What if a guy is taken but still flirts?

[Lolers]

this one guy and I met and connected instantly. We talk all the time and we've confided to each other. He is taken but told Me he isn't hopeful for the relationship. He seems to flirt. Trying to make me laugh and smile(I do the same) touches me on the shoulder or brushes against me, always stares at me and smiles at me and tries to talk to me all the time. What does this mean? What should I do?

[swcclover]

Think of this from the other side. What if you were the girlfriend and your boyfriend was flirting with some other girl? Would you advise that girl to go after that guy? NO

He obviously doesn't respect either of you so therefore you should do nothing. Boys like this should not be given any attention to. If he is flirting with you while he is in a relationship, then he isn't mature enough to be in a relationship. Usually boys will do some little flirting, innocent stuff, but once he encourages you by telling you and gives you hope that he doesn't think his relationship will last, then he's crossing the line. I most certainly wouldn't want my boyfriend to say anything like that to any girl or person. If he doesn't think the relationship is going well then he should break up with the girl, not go out and flirt. You shouldnt be looking for any of these characterisitics in a man. Sorry if it seems like I'm bashing on you, it seems like you are an innocent girl that he is flirting and it isn't your fault. It is his fault, and I don't think you should look to further anything with this guy, for your own benefit.

[Anonymous]

I think that sometimes people can be harsh about these situations. She's his girlfriend... yeah, he shouldn't cheat on her and he should take it seriously, but at the same time a lot of relationships at a younger age aren't destined to last.

I don't think that this means that if you two get together he'll necessarily do it to you too. If relatively young people meet someone they like better than their boyfriend/girlfriend, they'll break up. It happens. He's not cheating, he's flirting. He's testing the waters.

I see it more like he's trying to get a feel for it... see if he really does like you more than his girlfriend. He probably likes her a lot, but then you're there and he's not sure. He's afraid of getting rid of her and then just going to you only to find out that you two don't get along as well as he thought.

He could be scum, yeah. But that isn't necessarily the case.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. Until he breaks up with his gf, he's playing with both you and his gf

[VideoGameist]

Ok, he is stupid and your not being too smart in this situation. He has a girlfriend, and he's flirting with you. I"m not saying your not special, but you KNOW he'll do the same to you if you two got together. And even if he doesn't, you will always think he will and it wold destroy your relationship. If you build a relationship on an untrustworthy foundation it will always be just that. He'll be telling another girl the same thing about you. If your not satisfied in a relationship, you get out of it. If he isn't happy with the relationship, WHY IS HE STILL WITH HER!? He is just greedy, stupid, a liar, and a cheater. He only cares about himself and until he grows up and gains some morals, that's how he'll always be. And that takes A LOT of time. Trust me, I WAS him.

[QueenJane]

It means he wants to play around some more.