:( I hit my 4 year girlfriend because she cheated on me? Am I a bad person?

[Anonymous]

this is how i met her she was a mutal friend and i met her at my friends birthday party, she had lovely dark hair and pale skin and bright blue eyes. She was absolutely stunning and we started talking and built i strong relationship with her...
By the time we were a holding each others hand calling each other boyfriend/girlfriend i realised that i really trusted her and felt like she was a very important person to me. The 3/4 years i was with her i honestly treated her like a princess we would spend a lot of time together, we never really fighted over much. Like i was so amazing to her, i would always tell her she is the most beautiful girl in the world, i would sing to her, buy her flowers if she was upset, i was so romantic and caring, i would massage and kiss her body/feet when stressed, and people honestly thought i was a really confident tall good looking ambitious young man with a good job and good career goals and respected by a lot of people.
As time went by she did become a little bit colder/ we would have sex less and so i asked one of my loyal childhood friends who had never met her properly to find out if she was being faithful.
I remember he wouldn't answer my calls one day and he came to my house and he told me that he found her near a park deep kissing another man he even took a picture of them sucking on a fuckin ice cream together if i didn't believe him :(. I was crushed when he said this, i felt like killing myself, i was so upset and hurt! I remember crying like a fucking baby and had my mate comfort me, how embarrasing! I invested so much love in this relationship! I feel humiliated and a loser!! The next day i arranged to see my girlfriend in alone and i tried my hardest to make her admit she was cheating, and she was acting shocked and delusional.

I was so angry and pissed off, and i called her a cheating whore and smacked her. It wasn't a brutal smack but it was hard, and she knew instantly what i

You should be ashamed

What you did was very bad

not sure

its not bad what i did

she deserved it

[Unapologetic01]

Hitting is not an adult or let say a smart behavior. It's for the weak. Now you're thinking if you what you did was wrong. If you havn't done that, it would have beenvall on her, because what she did was wrong. And now both of you did something wrong to each other. You should have dealt with the situation by talking to her and finding a solution instead of being physically aggressive.

[Asker]

tbh i think i exaggerated because of the guilt, i really didn't hit her hard. I hit her just as hard as she liked me to spank her ass. Im not joking.

[Asker]

i just won't do it again! It does seem very hypocritical, i saw a question like this where the gender was reversed, and the girls were like 'you go girlfriend.' tell me how this is fair

[Unapologetic01]

It's not fair at all. You know how the world is, they think empowering women is by being cold to men and giving them hard time. I'm a feminist but I'm also hand in hand with guys, to the point that I don't even have female friends, what I'm saying that you should be smart when it comes to situations like this, keep your anger inside, sleep on it, and give the person hard time afterwards. Acting this way drive people crazy! it could be by telling them couple of sentences that well thought of. Then the other person will feel like crap, and coming begging for you. Trust me. It works every single time. If you want to be a winner you should have patience and stamina.

[Asker]

well your a good true feminist, most the feminists I know are more interested in female supremacy.

[Unapologetic01]

Female supremacy doesn't exist, or let say can't succeed if females did not work hand in hand with men. Men who are fiminst as well, who has empathy towards women. I believe in equality, for both genders, by listing and helping each other we can create a better world, better relationships. That's just me.

[Asker]

ok, but i think some women need to understand that not all men are privileged. For instance if i did a dog thing and cheated on my girl, i would be seen as a dog. Whereas if she did a dog thing and cheated on me, she would be seen as vulnerable.

[Kamil888]

Shut the f up

[rozequarts]

I dont think you're a "bad person". I thing in the moment you were angry, and you dont have an excuse to slap her, BUT you feel really guilty about it even though she basically ruined your relationship. So yeah that was a bad move to do that, but no, you're not exactly a "bad person" because of it. One mistake doesn't make you a bad person.

[Katerina_Belle]

I think she deserves a slap for trying to deny it...

I don't why people make it a big deal of when a guy slaps a girl, I mean if the roles were reversed and and a girl slapped a guy for cheating everyone would say "yesss. you go girl, he deserved it" etc

As long as it doesn't leave a mark, its good, I always say 😂

[Asker]

well i didn't leave a mark!

[Katerina_Belle]

Ahah then you're good ;)

[brprincess]

Where is the dislike button?
Regardless of what happened a woman shouldn't be abused.

[Katerina_Belle]

@brprincess I'd hardly call that abuse - like I said before if the roles were reversed and the guy cheated and the girl slapped him I bet you would have nothing to say.
Just because she's a woman it doesn't make her in any way superior so that she can do whatever get away with it.

The way you're talking you seem to be one of those where you'd call social services if a mother slapped her child...

[brprincess]

You have your own opinion. A woman nor a man should slap or hit.

[Anonymous]

Everybody will vote "should be ashamed" because you're a man. If you were a woman cheated on by a man everybody would vote "he deserved it". I won't say you were right in hitting her, but I can understand why you'd get so angry, it's the worst betrayal.

[BertMacklinFBI]

and she knew instantly what i... what?

WHAT YOU WHAT?(!)

[PizzaPrincess]

The world may never know

[BertMacklinFBI]

@PizzaPrincess at least i got you

[9mfeo]

@PizzaPrincess he's probably just taking eight years to write the update

[Asker]

@9mfeo what i did that for Happy?

[9mfeo]

That's all? You couldn't have edited out a little tiny piece of that wall of text to fit those minuscule words in?

[PizzaPrincess]

Of course, everyone wants pizza. 😮

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... well that was anticlimactic.

[TheGoofyGoon]

You know what? Man to man.. No in fact gentleman to gentleman, smacking a woman is wrong. If you smack a good woman, you're an abusive piece of shit. Now, a hoe? Especially a hoe who tried/did pull a trick on you and had you worshipping her while she is taking dick from anybody else? Hit her twice. Make sure that evil bitch doesn't forget it. I think its natural. What isn't natural is to literally make someone fall in love with you, and then treat them like they're nothing. I'm all about respect and honesty. You could get away with murder and as long as you don't lie to me or have me manipulated in any way, I will respect anything a woman does. If a girl loves you, they won't cheat, lie, steal, or do anything to hurt you. Someone who loves you can't stand to see you hurt. Now, if you wanna get me strung up on you, thinking you're the one whos gonna bare my children, wear the ring, etc. But you're a deceptive whore? You don't respect me or yourself, and I certainly revoke my love for you, and lose all respect for you. In fact, I think this kind of shit should be punishable by death, maybe not the first or second time but if a person has the audacity to run around hurting people like that, honestly it should be a crime, and most people who have been a victim to this kind of abuse, realize all too well what kind of damage it can do to ones reputation, self esteem, sexual health, etc. My God, what if the bitch gave you HIV? I say cut her fucking whore head off! But times are different and laws protect really shitty people unfortunately. Anyways, good women deserve to be treated good. Hoes deserve to be treated like hoes. Keep your pimp hand strong, there are a lot of hoes nowadays and very few good women. Don't ever try to turn a hoe into a housewife! Never simp, always pimp my friend. I say this with all the respect for women in my heart, I seriously believe in treating all women good. Because of that, I've learned some hard lessons about treating people accordingly. Just because they have a vagina doesn't mean they can get away with murder. Anyone, man or woman, who is fucked up enough to perpetually victimize their partners in this way, deserves to spend the rest of their life alone. You truly are heartless if someone loves you and you just completely use them for your own self interest. That's predatory behavior if you ask me. Preying on someone's emotions like that. For someone to love you, you've had to have spent a good amount of time bonding with them, literally teaching them that it's okay for them to feel that way toward you. Fuck, I hate liars, cheaters, and thieves. If you're a whore, own it! Then it can be respectable. That sneaky shit, that's that shit that can drive people crazy. People kill over love. Don't fuck with peoples hearts! Otherwise you deserve everything coming to you, and you absolutely are in no way shape or form a victim.

[Anonymous]

I guess when I would worry about is this kind of behavior escalating. I mean once you start hitting a woman for reasons that you find valid what’s gonna stop you from hitting women for reasons that are invalid or at least less severe than cheating. I mean say that you and the next woman just don’t really work together and she wants to break up with you when you lead into an argument are you gonna hit her because she wants to break up with you. I’m not saying that you’re going to do this I’m just saying that once you start down this path how can you be sure it’s not going to continue in a situation that it’s less warranted as all I’m saying. So to be clear I’m not attacking you or your character I’m just saying I could see how women that you date in the future might be concerned about this kind of behavior.

[thebritishgirl]

Volience doesn't solve anything. I bet you feel pretty shit about what you've done.

Yes, she is in the wrong from the sounds of things, it seems you two had a very good relationship at the start. You should of just asked her if she's still happy etc instead of asking your friend to spy.

[Truthboi201]

I was with a girl for 5 years. I had liked her 3 years prior. I was about to propose and found out she cheated. I left and bettered myself I nearly died during this process. It hurts but you do not have a right to use physical violence on someone because they cheated. Yes it kills you and makes you so angry but the fact you hit her you should be ashamed. If it was self defence then that’s a different story but if not you are a terrible person. She clearly went for someone she thought she was happier with. It happened to me I still love her now in a way. But the guy she’s with cheats on her loads. Time will tell but hitting someone because you can’t deal with emotions and rejection is pathetic. You need therapy. Honestly disgusted

[Riggers]

Nah, Seems reasonable to me. Nothing wrong with that dude.

[Riggers]

Ignore all these chicks saying you were wrong bro, I gurantee if the genders were reversed and you cheated on ur gal and she hit you, these same girls would be calling for your beating.

You did a pretty reasonable thing I my eyes.

[Asker]

cheers man, i just won't do it again! It does seem very hypocritical, i saw a question like this where the gender was reversed, and the girls were like 'you go girlfriend.'

[zorro8888]

I understand how you feel but cheating doesn't justify physical violence.

Why even give a worthless cheater an extra moment of your time? Just break up with her and be done with it.

[Jxpxtxr]

Yes, she cheated but you should never hit your partner & there's no excuse for that. You should have just broken up with her. Now I really hope for her that she actually dumps your ass tbh.

[Asker]

do you think i am a bad person for what i did?

[Jxpxtxr]

Yeah kinda but then she's a bad person for cheating too so in that sense I guess you're even but don't justify being violent with her cheating on you because it's not a reason to hit someone.

[girlwalltheqs]

By you even asking this question it is clear you have a conscience. You know it was wrong to hit her or you wouldn't be asking this question to begin with. Don't hit a girl ever again, unless it is in self-defence because your safety is being compromised. Lesson learned. As for the girl, she is not to be trusted in a relationship. Stop communicating with her, feel the hurt, feel the pain, cry your heart out in private until the pain becomes less and less as the months and years pass. Get out there again and find a better girl (which you WILL). There are so many freaking women in the world and if you managed to land this less-than-perfect girl you can land someone better guaranteed.

[9mfeo]

There is no excuse for laying your hands on another entity. Ever. You should be ashamed of yourself. I hope she leaves you aNd never comes back.

[RasmusAiken]

Sure she ripped out your heart, stomped on it and threw it back at you But hitting her was uncalled for.
I'd have just walked out of her life with a "Fk U!"

[JustCallMeFae]

Justified to the highest extent. Shoulda hit harder. The law condones injustices, and programs the average person into tolerating Threats, Disrespect, and outright Destruction. I'll wait for someone to justify abusing the person who trusts you the most. It'll most likely be a cheater/someone who oks it by saying "what are you lacking that made them do it". if we made it legal to beat the Fuck out of cheaters, they wouldn't cheat. they would do whats right and Leave first.

[Alexious]

She's a cheating whore and you're a prick who hits people. Match made in heaven.
You don't hit your partner breh, I would have told her to fucking do one.

[AleDeEurope]

I understand your reaction, she probably would've done the same if you cheated on her... but still, violence is never the answer.

[Afro-dite9]

So you're going to hit me Ale...😭😭? I thought u loved me😢

[AleDeEurope]

@Afro-dite9 I'm not gonna hit you cause you haven't cheated on me... or have you? >.>
I said violence is never the answer though :P xD

[Afro-dite9]

I'd never cheat on you I don't share.. I'm selfish but if I was a cheater I'd just say... you knew I was a dog when u met me😂 but yeah I agree... u can this 🐈 like may weather though😈😈

[fauchelevent]

There's no excuse for slapping another person if you're not in danger. What she did was wrong, but you weren't right either.

[samhradh_leannan]

There is no excuse for violence. Learn to deal with issues like this another way.

[Anonymous]

She was wrong, but that doesn't make your wrongdoing amy less bad. You shouldn't hit your partner regardless of the circumstances.

Sounds like she's been a bad partner too though.

[genericname85]

yeah. hitting someone is never ok. if she cheats on you, you leave them. it's not like hitting them will fix that problem either way. learn from that mistake and be better in the future.

[HentaiMaster23]

That's illegal, you should be ashamed of yourself, for hitting someone, what's the matter with you

[Rawrzz]

You should have smacked her again.

[Cantfindone]

have you seen pics, who is this he, who was your English teacher?

[Anonymous]

You just can't go around hitting everyone who pisses you off in life. 😐