Why rebound? Do guys even feel bad about it?
Guys, why do some guys rebound after a break-up?
Why rebound? Do guys even feel bad about it?
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Girls do this too so it goes both ways. Not all people do it but for those who do, it's basically a low-risk way of getting 'back out there' (for them, at least).
Regardless of who ends a relationship, both sides still hurt so 'going on the rebound' is a way of testing how capable you are of being with someone without the same risk of being hurt again - almost like taking control of the situation.
It definitely sucks for the other person, especially if they don't realise at first that they're a rebound/fling for the person they're with and, I'm sorry you've went through this sort of thing. It's part of life though and hopefully you've learned something from it yourself (how to tell if the other person is on the rebound or not).
When they rebound is it because they want to feel attractive and wanted?
Mainly. It's not really something I'd do myself so I can only go by what my friends have said but, that's definitely a big part of it.
As I said, it's a 'low-risk' way of finding out where they're at themselves, emotionally - I'm not gonna lie, sex is a big part of it, maybe they're just looking for "some fun" rather than a full-on commitment but, ultimately, it's about them psyching themselves up for their next proper relationship (same goes for girls who do this).
It isn't just guys that do rebounds. There's two reasons. The first after coming out of a LTR it's a way of finding out if you're still attractive to the opposite sex. The other reason is because it temporarily puts off the pain of the loss after a breakup. Both of these only last temporarily which is why rebounds never last. Eventually the sad feelings will surface and will have to go through the grieving process to get over the breakup. A lot of people's instincts is to get a rebound fling thinking incorrectly it'll help them get over their breakup. It won't and only delays the grieving process which makes healing take much longer
When they rebound could it be because they find the girl attractive or attraction has nothing to do with rebounding?
What do you mean finding the one who just broke up attractive? Like, finding someone who looked similar?
No. You just broke up and a person you've never met starts showing interest in you. You're a little stunned and flattered that this person finds you attractive so you agree to start seeing them. You're excited that you're still attractive to the opposite sex. A breakup is a blow to the ego and this phenomenon helps your ego
That's interesting considering he showed interest in me and pursued me. I was very shy but he kept on. But it's an ego thing like you said
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