RELATIONSHIP with a MUSLIM MAN?

[Marketinglover]

So the guy i'm with is a muslim and I hear muslims aren't meant to have sex before marriage. When I ask him where the relationship is going he always says marriage and has proposed to me two weeks ago, Can muslim men really marry a woman who they've been sleeping with? Whats up with this?

[abosala7]

so first of all.. as a muslim.. he shouldn't have slept with you at all before marriage.. I haven't so far
then.. the guy did that anyway which is wrong for him.. but ok with you.. so.. so far nothing bad has happened to you.. you dated him.. you slept with him.. so probably you two like each other
the man did a good thing.. he proposed ! that's a big deal.. he really likes you that much.. if you're his wife you have his name your children are his you have so many rights to his money if he filed a divorce or if he dies.. you inherit him.. all that stuff.. and if he began to follow islam properly.. he shouldn't sleep with anyone else
he is offering you all that.. the guy is being very good... but.. he's from a different religion.. that's serious.. you guys are in a relationship.. you shit sit together and talk.. do you accept him? if not.. end it.. but you guys should talk..
but really? did you just found out he's a mulsim? why do you sound surprised ! what did you think when all of it started? or is this post a lie for some sick reason?

[Marketinglover]

I knew he was a muslim 7 months ago when we first started dating, I didn't mind then I only started to think about it when he proposed.

[Marketinglover]

I do accept him

[abosala7]

ok.. so the point now is that you two got to the point where you must decide.. to marry each other or to let go.. there is nothing wrong with marring a muslim guy by the way.. why is that strange to you?

[Marketinglover]

It's not strange I just think when we have kids what will they be, do I have to convert? Because I want to stick with my religion.

[abosala7]

no you don't.. and really you should be talking with him about all that.. he won't ask you to do anything more than what you guys already are doing.. kids are your responsibiltiy.. you should both decide on what you want them to be? do you want them to decide or what? it's an important point that you both should discuss now to make the decision easier for both of you.. I wish you both luck

[anonman32]

yes of course they can. if you think American conservatives are conservative then mulsims are a whole new level. i know a muslim who married on age 20 when he only saw his bride once, never seen her naked or anything just married after one date. he was still in school...

[ElissaDido]

Listen, there are hundreds of millions of Muslim men around the world, they're obviously not the same, some can be more secular, others more traditional, there is a wide spectrum.
You have to tell me/us first in what "category" he is. If your man is practicing, he is not supposed to have sex before marriage.
However, some Muslim men are less practicing/religious, and yes why not, they could marry a woman they slept with before, he proposed to you, why would he propose if he doesn't want to marry you?

[Marketinglover]

He said he does want to marry me thats why he proposed. I don't know whats up with that

[A-mac]

There's too many holes. Many people don't consider themselves religious until a certain point in their lives. Maybe marraige (ceremonies) or having children. Will they be Muslim or not?

[Beautifiedgirl123]

Lol at all the people who got the definition of muslims or what they are from the media.

Brainwashing at its finest! 😂😂😂

[RaggaMon]

I know they treat their wives like property and they end up confined at home pumping out babies, doing the cooking and the cleaning.

[Azara]

How is that any different than what 70% of western guys in here vote for?

[RaggaMon]

@Azara I don't know any Westerners in our generation who have relationships like that, I know dudes who joke about that being the ideal, but I know plenty of Muslims for whom that's a reality unfortunately.

[Azara]

Post a poll asking guys what they want you'll see.

[RaggaMon]

@Azara GaG polls belong up rectal cavities.

[Azara]

Fair enough :) so in your destination is gag a rectal cavity?

[RaggaMon]

@Azara It might as well be, there's certainly enough shite here! lol

[ElissaDido]

My father treats my mother better than any of my non Muslim's friends fathers treated their moms, my father is a practicing Muslim.

[Omar5881]

My father washes the dishes , my father brings flower to my mother my father would burn the world if anything happened to my mother , my father never EVER just shouted at my mother , so don't you dare say that about us while generalising 😒

[RaggaMon]

@ElissaDido He's in the minority of Muslims who aren't nutters then.

[RaggaMon]

@Omar5881 yours is too.

[Omar5881]

Actually I've never seen a middle eastern in my circle of people treats his wife badly , unlike I saw in my westerns friends

[RaggaMon]

@Omar5881 I didn't see it when I lived in Oman to be fair, but in Turkey I saw it regularly and now living in Europe I see it regularly. I don't really care, what people do is up to them. lol

[Omar5881]

I was talking more about my country , and emirates too I was there for a time

[RaggaMon]

@Omar5881 That's cool and all that, but there's enough dudes bringing your religion into disrepute that it's a problem, you can't do a great deal about that except condemn it I suppose, which I'm sure you do.

[Omar5881]

Well true won't argue with that , but the relgion has nothing to do with people's act truly , for example you se many Christians in the west doesn't follow Christianity that much same happened to Muslims

[ElissaDido]

"minority of Muslims" How do you know anything about traditional Muslims families? Are you Muslim? Did you grow up in a Muslim environment? Except from what you see on TV what do you know? My father is actually the norm. If anything the average Muslim man treat his woman better than the average non Muslim man from my personal observations.

[RaggaMon]

@Omar5881 I think it has got something to do with religion (which is why I dislike religion in general, Christianity, Islam, Catholicism etc) but that's a whole other can of worms I can't be arsed with, it's nearly bedtime.

[Omar5881]

Lol agreed it's bed time

[Omar5881]

@ElissaDido they are just waiting for the one case one one one so they can hold it and spot the light on it and BOOM Islam and Muslims are barbarians.

[RaggaMon]

@Omar5881 drop the victim card, you can pick it up again when I'm tucked in! :p

[RaggaMon]

@Omar5881 I'm off, have fun with it.

[Omar5881]

Oh fuck I meant to post that on another opinion o swear 😂 apologies lol

[RaggaMon]

@Omar5881 :O you can kiss my massively hairy behind! lol :p

[Omar5881]

😂 😂 😂 😂

[abc3643]

Run away from this relationship as quickly as possible.

[Oram52]

Even if he wasn't Muslim this doesn't feel right. I can just advise from my gut feeling here as don't know much. Proposing you like this is odd. My advise end it.

[cherrymarina]

him being muslim don't mean a thing. Not all muslims are alike. It depends on where he comes on how he was raised etc.

[Byakuyarko]

Don't marry him. You'll probably have to convert to Islam... It isn't worth it

[ElissaDido]

If she's christian or Jewish, she doesn't have to.

[Byakuyarko]

@ElissaDido?: believe me... If marrying a muslim didn't guarantee pressure to convert to Islam, Muslims will never propose marriage.

[ElissaDido]

2 of my uncles are married to christian women and they didn't convert, they never asked them to.
And by the way I come from a religious family.

[Byakuyarko]

@ElissaDido: not all Muslims are as chilled out as you... Muslims make the best friends you'll ever have... But I'm never going to be convinced that marrying them is great idea.

[ElissaDido]

I'm more religious than the average 2016 Muslim.

[Byakuyarko]

@ElissaDido: religious as compared to whom in which part of the world? Religious Muslims are into cutting themselves on muharram, where I live.

[ElissaDido]

What is this? Cutting?

[Omar5881]

That's shitte Muslims dude , and @ElissaDido I told you don't waste your time

[Omar5881]

@ElissaDido you know when you always tell them that doesn't happen to us they say well you aren't like the rest even if everybody else says the same 😂

[ElissaDido]

@Omar5881 I know right? Lol oh yeah I think he's talking about the thing that Shias do.

[Omar5881]

@ElissaDido yep they do it to feel sorry for sydna Ali ibn abi talib , but Shias disagree with Islam in many concepts as they think that Gabriel had the prophecy to muhammad " by mistake " and it should have been given to Ali as he's braver , that's why sunnis and shias arw MAJOR difference

[Offthelist]

If you love him at least give it a shot before assuming he'll treat u badly.

[Anonymous]

It depends on his personality and how religious he is.. I know a girl who married a muslim man & she's totally fine and he didn't even ask her to convert islam but they didn't have sex until marriage 👍👍👍 so yeah it depends...

[Omar5881]

MUSLIM MAN DAMN HE MUST BE DIFFERENT HE MUST BE NIT LIKE ANYONE just because he's a Muslim man

He's normal guy just ask him you expect 1.6 billion to think the same way? 😒

[Anonymous]

Are you crazy? Why would you get involved with a Muslim? You must be a glutton for punishment..

[Marketinglover]

Because they're normal like everyone else

[Opinion Owner]

They are not normal. There basics beliefs are out there. But it is your life... better you than me.

[Anonymous]

So he's been pumping your before marriage? Well, their religious scripture is clear about that, you must now sacrifice your head in peace offering to Allah

[AssJacket]

I knew a Muslim guy once - he was totally against sex before marriage. Except when he wasn't.

[Melcart23]

You don't want to be with a Muslim man. Trust me. Go find somebody else.

[kemalim13]

i am muslim and i can fuck with every women even you;)

[April10]

Well he proposed didn't he?

[Dred1614]

He'll make you convert. Be careful.

[Marketinglover]

How can he make me convert?

[Dred1614]

He's Muslim. Either him or his family will forcibly convert you to their faith.

[ElissaDido]

Nah bullshit, 2 of my uncles are married to christian women and they haven't converted.
( 13 years and the other one for 35 years.)

[Dred1614]

@ElissaDido irrelevant

[ElissaDido]

Not at all. When the information comes from the source it's not irrelevant.

[Dred1614]

@ElissaDido It is irrelevant because I am talking about the Islamic Faith treating women like dirt. I'm not talking about men being forced to convert to Christianity.

[ElissaDido]

Well as a Muslim woman I'm telling you that it's not the case.

[Dred1614]

@ElissaDido Thanks for your most invaluable input.

[TheFlak38]

This is going to end bad for you.