't like me, and I'm never really interested in them, except for sex. What is true is that when I was what's considered a bad boy/player, I got more girls, not gonna lie, but now that I've grown out of that phase, I still get girls, but in a different way, though.
I have seen nice girls treated like shit when they didn't deserve it, and same with nice guys. Both get treated bad, and both go for the had type many times.
Truth is this: Women hate nice guys when they young and lust for bad boys then grow older and learn to appreciate a good dude.
Women never have problems getting "A" guy. It's just they want a certain type or caliber of man. They think they don't have options because they ignore the guys all around them. Those guys are below her in her eyes. They aren't options in her mind. This is why they say guys go for bitches, because those girls get the guys they want.
Men on the other hand aren't ignoring their options. They genuinely don't have them lol.
To all the lost guy out there, stop being nice. You'll never win a worthy women being like that. Go enjoy your life. You ain't gotta be bad just don't be nice or your out automatically lol.
Iv never gotten a girl acting nice to her. It's always when I'm not nice. Not to say I'm bad but I'm defo not nice. No date, no paying for shit or gifts, no respect for her time. I'm just like hey you seem cool lemme get your number. Then I text probly for 2-3 mins then call and arrange a time for her to come see me at my place. Hit it within 15mins of her being at my place. Don't wait, don't delay, don't think just do. Niceness is weakness to women. Simple
I think the guys are right in this particular case; said "nice guys" aren't necessarily obsessing over "bitches" who admire "only assholes" when clearly even in this image that female is already ridiculously antagonistic (why on earth would you admire someone who hates you by principle).
The "nice guy" is just so toxic with their internalized "misogyny" (yes, I do mean the whole "treat a woman like a princess" thing, considering that's quite clear objectification) that no sane female would ever want a guy like that to want to be with them, especially if the guy just isn't even generally attractive, and their behavior comes off as needy, desperate, and creepy.
There is no "nice girl", especially not one who lusts over the guy. There are just "nice guys" who are completely unaware of their lack of social and emotional intelligence.
ROFL, it's funny how by the time of my vote, 100% of the Male's view votes were from males and 100% of the Women's view were from females.
I voted for the male's view because that's actually something I see and hear all the time.
What bugs me the most though is when girls make children with bad guys and then look for nice guys to raise their children with them. Nope, you picked bad boys, stay with them. It's a shame how some nice guys pay the consequences for some girls' irresponsibility.
@PurpleTeardrops It's also a shame how the vast majority of my down-votes on this site tend to be from females. Don't they know that I just love them all? LOL.
The Jenna Marbles YouTube was not a serious commentary! She described a so called "nice guy" as an unemployed a drug addict who had sex with some girl's pet dog! If you took that trash seriously, you're not too swift! Stop being so silly! You're supposed to be a grown man!
I agree with that cartoon! Lol. The majority of women (not all) like the thug type... but 99 babies later and weight increase, self esteem lowered... then they will want that nice guy. But, by then, mentally, emotionally, psychologically... she is a wreck, because mistreatment was all she was use too, from the thugs.. so the nice guy.. she would mistreat
The woman's view is more grounded in reality because originally those "nice guys" go after girls wayy out of their league and then get made after they're rejected
If a girl had the chance to date someone like Channing Tatum (or whoever else they like, George Clooney, take your pick) they probably wouldn't turn him down if he was "too nice." Perhaps niceness doesn't really factor into the decision.
Both. Nice guys go for the hot bthces, nice girls go for the badass thugs. Neither nice guys nor nice girls really want anything to do with each other.
How does the fact that some people are too attractive for you, make you feel better? People do more often than not, find someone around their attractiveness level, you rarely see a 10 with a 2, and that's because people like to feel equal @Mysterio421
Actually you do see "hot" girls with "ugly" if they have money. Again, you go for someone who you feel is good for you. It's basically an evaluation of yourself and your self esteem. Why do you think that girls settle down with any guy when they want to get married? They become desperate and want to settle down and have kids. Like I always say, water seeks its level.
Money is a well known factor that makes you rise in leagues.. Honestly you're way off, you have no idea what you're talking about, all I see here is the "poor me all women are evil because Im sexually frustrated" mentality. @Mysterio421
What? Lol. I say something that might offend you and then I am sexually frustrated? Lol nice witty response. I get laid very easy, I am just responding to this opinion. Anyways, money is power. Women like money, power and fame. Social status. The more money you have the hotter chick you can get. But I don't believe in leagues. You can get chicks with or without money. I am the opposite of frustrated.
I am not that interesting? I wasn't trying to impress you lol. Your drifting gradually from the topic. I don't have an unhealthy view. I have a reality view on women. Reality can be negative and can hurt times but you have to face it.
I think both views are shortsighted and overly simplistic. There's a lot more to it than just these 2 views I think and there can't be a blanket rule that applies to everyone since we're all unique individuals.
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