Basically, Tdiseseler got it right... from start to finish... ehem.
I'll say this, though... like, the thought of you having your dingaling in 4 other chicks and then wanting to stick it in mine (especially any being without condoms), and the thought of your lips being all over a chick's nasty-@ss face/body times four and then wanting to put them same lips on me? It's gross. Men don't generally tend to think about, "Okay, where has all of her stuff been?" and that be enough of a turn-off because you all do and are okay with a lot of nasty things (not meaning that as an insult, but it's just true). When women find out her man has cheated, one of her top two feelings will be disgust--especially if you try to touch her. That is basically about what I'm describing. For me, a cheater would never be able to get back in good with me just for that very reason. You now have a nasty-@ss d! ck and nasty-@ss lips that will not touch me again. Yes, I know you had other girlfriends. But you can't carry on with me and someone else at the same time without my feeling disgusted--I don't want her pvssy juice inside of me.
But, you know, like I told someone else on here... if you don't want to be monogamous, just tell women upfront instead of lying and cheating. There are more and more women who will have casual NSA sex with you. It's different strokes different folks, not to mention a general difference between men and women.
He's right about female squeamishness. I aim to change all of that so we could have a nation of prostitutes.
It's not about women being squeamish and prudes. It's because we have different needs, and we are not going to be subservient to you and your needs. If you don't see that it's your problem.
@raspberry0416 What if I was subservient to my 5 partners? You're assuming a lot about the structure of the relationships. It's a type of mutual agreement, not a forced indenture.
Wow, look who's talking about being selfish. You judge women for wanting one partner for life yet you want to have a fiesta sleeping around with 5 women. This is a human need as well as a want. We're supposed to be fruitful and multiply and stick within the order of marriage and the family unit. If you want to live the life of a tramp all your days, that's on you and everybody else that is all on board. But this need to be with one partner is genetic and has been with us because that is what humans are supposed to do. Find 1 partner for life and stick with them. That is what's stable. Not what you're doing.
Other men feel the same way and want's 1 partner, 1 girl/woman who he wants to be with for life. Like Jesus says which is the truth, some are called to marriage, others are not, and there are those who are enuchs for the sake of the kingdom. In other words, people who choose celibacy. If it is not your desire to get married, then so be it. As long as these women you sleep with knows the deal with your intentions, I don't see why you feel the need to ask something that is so natural. You have a very unhealthy and negative attitude towards monogamy. Don't know who made you bitter, or who influenced your life, or had family issues, parents divorced, I don't know. Whatever happened, all I know is I just see you wasting your life and the lives of these 5 women.
Men need multiple partners. Women need multiple partners. There's a reason why we eat different things for breakfast, lunch and dinner. They are designed for different things. The same with people!
Women don't NEED one partner. It is not a human need to reduce your cravings to one supreme idea in your head. In fact genetically that's tantamount to putting all your eggs in one basket. It is supremely risky. Diversifying is much more prudent. If you keep pushing me I'll make marriage illegal, how about that huh?
So basically you're comparing me to Tiger Woods?
What is a sin? Please define it for me. Oh and please explain how you know what a sin is?
Lol. Because most people dont want their love of their life having sex with others, most people like loyalty. It keeps life simple and moral. It makes the relationship more important and serious. What if your girlfriend and you asked her" Hey i wanna make love to you tonight, come babe", and she told you "babe, i prefer to see my other boyfriend tonight, sorry" ... or if she spent a lot of money for a gift for her other boyfriend and not so much on you... wouldn't you be jealous? and if she told her other boyfriend that she love him in front of you? or if she sees more other guys than you? what if she finds the other guy more handsome? what if she loved him more?
But they are all the loves of my life. I love all of them. That's the best way I can live.
You are the one being selfish by not accepting the fact that other people should feel free to do whatever the fuck they want with their own lives. As long as their choices don't harm you or other people, I don't see the reason why you would complain about that. If you want to get involved in something like that, find like-minded people. It's that simple. You're polygamous and you expect all of us to turn polygamous? That's ridiculous and insane. Why should you be the one who dictates us how to live?
Your choices harm me if I need you for sex and you are not there to provide it. With more polygamists who are young and attractive this means more opportunities to enjoy life with them. This is why I'm encouraging people to release their social shackles and embrace the monkey spirit inside. Girls have admitted to me before how they have crushes on multiple people yet feel forced to choose one. I know it's there. I don't see why this is so controversial to you?
There are women who have crushes on multiple women, but you have to realize that there are women who don't. I do not see why this is so hard to grasp. You are being way too selfish and self-centered. You cannot alter the world to satisfy your needs and you cannot expect it to change just for you.
I think I can alter the world to satisfy my needs. I do not expect it to alter just for me, rather I would prefer that it alters for me and my chosen partners. At some point even random people on the street will become polyamourous and you will be able to approach them for dating without fear of judgment or harassment. Wouldn't that be nice?
The choice of picking a woman to bring you babies is not comparable to the choice of picking a restaurant or other things to bring you food. Restaurants won't point it out to you with your selectiveness because they have no emotions. Women will point that out to you because she has emotions. Women bring you babies. Restaurants bring you food.
The New Testament abolished polygamous relations and declared that 1 man and 1 woman is what defines a relationship/marriage. There's no such thing as homosexual marriage because God doesn't define it as marriage to start with. Marriage must unite male and female as 1 flesh. Technically speaking, a boyfriend/girlfriend is not a relationship but a precursor to what can be a relationship. Boyfriend/girlfriend is just a placeholder. At least it's higher than having nothing at all but if you are not married to the opposite sex, then you are not in a relationship. To truly be in relationship, you must not have more than 1 person involved and it must be of the opposite sex. Sexual relationships are sacred and distinguished from friendships and family. Relationships, friendships and families are all different. Relationship is the marriage bond. Friendships is your collection of friends and family are those in your kin line.
You have 5 partners? lol.. Are you really 47?
To be honest, monogamy is in their nature... but its not in ours... and that is why it happens. We can't question nor defeat nature. we can only bend.
Women want monogamy, men want women, men HAVE to bow to monogamy...
(except for the few smart ones who can do both)
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u Women are not the only ones who enjoy monogamy.
Because when you're 70 or 80 or even 55, you appreciate that one person who has been with you through thick and thin.
Your 5 partners probably don't care about you to a great degree. If you were in a tragic accident or got some disease, you might not see them again.
You are thinking of monogamy as only limiting freedom, since 5 > 1.
However, you are missing the depth of relationship that monogamy affords.
So, I have much more freedom to enjoy my wife (especially in intangible ways) than you have with any of your individual "partners".
Your problem is that you view investing yourself in one person negatively. The great thing about monogamy is that it's mutual and reciprocal (and if it's not, you're with the wrong person anyway). Yes, you have to give someone else your undivided attention, but you also get to have someone else's undivided attention. If you ask me, it's a fair price to pay.
Besides, it's not just women that favor monogamy. Personally, I would rather have the undying devotion of my dream girl who fulfills me in every way, than half the attention of 5 girls that are just... meh.
I look at it this way: Everyone has multiple needs that must be met, but that doesn't mean you need to find a different girl to meet each of those needs. It's much easier and more efficient to find one girl who meets every last one of them. If you oppose monogamy, then it's simply because you haven't found someone capable of meeting all of your needs yet.
You can boil it down to something quite primal and simple :-
- Women have the urge to find a strong partner to father their children. They will do their best to keep him around so he raises and protects them during the vulnerable childhood years.
- Men on the other hand have an urge to mate with as many women as possible and father as many children as he can. He wants the best chance of passing his genes on.
You can disguise it under "values or morals", but essentially they stem from that primal urge.
For both
1.) it's the societal norm
2.) we've evolved feelings of jealousy that make us upset, angry and hurt when our partners want to be with someone else.
3.) some get insecure because they think it means they aren't satisfying their partners.
For women
1.) Women have a muh higher cost in child rearing. Thus they evolved a psychology to be more dependent on a man to provide. This is shifting as women can now provide for themselves and mortality rates in child birth are dropping, but it's hard to break millennia of evolution. There's a reason we have an innate fear of dark, snakes, heights etc and not guns or cars.
That being said as long as your open and honest if you want a polyamous relationship more power to you. It's just not for me. I get jealous and angry about that sort of thing.
Any normal person, man or woman, is going to want monogamy. If you have multiple people in your life you are SINGLE, not in a relationship. These people that try and pretend they are in actual relationships with multiple people are just con artists that want to cheat and try and justify it by giving it absurd names like Open, and poly-amourous. It is just utter nonsense.
Most people prefer monogamy because it allows you to develop a much deeper bond with one person. If you had 5 partners you simply wouldn't be able to form that level of bond.
Women--and most adult men--want to be committed to and love a single person. The open relationships I've seen tend seldom to work out for all the people involved.
Finding different people you're compatible with is the purpose of dating. Many if not most humans get over trying different people when they find someone so like themselves that it's pointless to continue looking.
Umm men like monogamy as much as women.
Monogamy is great. Sure, it's not the best option during every period in your life, there's a time when you just need to do the opposite, but eventually, getting in a monogamous relationship is the goal.
Women do get more out of monogamy, but it's still something us men enjoy just as much.
Because they value the commitment and exclusitivity that one person can give them. They have no interest in being one of many - choosing and being chosen by one person, above every other person in the world is a special thing.
Just because value quantity when many prefer quality doesn't make them wrong
Life isn't about fun, it's my choice to love and care for one man. i respect myself and don't believe in being with multiple men. In fact at the end of the day, its not a relationship when all you wanna do is be with multiple women or multiple men. I love being with one man that I can share experiences with... open up to and have moments with. It's not an obsession, its just how it's suppose to be.
Here's a better question: Does he like it?
If he were given his ideal scenario... would it really only include you?
I prefer a really strong intimate bond with one person rather than a weaker bond with multiple partners. It's a quality over quantity thing, for me. The type of relationship that makes me happy goes hand in hand with monogamy. I wouldn't be able to reach maximum intimacy with someone if they weren't my only partner. I'm just not wired for polygamy.
Quality over quantity man. Quality over quantity...
There are women who would prefer a variety of men,, but many of them would rather have a single mate who is the best option they have.
Personally, i feel the same way...
FYI, the way you wrote this, will get you tons of hater comments on your lifestyle.
I would be like you if all the guys licked pussy and didn't ask for anything back xD
You should go to reddit and search for RAOM (Random Acts of Muff Dive), you'll get what you want.
@AleDeEurope Thanks, but already know.
Lol ok
You make a good point
Hi Vamps, thanks for the feedback. I guess I was frustrated at the time. Maybe you could write the question again but structure it to be more inclusive and less incendiary.
One or more of your "partners" must have either found out about the others or she knew about them, finally found some respect for herself and decided that she will not settle for sloppy seconds and thirds. Poor guy...
They actually all know about each other. I make it a point to tell them ahead of time. I guess I'm much more attractive than I realize because they all eagerly agree to the arrangement.
Either that or you know how to prey on girls/women with no self-esteem or self-worth. It doesn't matter how hot a guy is, I would never be with a man that was with other women. I would rather be by myself. I actually like myself.
Great! Now I know that!
Oh? So men are okay with the women they are dating have five partner at once now? Alright! Time to to creating my male harem! :P
Can I be in that harem? :P
@Words_and_Wisdom
Certainly. Who knows if your luckily I shall promote you to the position of Valide.
Why not be like you?
Because I'm looking for a second half, exclusive and connected.
To build a bond with someone, you must fully commit to them and only them.
You aren't going to build concrete bonds stretched between 5 people as you would with one.
***Major troll alert***
Most people are for a monogamist life style. That's why there is dating. We meet and enter into a relationship with people so that we can find that one person we want to spend the rest of our life with.
Not only that, but it's in a woman's nature. You can argue that having multiple partners is in a males nature, which it is and that has been scientifically proven though most males are fine with one partner. And I'm more than fine with having one partner.
Most women are for monogamy. Men just agree to go along with it to avoid the headache of courtship again. Women don't realize just how much time and energy goes into capturing their attention. Also look at hollywood stars, most of them run through partners like Kleenex both male and female. The celebrity weddings/partners who make the news are just the tip of the iceberg of their dating history. Also it has not been scientifically proven that men are "fine with one partner" in fact it's the opposite. Men aren't naturally monogamist at all. If they are something is off. It's called the Coolidge effect.
If you would go back and read my first sentence and the bottom row, I said it's scientifically proven that males need more than one partner. Due to the whole mating thing. Either way, most males are completely fine with one partner.
I want you. How do I contact you?
Actually I don't want to talk to you. Go away please!
They're not. They're completely in favor of having a few thugs that they fuck and get pregnant by, and one chump that pays all their bills and supports their offspring.
They also prefer to share one thug among six women, instead of having one regular guy all to themselves.
This made me LOL at the office
Genuine honesty here, no BS- the thought of being with anyone other than whoever I'm dating sickens me. Your asking of the reasons why is actually an interesting one because when I think of the reason, I can't come up with one. I just know that the thought sickens me. Like I literally feel like it would taint my soul or something.
-not speaking for other girls and definitely not judging you or anyone else who are happy with a polygamous arrangement
Cause of the cynical ways most religions and stereotypical relationships alienate the polygamous societies as thought its bad to practice. Personally I dont see any real negative the man in the relationship actually does more work for both women. As well more work around the homestead is done without so much responsibility on one woman. I can understand though the idea on monogamy. However its kinda flawed.
Why is it wrong to be and stay with just one man? What is the benefit of dating or having 5 partners? You are the one selfish. Life is not just fun. Your artilce makes no sense and it is total ridiculous.
Life is not just fun? Okay but what is the reason for living? Pain?
Lol 5 different guys at once? No thanks. I'd rather just focus on one. There'd be way too many fights, testosterone, drama, jealousy and confusion. Monogamyis so much more special. I get to share kids with this ONE guy, go traveling the world with this ONE guy, and introduce ONE guy to my family and friends. That's why most people - MEN and women alike consider monogamy. I don't meet very many men who want a polygamous relationship.
You would gain 5x the attention. You would get five different gifts during Christmas and birthdays. You would be able to eat out at restaurants five different nights a week. You would have 5x as many places to stay or sleep over as well. You would be able to go on 5x as many vacations as the men all have places they want you to visit. With 5 sources of income you would have your own corporation of boyfriends pulling in money to help you pay off your student loans 5x as fast as the other girls.
I suspect most girls actually already have this from their beta orbiters, they are just too meek to indulge in the sex part.
It really just depends on the girl. Because really a relationship with 5 other people isn't always one gender for the five, it's sometimes mixed. Some of the other females have a point, and 5 is a bit much. But in the end it always depends on what the female feels about the relationship going away from a monogamy.
Women want security and they get that from knowing that HER guy will always be there for her. The last thing they want is for her guy to get wandering eyes and take off for another women because there goes her security. That's why they get crazy jealous when other girls get involved because they don't wanna share their security blanket just in case one chick steals it away from her.
Is this a troll question because it certainly sounds like it. I would avoid anybody who had been married twice before let alone five times.
What about concurrently?
Women are attracted to person, not gender.
So as long ss they click with someone emotionally they are attracted. This is rare so they don't usually feel attracted to many men at once.
Where as men are attracted to women just visually and desire more women
@Poppykate and thats also why women are more likely to be bisexual
So you're saying that they can be attracted to many women at once, but not men, because women are more emotional?
And I gather all of these women on this site would change their replies if I asked them to be polygamous with a group of females?
Why do the women try to make being a male suck so much?
Me and my freinds with benefits were talking aabout this the other day.
Even though we are sex partners we aren't dating seriously. BUT we both said we missed having a serious relationship. When you can know someoneso well you can have a conversation with just your eyes and truly rely on eachother. And be there gfor eachother.
Having a lot of sex partners actually makes you more lonely.
My 5 partners are there for me whenever I need them. I can call them for help any time. It's like having my own emergency hotline!
That's very fortunate you have that support. Its very uncommon for your situation.
Getting to know one person THAT well requires a lot of time and effort. I don't have the time or energy to be dedicating that level of attention to five dudes. Let alone one.
It takes two seconds to decide if you want to sleep with a person. Ten minutes to get to know a person. One hour (after sex) to decide if you want to keep a person.
It takes two months to decide if you want to leave a person.
"the bounty brought by others." Lol women are looking for real men, real men take whats theirs and dont share sloppy seconds.
Hahahahahaha!
@musicbrain5 you disagree lol?
No not at all! I laughed at the sloppy seconds comment.
Because women are jealous creatures and they are also teases women like to give off an appearance in public that they are not behind closed door when you talk to them one on one. They'll even be willing to do sexual things in private that they never would in public.
@Nyx_85 thank you lol @blondfrog i don't have to be older than 13 to know that women prefer have sex in a non public situation
@blondfrog Do you not speak English or something? What you said makes absolutely no sense. You are saying women are willing to do sexual things in private that they aren't willing to do it public. i. e HAVE SEX IN PUBLIC. That may not be what you meant but that is what your words say. Learn how to write buddy lol.
Not everyone cheats. I've never cheated in my life and I know plenty of other people like that. So using that as a comparison and saying it proves we're polygamous is ridiculous. Scientific studies have shown that humans can be either polygamous OR monogamous. It has to do with hormones vasopressin and oxytocin. Different people carry different genetic mutations.
@Nyx_85 What I meant by that is that they are willing to do different sexual acts as in role play and fetishes and what not in private and say that they like them i private but in public they will lie and deny their fantasies. Obviously I have proven my point because you have become defensive. Then you give this bs argument rant with some words capslocks meaning that you would have yelled at me if this was in real life lol. Calm down buddy sorry if I offended your precious ego. Your probably that type of girl who tried to make herself appear good in the eyes of the public. I've come across a lot of women like that who like to make themselves seem like they are something in public that they are not behind closed doors.
@blondfrog i am absolutely one hundred percent DISagreeing with you because what you are saying is absolute bullshit. women who cheat have their own reasons that you shouldn't be concerned with because they are not you so get the hell out of their lives and get your own. and if you have five women on call in your life maybe you should pay more attention to them and what they go through because maybe they're getting shit in their lives for being in the kind of relationship that they are. women who are in these relationships are called sluts, whores, fuck toys, and countless other degrading things by both men and women but when men are in them society brushes it off as "normal" and their friends slap them on the back and congratulate them. just get a life dude. monogamy, polygamy do whatever the hell you want but don't rant to strangers online about your sexual tendencies if you don't want to get some shit for it because let's be honest here you said that to get a reaction. grow up idiot
@blondfrog I'm not defensive lol. I'm making fun of your sentence structure. There's a difference. And I'm not yelling. I put emphasis on one sentence to drive the point home.
Most people don't discuss fantasies in public lol. Especially if they don't know you well enough. Nobody wants a chick that is talking about her sexual preferences out in the open. She would be called a slut. Some chicks may be too shy to say anything. Men frequently say they want a "lady in the streets but a freak in the bed". And plenty of men act like this too. You don't usually see men OR men openly discussing their sexuality unless they have some sort of mental defect or social disorder. Or drunk... This is considered to be inappropriate.
The argument I gave isn't bs. It's science.
www.newscientist.com/.../
link.springer.com/.../s00239-003-2458-x
@blondfrog
Humans may have been more polygamous in history but that doesn't mean we haven't evolved to adopt different lifestyles or have developed genetic mutations over thousands of years... Or that it's even necessary, what with the world's large population. In fact with today's rate of STI's it can be downright dangerous. Do you know that genital herpes is so common most doctors won't even test for it unless you have symptoms? And most people who have it are asymptomatic (no symptoms), but they can still pass it on. They call it the 'silent spread'. So it's very possible you have herpes and you don't even know it.
And pushing polygamous on those who know its not right or natural for them is just as bad as pushing monogamy on those who it doesn't feel right to. If you want people to respect your views and lifestyle choices you should try to respect theirs.
@blondfrog And you could take every single chick you've ever talked to about these things that were different in private and that wouldn't make a lick of a difference. Those are anecdotal accounts. You do not know every single female on this earth. There are billions of us.
How is it selfish to only want one person? In my opinion you selfish and greedy for wanting 5 different women. I'd prefer to only be with one person.
It's selfish because those women aren't acknowledging my needs. I have the need to have 7 partners. They were right there in my life enjoying my company and going on dates with me, even after telling them that I had other partners they seemingly shrugged it off. Only after the date did they floor me with the monogamy speech.
You're the one being selfish if you feel like people need to cater to your needs. If that's what you like then find women who are interested in that sort of thing.
I feel that the cashier at Burger King should cater to my needs after I've paid for something. If I put enough value into the relationship how is this any different?
If you're paying someone for something that's different but needed multiple women is not a need it's a want.
How do you know it is a want? What if it is a need? Are you the person that determines what my needs and wants are?
Are you my mother?
@Nyx_85 I know what's best for you.
@Dinotracks Oh you do eh?
@Nyx_85 You like monogamy too much. We have to take away that lollipop or else your teeth will start to rot.
@Dinotracks Wtf are you my dentist now? Why do you care what I do?
@Nyx_85 Not you individually, women as a group. I think I could get enough votes to endorse polyamory over monogamy on TV.
No I am not your mom and thank God for that. If a woman or a man is not into polygamy then it is not their job to change that for you or anyone else. What's the point if you're trying to be with a ton of different people?
@Dinotracks It's not going to happen bud. So stop living in a fantasy.
@Nyx_85 Huh? It already happened 5 times.
@Dinotracks Lol from what I've read you had 5 dates and each one of them wanted monogamy.
@Dinotracks Going out on 5 dates with different women doesn't count as being polygamous. That's just dating around. When you have 5 women dating and sleeping with you on a regular basis while full well knowing about each other THEN get back to us.
I wouldn't call it an obsession. I just don't like the idea of having multiple men. It makes me feel like I cheat on someone. Respect for people who can, but it's not for me.
I can't speak for others but that isn't how I was made.
And many would say you are selfish for wanting multiple partners... But I'm not going to judge.
To each their own!
You have a mom and a dad. Those are two people you love at the same time. You are born to love multiples. All you're doing is rationalizing your choices in your head because it protects your romantic reputation from scrutiny. It's not what you really want.
@Dinotracks LOL sure. My mom and my dad are not my romantic partners.. Either are my friends. That is entirely different. I know exactly what I want. I can't even dance with someone else, let alone date or sleep with them, when I'm into someone. Not because I think it's wrong or any sort of 'social constraint'. That's just how I am. Sorry if you find that so hard to believe. Not everyone is cut from the same cloth you know...
Why do women participate in double penetration porn? They don't have to. But they get good at it!
And I happen to think it's selfish to want to be with multiple people. But devoting yourself to ONE person and working hard to make that work? That's not. So you see... we don't see things the same way. Like I said to each their own. Don't get all pissy because some people don't feel like sharing themselves or their partners. You aren't the authority on human relationships. Some people are monogamous. We have a gene for it. And some people are not. This is just how it is. Get over it.
@Dinotracks
"Why do women participate in double penetration porn? They don't have to. But they get good at it!"
Wtf does that have to do with what I said? That's porn. Of course they get good it. It's their job. It's a fantasy.
They don't have to take the job at all ever. But on some level they like it enough to try it and then eventually master it. A lot of women have done it too. So women are naturally polygamous and crave multiple partners as evidenced by these brave women who showed themselves off to the world.
LOL porn is NOT a reliable scientific measure of anything. The fact that you are comparing porn stars to regular women is silly.
www.livescience.com/...monogamous-promiscuous.html
They were regular women once. Look what happened to them when they got to California.
About 420 pounds. I'm a linebacker on an amateur football league.
Okay I admit it.
Why would I call women sheep?
How was the goat? Did you give it a blinky?
I hate it! I'm pretty upfront that I want to sleep with other men. He can watch and join in if desired. I'm 25. Too young to be serious
Thank you for your candor. I think you will make a great philosopher when you get older.
because if you get pregnant you have to do 5 different paternity tests...
females in the animal kingdom tend to be more choosy. They pick the fittest male they can find. When a woman gets pregnant she has to carry the baby for 9months and then care for the child from 16-18 years. we are naturally inclined to find a lasting partner to help us.
Actually humans are the only ones that spend that much time with their children, most animals go off once they're old enough to fend for themselves
Exactly some animals find a new partner each mating season. Humans are inclined to keep the same mate around for longer.
@StickStickity13
It depends on the animal more intelligent animals tend to stay with their parents longer. Elephants stay with their mothers for 16 years and orangutans will stay with their young for ten years which is about as long as humans do if you put into consideration they live for 45 years at most. Let's say most people stay with their parents until they are 20 humans nowadays tend to live up to the age of 85. Each dedicate more than 20% of their lives caring for their offspring.
Having more than one partner is exhausting. I just don't have the time or the energy to juggle multiple people, especially if 1 or more all of a sudden want to be exclusive. In my opinion, sex is better with someone who knows what you like vs 5 people who only have a clue.
I like monogamy because I have the most amazing boyfriend in the whole world and I know he's the only one for me. <3
What about your last boyfriend? Was he the only "one" too?
So you had another boyfriend. Serial monogamy style. So what is so controversial with having them concurrently compared to having them subsequently? In each case you're dating more than one person... it's just in serial monogamy you might be able to protect/hide your reputation more.
Why do women like monogamy so much?
There just as many males who like monogamy as females. The question is a very basis. If that was the case. Women would not be getting divorced.
What is your ideal scenario in your head? One woman in a room with you?
I'd rather be with one person who makes me happy and treats me right, than 5 people who go around sleeping with others and treat me like crap.
I have a better one and im gonna run it by you...
would you prefer not having some title.. or label like girlfriend or wife or whatever but he is faithful and trustworthy and treats you like the queen i bet you think you are...
or having that title/label and always thinking he is a sleaze bag, and he treats you like crap...
what would you pick?
What if all 5 people treated you like a queen? What then? Why not enjoy variety? After all it's not like you eat the same sandwich everyday.
@Dinotracks Nope. They're not "treating me like a queen" if they're out f*cking someone else.
@Tdieseler hahaha I am I'm afraid š A label is just a label. It's all about how you're treated and how happy you are in my opinion.
Assuming a bit are you? What if they all promise just to be with you? And you live with them.
@Dinotracks but then it wouldn't be fair on them if I was out sleeping with other people. One person is plenty enough for me.
What are you talking about? It sounds like you're assuming a lot simply to reduce people down to your uncreative sex drive. "One is enough for me" doesn't make any sense. That's like saying one teacher can teach you everything there is to know. Are you prude?
@Dinotracks nah if you're just going to insult me then I'm done here.
@ShaunaM95 one person is plenty for damn near any female.. and yes, i know im right.
@Dinotracks if you have 5 women, you literally can't treat them like A queen.. there is always just ONE queen and hella princesses... Shauna has a point.
she lost that point though when she said "one is good for me" referred back to female natural ways...
well in this era anyway.
@Tdieseler That's a horrible point. And you're both assuming way, way too much. First of all how much time do you really need with another person to get satisfied with them? Four maybe five hours a week tops. Secondly demanding the world from one person is pure romantic, blue pilled nonsense teenage fantasy (stamp approved by your parents.)
You go to different restaurants for breakfast, lunch and dinner correct? Or at least when you can afford to you go to a different place. They each have what is appropriate for you at that time. The same applies to people and sex.
@Dinotracks darling we... hold on... IM not saying YOU aren't satisfied.. im saying that those 5 women aren't. at least not all of them. Women are greedy by nature... known fact. im just telling you the truth. Shauna still has a point..
imagine each of those women taking shauna's point... wants you to treat them "right"... one of those points is for you not to be banging another woman.
You can't satisfy all mate... trust me.
@Tdieseler Again assumptions galore. maybe YOU can't satisfy women, but don't label other men with your insecurities. I too was raised to believe nonsense from scaredycat adults regarding sex. You have an ideal in your head that doesn't fit how you go about life - as in you desire a diverse number of products and goods, yet suddenly with sex there is the "one true love" out there for you. As long as I'm getting my end of the bargain with my women who cares what they do in their spare time? They keep coming back that's all that matters. Be a man.
Im gonna do three things...@Dinotracks
first off.. im pretty sure in my satisfaction ratio...
secondly.. like a Selfish man, you only care bout yourself (dont get me wrong, im with you on that but come on, put out a lil)
thirdly, im flirting (sorta) with Shauna here... so butt out lol.
Probably because when they have one guy they get exclusive access to all his resources (financial and emotional) but if they have multiple guys, there's a good chance none of them will dedicate resources to her and they could withdraw their support at any time. It's less stable for them.
Because when women reproduce it takes a lot of physical resources, time and dedication. Men can just splurge all over, mating with multiple women easily.
I mean, most people like monogamy in some way.. Lol... If I get somebody I ain't sharin...
Because they never learned to share when they were in kindergarten and grade school. Just don't bother with relationships and go to Backpage, that takes care of all the anti-monogamy.
Because it's hard to connect with or feel loved at all by someone who is sleeping with 4 other women...
Life is not for fun.
I believe in monogamy strongly and I do want someone who's monogamous.
I really believe in true love.
Life is not for fun? Why do you live then? For pain?
I am serious. I have to settle myself. I have to get a good job, a healthy life, a good person to be with. I have a lot of things to do. I also want to reciprocate to my parents' deeds. :)
Okay. So that's not fun or exciting to you? Then make it exciting. Tell people how much you've learned from the process of handling your parent's estate.
My life is already exciting, thanks! :)
What if true love was a crowd of people?
Then, it is not love, it is LUST.
And that is bad, why?
Oh and what is lust then? Really you tell me the difference between it and love.
@Dinotracks love and lust can be very similar they are often mistaken for each other because both are strong emotional attractions to a certain person. the mistake that people make is thinking that these two things are completely unrelated but they are actually very closely intertwined. lust is a sub genre of love because if you do not have lust in a relationship it can't be healthy (unless you're asexual) it just can't. gotta face the facts ;) if you think love and lust are unrelated you are sadly mistaken
@gigi5678 Gigi that is a very astute comment. You are very observant. One thing however I believe love is a subset of lust not the other way around. Without lust you have no love as you said. So Lust is actually the dominant emotion (we see this today with women demanding to "fall in love" with athletes and male models) it's just most romantic literature is written from the point of view that lust is a given and that love is a universal binding agent that is rare and special... but why if it is supposedly the dominant emotion in sex is it so rare and special in these romance novels?
Simple. Animal instinct.
*** Generally speaking!
Women are emotional based and therefore expect men to be as well.
They are unable to separate sexual pleasure from emotional connection.
As men we seldom attach sex to emotion, we can love and cherish our partner and sex with them is more intimate, but we can have sex that means NOTHING other than pleasure.
THats what our society has set as the default relationship. It's against against the law to married to multiple people. SO you see it's not only women who believe in this men do too
Because you love that guy and he loves you. If you are lucky you can find a love that makes you not want another guy because you just click so well with this one.
lol because its easier to know who to demand child support from after lol
cause you can´t focus as well on many people as you can on one. therefore having one partner at a time is the best for most people.
I like monogamy because I don't like sharing a girlfriend/wife and I want to know I'm the father to any offspring that come into the picture.
Boys like you are the type to be sidepieces, not commitment worthy
Uhhhh maybe because they want a serious relationship? It's selfish to cheat on your partner. Why do you think it's okay?
Women like to pretend they are monogamous. The vast majority of them are not.
The female does not want competition for access to the man's resources.
Because we don't.
And I don't know why anyone would want to be with you either.
Why not? I'm nice to my friends.
Females want a male to help look after and provide for their offspring until it is viable to survive on its own.
Monogamy is just the default setting. Women are taught that it is a main goal in life and that men are dogs, and all sorts of other screwed up crap.
I agree it is screwed up. You should be able to do whatever you want with sex.
Lol five honestly sounds exhausting. Do you take supplements? XD
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