Do men always get bored with their partner?

[Pixiedust33]

I just want to know how many of you have had relationships and hit a stagnant period where you are bored and want someone else. I mean you may really love the woman you are with, but is that enough to keep you with her for the long haul? Or do men just have a primal need to explore other females even if they are committed to a woman. Is it realistic to seek a monogamous relationship these days? I mean a long-term one. Because you see old people who were high school sweethearts and are still together, but that doesn't happen today. It is rare. Why isn't one woman enough to keep you content? I started off with an amazing love, and now he is gone after 5 years. How could he decide he wants someone else? I just don't understand. Is this due to the over-sexualization of our culture? Or have we as a society been conditioned to accept things that normally we would be shocked by? It seems to be getting worse and there is such a complacency present in the mindset of our society, it seems that anything goes. Why aren't people listening to their hearts?

[thetheme]

It really depends on the guy. Just like when girls leave a good guy to find someone more exciting and a challenge, guys will move on to someone that is always going to satisfy their needs as well as letting the comfort shine and stand out. A relationship has to have some excitement, variety, chemistry, and sexual activity in order to survive. Some people get so comfortable in a relationship. They figure that they did all the good crazy stuff in the begining and when it gets to a certain stage they shouldn't "have to" do it anymore. Men will not cheat and or leave when he's getting everything he needs and wants at home. Those men are out there, but they are not wanted by women because they are not attracted to those men. Also back then when people stayed together, women and men knew their place in and out of the home, there wasn't cell phones and the internet where all kinds of flirting can take place, and the main reason to even find someone back then was simple. It was man being a provider, a father, king of the castle. There was no talk back, no conflict, but everything was still great. For the woman it was being a mom, keeping the house in order, raising the children, cooking, cleaning, and enjoying sex with her husband. Everything was hard working, sexual and dramaless as possible. Now all of that is different. Many women don't enjoy sex, men and women have all this technology to have people on the side just in case, things become "boring", good men and women aren't appreciated. The list gos on and on. For the most part it's not about love. If it were then nice guys wouldn't finish last and women would be attracted to them, then happiness would follow. Both men and women are guilty of all of this, but it starts with pointing the finger in the mirror, not at others while making excuses. Most people KNOW who the good men and women are that will have a mogogamous relationship with, the problem is that those people aren't attracted to them...

[Trihill]

first, it's a two way street. women and men do what your describing.

second, with all this technology, there should be no excuse to fall out of love. communication has gotten cheaper, faster, and a lot more conveniently available to stay in touch no matter where you are in the world.

if people fall out of love, it's because one or both aren't ready, plain and simple. another reason is that communications of intimacy was terminated by one partner.

my current girlfriend I've known since high school, and we are planning to marry in a few years once we get back together. it has been monogamous for over 13 years now. communication has kept us together in the long-distance parts and creativity has helped with keeping us monogamous when we are together.

from what you wrote, I need to add that you need to listen to your mind, heart, and soul. once you do this, you will discover something special about love. you will understand that sex is the fastest way to kill a relationship. you will understand the dynamics of couple harmony, which is key to not getting bored.

[archn]

Yeah all guys will get bored of their partner no matter how hot she is. Our brains are just wired to look at other girls. The trick is getting him not to act on those feelings. But don't be hurt if he looks at someone else. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you.

[chiefnavarro]

do women always get bored with their partner