Divorce. Its difficult to build something together, then watch it dissolve right in front of your eyes. Its expensive, its messy, it fucks with you mentally and emotionally, and it can all be avoided by never marrying.
What scares me about relationships in general is committing to the wrong person. What happens if I get into a relationship with a girl and a year later a better match comes along? I'd feel like such an ass for breaking up so I can trade up.
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Going in with that opinion, you're setting yourself up for failure. Ever heard of the "Power of Positive Thinking"? Basically it's if you think positive and be optimistic, positive things will come to you.
If that doesn't help you, here's the best marriage advice I was ever given. If there is any doubt in your mind, ANY at all. Don't marry her. In this case it's probably him but it applies to all relationships that could turn into marriage.
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I'm afraid of accidentally getting pregnant like if the condom would leak etc. (because this does happen). I'd be terrified to be a mom at this age, or any time soon, and if I considered an abortion well that would be terrifying as well. I dunno, I overthink everything 😞
I'm scared of ending up with someone that I end up loving but provides no mental stimlation or stops being mentally stimulating. I can only cope with so much small talk before i want to kill myself
I'm scared of having a bad marriage in general. Where he ends up changing on me for the worse and I see an ugly side of him whether thats abuse, cheating or neglect. I want a healthy happy satisfying marriage in every aspect.
Falling in the same routine or circle of my previous relstionship. Her getting bored of me/ loosing interest And the biggest thing is her cheating on me emotionally or physically. With that "hes just my friend" person.
Nothing really, relationships aren't scary. I guess you could say being cheated on. But it's not a fear that'll keep me from pursuing something with someone I'm interested in. Some people use that as an excuse to be cold a distant, not me.
The scariest thing is either your love will not last / fade. Or they tell you your not good enough (cheating, physical or mental) Or the though of being soo happy to ultimately lose them to some freak accident.
I mean it would suck if someone cheated. Am I worried that the person might be a cheater? No, I never think/focus on the possible negatives, in anything in life really. Positive outlook, if I believe I will achieve! Haha
A relationship where my feelings or sacrifices aren't reciprocated, a fear of getting cheated on or being abandoned and a guess a fear of child birth or of health problems associated with the pregnancy.
The 50 per cent probability that everything that I own will be stolen by the Family Court and that I will end up homeless and starving on a park bench.
Never being able to get one solely on the fact that I am a virgin at my age. I'm regularly told when dating I'm a fun guy with great attributes, but once they find out I haven't had sex before, none of that matters. I can't change my past.
The thing that scared me is that the other person will all of a sudden just turn cold on their feelings (something WOMEN DO TOO MUCH> ROAR >GRRRR) haha
I think for me its the fear of picking the wrong guy and it all falls apart in divorce and u wished u had married a particular person that u didn't get to or someone else in general.
Never managing to have even the faintest, briefest taste of being in one, and dying as a sad, lonely virgin. Better to have loved and lost than to have never been loved at all. Far, FAR better.
Getting rejected.. Here is my story i like to share with you After giving my heart even 3 months of me knowing my first ex girlfriend than hearing her tell me that she wanted break up with me oh wow that day was horrible for sure.
I suppose the same as you, or maybe even them losing interest and me feeling alone and trapped in a marriage with someone who is no longer able to cater to my emotional needs anymore.
@frozenhorizon oh my, are people actually that dumb? One of the major reasons people marry a person is because that person is able to meet your emotional needs... it's obviously going to be a scary thing if the person you married stops being able to meet those needs.
@frozenhorizon well, maybe you won't think it's such a bad reason if you unfortunately end up having to break up with a person because they couldn't meet your emotional needs anymore.
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Divorce. Its difficult to build something together, then watch it dissolve right in front of your eyes. Its expensive, its messy, it fucks with you mentally and emotionally, and it can all be avoided by never marrying.
What scares me about relationships in general is committing to the wrong person. What happens if I get into a relationship with a girl and a year later a better match comes along? I'd feel like such an ass for breaking up so I can trade up.
Going in with that opinion, you're setting yourself up for failure. Ever heard of the "Power of Positive Thinking"? Basically it's if you think positive and be optimistic, positive things will come to you.
If that doesn't help you, here's the best marriage advice I was ever given. If there is any doubt in your mind, ANY at all. Don't marry her. In this case it's probably him but it applies to all relationships that could turn into marriage.
I'm afraid of accidentally getting pregnant like if the condom would leak etc. (because this does happen). I'd be terrified to be a mom at this age, or any time soon, and if I considered an abortion well that would be terrifying as well. I dunno, I overthink everything 😞
I'm scared of ending up with someone that I end up loving but provides no mental stimlation or stops being mentally stimulating. I can only cope with so much small talk before i want to kill myself
I'm scared of having a bad marriage in general. Where he ends up changing on me for the worse and I see an ugly side of him whether thats abuse, cheating or neglect. I want a healthy happy satisfying marriage in every aspect.
Falling in the same routine or circle of my previous relstionship.
Her getting bored of me/ loosing interest
And the biggest thing is her cheating on me emotionally or physically. With that "hes just my friend" person.
Nothing really, relationships aren't scary. I guess you could say being cheated on. But it's not a fear that'll keep me from pursuing something with someone I'm interested in. Some people use that as an excuse to be cold a distant, not me.
The scariest thing is either your love will not last / fade. Or they tell you your not good enough (cheating, physical or mental) Or the though of being soo happy to ultimately lose them to some freak accident.
I mean it would suck if someone cheated. Am I worried that the person might be a cheater? No, I never think/focus on the possible negatives, in anything in life really. Positive outlook, if I believe I will achieve! Haha
A relationship where my feelings or sacrifices aren't reciprocated, a fear of getting cheated on or being abandoned and a guess a fear of child birth or of health problems associated with the pregnancy.
The prospect of never getting in to one.
That or her not being in love with me.
The 50 per cent probability that everything that I own will be stolen by the Family Court and that I will end up homeless and starving on a park bench.
Never being able to get one solely on the fact that I am a virgin at my age. I'm regularly told when dating I'm a fun guy with great attributes, but once they find out I haven't had sex before, none of that matters. I can't change my past.
The thing that scared me is that the other person will all of a sudden just turn cold on their feelings (something WOMEN DO TOO MUCH> ROAR >GRRRR) haha
Getting cheated on mostly. I'd never ever forgive a cheater.
But also the emotional roller coaster relationships put you on is scary to me as well.
I think for me its the fear of picking the wrong guy and it all falls apart in divorce and u wished u had married a particular person that u didn't get to or someone else in general.
Never managing to have even the faintest, briefest taste of being in one, and dying as a sad, lonely virgin. Better to have loved and lost than to have never been loved at all. Far, FAR better.
Getting rejected.. Here is my story i like to share with you
After giving my heart even 3 months of me knowing my first
ex girlfriend than hearing her tell me that she wanted break up
with me oh wow that day was horrible for sure.
Jesus Christ sweetheart, a guy would have to be an idiot to cheat on you.
If you keep up with those debating skills he might lose his mind and divorce you though 😂😚😚😍
Haha would you divorce me for that xD ?
No, I wouldn't <3
But I can already see myself getting frustrated haha <3
Hahahaaa I must of frustrated you LOT already hahahah xD mwahahah >:D
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Hahaha mmmm does this mean it's a yes ;p?
I suppose the same as you, or maybe even them losing interest and me feeling alone and trapped in a marriage with someone who is no longer able to cater to my emotional needs anymore.
Why marry someone because they cater to your emotional needs? wtf
@frozenhorizon oh my, are people actually that dumb? One of the major reasons people marry a person is because that person is able to meet your emotional needs... it's obviously going to be a scary thing if the person you married stops being able to meet those needs.
I realize it's a major reason, I just think it's a bad reason :D
@frozenhorizon well, maybe you won't think it's such a bad reason if you unfortunately end up having to break up with a person because they couldn't meet your emotional needs anymore.
I have most of my emotional needs covered myself, so I dunno. Maybe.
@frozenhorizon likewise. Which is why it's a waste of time having someone in your life who can't enrich them further.