My husband bought me a gym membership for Christmas?

Question

Do I have a right to be upset about this?

AnyaKarun · Accepted Answer

I assume that you're angry because you believe he's insinuating that you're fat. But I think you shouldn't assume too quickly. Is he a physically active guy who enjoys working out? Like others have suggested, maybe he just wanted to work out with you, lots of couples do it. It would be his way of getting closer to you.

And even if he isn't a gym guy and doesn't have a membership himself, what if he thought you'd like to have fun at the gym? Lots of girls enjoy getting active there, maybe he assumed you'd love it as well?

either way, it's ok to be dissapointed with the gift, but unless he admits that was his intention, you shouldn't be angry with him. Talk to him if you don't like it, tell him you appreciate the gift but if you don't plan on using it there is no point in wasting money

musicbrain5 · Accepted Answer

Why is that bad? Does he also have a gym membership? Maybe he wants to work out with you. Or he thought you'd he interested in working out or staying in shape.

I'd understand being upset it he bought you a Weight Watchers membership or something, but I thinkna gym membership is great and it doesn't mean he thinks you're fat. The gym is not just for fat people.

If it's really not the kind of gift you want and you know you're never going to use it, be honest with him. The gym isn't for everybody.

snowangle · Accepted Answer

Have you indicated that you'd like a gym membership or you'd like to be more active or something?

In my experience, guys tend to be very practical when it comes to gift giving. They don't seem to think "what would my lady like?" and instead they think "what does my lady need?" It's very possible he has good intentions here, but yeah if you've never indicated wanting to exercise more I would be a little miffed.

Wonderer89 · Accepted Answer

It depends, did you ask for one or say at some point you'd like to go but can't afford it? If so I think it's quite a thoughtful gift. If it's come out of no where then I'd be pretty upset

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think either you're making this up, or you're fat, do you even have a husband? Do you?
Just in case you do, he meant well, maybe it's an activity he wants to share with you, you can bitch about it, and by doing so you will be killing your marriage every day a little, until he's cheating on you with a girl he met at the gym, and you'll be asking in this very site the question: " why are men so unfaithful" , there's so many bad things happening, so much pain in the world, that someone caring enough to give you
A gift should be treasured, not critize, but do whatever you want, kill your marriage one day at time by being mad when your husband gets your a present, best of luck

lualesca · Accepted Answer

You have the right to feel however the fuck want, but your husband when he married you, he accepted your weight at the time, but he didn't agreed that you gain so much weight.

SensualScribe · Answer

You have the right to be upset, but if he is suggesting that you lose weight, that is probably one of the best ways to do so. Did you ever think that perhaps he is concerned for your health and it is not just about looks? If you have gained a significant amount of weight and he loves you, he should be concerned and want to try to help. That doesn't mean you cannot be upset about it. You should have a conversation about it and see what he says. Go from there.

TexanCowgirl · Answer

Why not use the membership and get a better, HEALTHIER, you for 2017. Even if this is a subtle hint from him, he wants the best for both of you. You can take that with anger, which will totally hurt your relationship, or be happy and let him be happy as well.

JudgmentDay · Answer

To me this sounded like your husband wanted someone to workout with and go to the gym with him. Try it first, you might like it, who knows? There's all kinds of fitness equipment in a gym. Maybe they might have a pool you can swim in. If you really don't like to exercise, I can understand why you'd be upset. But what do you really want for a Christmas present?

Xfitchick · Answer

Why should you be upset? Did you explicitly tell him you don't like gym? Maybe from conversations with he concluded that you would like some other sport than you do now or you mentioned that you have people around you that go to the gym and its a good place for social contact. Be happy, because a gym membership is expensive, so its nice gift to get

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

You got your Christmas present four days before actual Christmas? Wut?

I think that depends - have you two talked about your weight as an issue before? Or talked about getting healthier in the New Year? If so I wouldn't be too fuzzed about it, especially if he's paying for it. Free yoga mayne.

kelly173815 · Answer

Lol, my dad bought my step mum a gym membership for her 50th Birthday, and it was when we threw a big party for her and everyone was asking what he got her 😂😂 he said he didn't even think of it in that way, he just thought since he had one it could be something they could do together.

anaspie · Answer

What? NO! That's awesome! One less reason not to get yourself to your healthiest version of yourself. Say thanks and get to the gym! He's giving you something to help you be the best and healthiest you that you can be.

super147 · Answer

Why don't you return the favour? Get him some breath mints, some hair dye, some anti ageing cream and some medication for flatulence. See if he appreciates the self improvement hints too, lol

madhatters4 · Answer

sure you have the "right" to be upset. you have the right to experience any emotion you want

but i would presume that my partner has good intentions in every act they do in regards to me so i would try not to take it as an offense

Death_of_rats · Answer

get over it princess, be grateful you got a present. Why are so many women spoiled little brats these days?

writeinconcrete · Answer

Yeah don't be upset, maybe he wants gym time to be a bonding experience. There are hella cute couples working out at gyms these days.

JulieXO · Answer

Just say thank you? MAybe you'll develop a new hobby :)

SmokemJay · Answer

So you're basically offended because you're fabricating this idea that he's calling you fat? Look if you're fat your fat, but there is something you can do about it...

DidDesiDooThat · Answer

I'd be upset yet be like:

Dleighton · Answer

I personally don't feel so; while I understand "the flip side" of the argument, the truth is society is basing their trends around fitness. so maybe he simply didn't know what to get you, or do you have a good friend that goes to the gym? so many options that all equate to the over analyzing of a simple gift.

lightbulb27 · Answer

are you translating this as you are not attractive? you are seeing the negative instead of positive. the positive is he cares.

Phoenix98 · Answer

And what's wrong with a gym membership? I'd love a gym membership for Christmas lol.

DougTheDingo · Answer

You have a right to feel any emotion yes. It wouldn't be justified to be mean to him though because he did nothing wrong.

Miss_Behave · Answer

No, you don't be upset about it. Be appreciative. Gym memberships aren't very cheap.

Princeofanons · Answer

He is definitely hinting about something, but maybe he would just like to spend some time with you and work out together in the gym.

egi22 · Answer

Don't be upset. It's a very good gift. He cares about your health and want you to be happy.

Jager66 · Answer

No, be happy he wants you to be healthy. Get him one as well and you guys go together, couple who exercise together are happier.

Blitzkrieger · Answer

what a considerate guy, he cares about your physical well being.

SarahsSummer · Answer

better than a vacuum cleaner but yeah. Unless its so you two can work out together, thats cute.

Prof_Don · Answer

Have u talked about wanting a gym membership lately?

neoagent1 · Answer

It's a good way for a guy to land in the dog house if you buy a gym membership for her and NOT one for yourself. Did he buy one for himself too?

singlebee · Answer

Nope that just means he is just telling you in a indirect way to work out... Nothing wrong with that

Galaxy21 · Answer

Seems like you're overthinking it because you find it a bit offensive, but I think it's just good will paired with poor judgement, nevertheless it's a nice gesture

jman46241 · Answer

So you think he's suggesting you lose weight?

Anonymous · Answer

you are either trolling or you are fat and not apprciative. either way, we dont care.  we are not married to you. go have your cake.

onxue · Answer

Not really. He prolly is concerned about your health and wellness.

NajemEddine · Answer

wow women get offended for everything  does he go to gym

Dred1614returns · Answer

His gift should be a new wife if you're upset about this.

Anonymous · Answer

I would be happy to receive that gift. Who doesn't want to be hot?

Mr-Kabuki · Answer

working is out is one the best things in the world. be thankful!

es20490446e · Answer

Did you told him that you were interested in something like that?

TacosRAwesome · Answer

You have the right to be upset in the sense that all feelings are valid. But

Mandylo · Answer

Of course not. Exercice and get ur fat burned for ur husband not to look at other women. That's what he meant I bet.

chrisbigman · Answer

No. Why would you be? I'd grab the membership if I could.

Anonymous · Answer

Well why don't you take your fatass to the gym then

MisterSir · Answer

sorry, but this made me lol... i'm a bad pikachu 😢  but feel however you want to feel...

AdamThomas · Answer

Would you rather he bought you cake?

Anonymous · Answer

He wants you to look your best. Maybe he is a little embarrassed to have you around in public now?

Anonymous · Answer

Such a lovely attitude you have. You should be lucky you even got something.

Izumiblu · Answer

Why woud you be upset?

HaveNoName · Answer

He has the right to care about your health.

Anonymous · Answer

eh, your health is important to him, I guess

sweetheaven · Answer

ask him in case of doubt

charlottejones52 · Answer

Well if you don't want it, give it yo me lmao

Thrifty · Answer

You can say thanks and just not go

Liisjak · Answer

If you're in shape, yes.

ConfuseATron · Answer

nope. be happy

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

No, use it.

mourad63 · Answer

You have no right

Anonymous · Answer

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