To you is this simply just a sexual thing or does is it go deeper? I know for me, personally, "true intimacy" is so much more than just what's done in the bedroom... What are your thoughts?
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Ok so it's been mentioned twice about me putting "true" in front of the word intimacy... so just ignore that word :) What does "intimacy" mean to you... I didn't think anyone would really read anything into that but I get it... it's all good!
True Intimacy has next to nothing to do with any sexual things!! intimacy and SEX are TOTALLY different things, but they can be combined, in the right context! True intimacy is about knowing how she feels, from just her look; it is about knowing her favorite things, and remembering important days, that she respects, and knowing why she cares about those days (the day her father died, or the day her niece was born, the day you first kissed, and when you decided to be 'dating' like 'officially') It is about knowing the flowers she likes, and which ones you need to bring, when you forgot something, and she is angry at you! It's about liking what she likes, even if you HATE IT, at first!! It is about knowing all those little things, those special things, she likes, and it is about making a special effort, to make her smile. Knowing to bring her that certain Ben & Jerry's Ice cream on the anniversary of her little dog's death, and telling her it is the 'CALORIE FREE' one. That is what intimacy means to me.
@Poppykate It's who I am, and what I do, and share with the one that is my love. sad that more guys don't realize how much it means, and how much simple things, that make her smile, can benefit him! sometimes it is the 'little' things that mean A LOT!!
@Poppykate "She" has been gone for nine months, or so. The 'position' is OPEN, if you care to apply! :) :) I'm thinking you could EASILY get the 'job'!! :)
In my opinion, true intimacy is being completely vulnerable. It's knowing that the person sees you for you, not as another person they know or another number, but instead, this person knows how you think, why you think it, your attributes your flaws, etc. It's that moment where you tell the, everything about you and they accept you as you are. When they open themselves up in this same way is when it's true intimacy.
I agree with genericname85 that adding the word true shouldn't change it with the exception of its the person you are most intimate with. to me, intimacy is sharing all of who you are and accepting not only yourself but the other individuals who are reciprocating that level of intimacy. definitely in terms of emotional, mental, physical, spiritual and any other realm that might include
Intimacy means exposing yourself before a stranger. We are all strangers, nobody knows anybody. We are strangers to ourselves too, because we don't know who we really are.
Intimacy brings you closer to a stranger. You have to drop all your defenses, only then intimacy is possible. But do you know, everybody is afraid of intimacy? The problem becomes more complicated because everyone wants intimacy.
The problem becomes more complicated because everybody wants intimacy. Everybody wants intimacy because otherwise you are alone in this universe -without a friend, without a lover, without anybody you can trust, without anybody to whom you can open all your wounds. And the wounds cannot heal unless they are open. The more you hide them, the more dangerous they become. They can become cancerous. Intimacy is an essential need on the one hand, so everybody longs for it.
But he wants the other person to be intimate, so that the other person drops his defenses, becomes vulnerable, opens all his wounds, drops all his masks and false personality, stands naked as he is. And on the other hand, everybody is afraid of intimacy -with the other person you want to be intimate with, you are not dropping your defenses. This is one of the conflicts between friends, between lovers: nobody wants to drop his defenses and nobody wants to come in utter nudity and sincerity, open and both need intimacy.
Complete confidence both ways, and disclosure both ways. A common sense of purpose outside of simply seeking pleasure. And no bones whatsoever about being in it for the long haul. Commitment without timidity. Union, wherein which the selves remain intact, but still form a Bette whole. Complementary both in spirit and in biology, without forced subjugation of either to a forced goal or unnatural agenda.
Physically, lots of touching and kissing. Including French. Everything shy of sex itself. That is its own separate category.
Intimacy for me would be a deep emotional bond. It doesn't have to be sexual. It can be expressed simply by sitting together and holding hands. To have an intimate relationship with someone (at least for me) is to be completely entranced by their presence, and to be completely at peace.
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Being close mentally, emotionally, and verbally with my girlfriend. It's not all about sex with me and her like with some people. Just a simple day relaxing on the couch with her in my arms while watching tv all day is intimate for us because we don't need to do a bunch of wild things to be intimate. Even just a whole 24 hours by ourselves with no interruptions can be intimate for us, of course discluding sex because like I've said above, it isn't a mandatory thing for us until we're both completely ready for a new life to be in ours
True intimacy to me is every thing to do with my partner. From just holding And hugging her even kissing. In private I guess would be foreplay pos just cuddling up on sofa holding each other to being naked together. Exploring each other's body No matter what what room of the house as intimacy can feel great when it feels wrong time or place. It can even be a case of just spoiling her with gifts.
Being comfortable with each other physically and mentally. Like not minding any weird habits or cravings your partner might have. I think that is true intimacy, when you know of that person with all their flaw but you're still comfortable and want to be with each other.
of course it goes deeper than "dick in vagina" but that´s trivial XD why even ask? there´s no way to just say this for all cases. it always depends on the individual you are with and on the situation you are in.
true intimacy, to be comfortable naked in front of your loved one in the knowledge you will be accepted for who you are. To say whatever is in your head to your loved one without rejection. Its not just sex its miles deeper and a lot more fulfilling
Intimacy for me is knowing each other on a deeper level. Knowing each other's personal qualities , and personality flaws. Having an emotional and mental connection. Feeling a closeness and strong bond. It so much more than just sex.
Your able to talk to each other about anything u accept them and they accept u. Most of all u feel safe with them and ur worries are non existent with them. It may not be perfect all the time but it works
the ability to mentally & physically flow with zero fear or consideration that these shared experiences will ever come back to haunt you or cause you to haunt the other person regardless of future circumstances.
to me intimacy means totally letting your guard down and being able to be totally vulnerable with your partner.. knowing that you not going to be judged or criticized. Really really letting your part in know everything that you are and giving all you have to give and receiving everything that you're partner has to offer... in every facet of the relationship including the bedroom
I don't expect you to understand because you're pretty young but it's very possible to have a friendship/ relationship with men on that level... someday you'll probably understand, your best friend your female best friend... you probably have an intimate relationship with her without realizing it intimacy has got absolutely nothing to do with sex
oh I thought you were including sex in the relationships... i kind of get what you mean. there are different type of close relationships like people have with their parents, other family members and friends. understanding is not always influenced by age but I get it.. some things I will not know due to my young age :)
I'm quite impressed that you have an open mind & understand about what I was explaining... at your age :-) that speaks a lot about your maturity... I can assure you I am NOT gay nor have I ever had any curiosity about it
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