What do you do when your friend is involved in a toxic relationship and they never leave?

[Anonymous]

[kitty71]

I know a girl who is in a toxic relationship and she is a mother of but she does not want to leave her douche looser of a partner and I still dont understand why. They both argue and discuss constantly. Not that she told me that but I know about her personal life through the way she talks over the phone at work with her partner so I know the guy does not worth a dime. They both treat each other like crap, she is bossy towards him and he lets her do it and he had cheated on her, like twice and she believes he will change. One morning when they talk on the phone, she calls him in a soft voice "love" then 10 minutes later if something bad happens during the converstion, she treats him like crap and raise her voice to him over the phone
She demands things from him but she does not change either and she says that if she treats him like that is because he deserves it.

I dont get why these women want to stay hitch to guys liek that who are not worth anything but also they as women do not behave good either. And this friend still believe he will change, his behavior towards her and his kids. Is like I want to slap her face so she can snap out of it and move on. I think this lady depends on him a lot probably a reason why she still with him? I believe she can't live on her own with her 2 kids as she believes the kids nad her need the guy $$$ speaking.

[Asker]

hmm that's crazy.. maybe she likes the strong dominance on him if it doesn't go her way.. also as you said she's dependent on him for money etc.. her being angry and being that verbal abusive though might stem from her own insecurities. Hopefully she wakes herself out to the reality it's her kids that's losing out on most of the normality.

[PrincessBubble]

If you've spoken to her about it & she still goes back to him then honestly there's nothing you can do sweetie.

You just have to be supportive and be a friend to her to pick up the pieces when it eventually ends in tears.

Depending on how much you advice you've given her and how much she's ignored your advice.. at some point just say to her 'I don't really wanna hear about your relationship because you complain a lot and when I give you advice you don't take it so I'd rather not hear about it.' You can still be a friend to her in other ways but just stay out of all the relationship stuff

[btbc92]

Separate yourself from them. Because they themselves become toxic and it will affect your relationship with them, as well as with others they are close to. It will be hard to do especially if you have a close friendship. But it cannot be anymore if this continue. You may lose a friend, you may not if they eventually do get rid of the person. But it is not your job to tell them how to run their relationships, let alone their lives. They made the decision to get in it, they have to make the choice to get out of it.

[LolaB28]

The story of my life. My friends constantly tells me about her guy cheating on her with people he met from craigslist. This would be the second time. I try telling her to leave and she deserves better but she keeps going on about how much she loves him and the sex is great and her child is involved with him (not biologically his). I just listen to her vent. I'm always gonna be there for her if things fall apart with them.

[Asker]

omg as soon as you said Craigslist my jaw dropped 😱😅 ... but you're a good friend 👌

[LolaB28]

Girl yes! She told me with guys also, but she's still with him. Bless her heart.

[DaveDavidson]

Friend of mine was in a relationship with an asshole who hit her.
Honestly, there's not a lot you can do. You can tell them what you think they should do, but it's up to them to choose to end it. You just tell them that you'll support they're decision.

[Leonie-M]

Sadly I have made the same experience. It's hard and you wish you could easily decide for the friend what to do but you can't so just keep listening, giving advice and just beeing there when she needs it.

[Asker]

Yeah that's true, sadly a lot stay in domestic violence 😩😔😔

[ravedave]

Let them learn their lesson the hard way. There's nothing else you can really do, because people in those situations REFUSE to listen to common sense and outside opinions

[PrincessPie]

I'd try help them as much as possible to make the right choice for them.

[lolitaaa__]

i've had plenty of friends who have been in this situation, and honestly, the best thing that you can do is try to be supportive of her individually, (and not be supportive of the relationship) and try to give her some guidance as to why she should leave.

if she doesn't want to listen that's on her. at the end of the day it is her decision, and you're not responsible for her staying in a toxic situation. If i'm being honest, i would also recommend distancing yourself from her, if you feel like her behaviour whilst in this relationship is affecting you negatively. good luck!

[Fitness-Fanatic]

I'd try to talk some sense into her, but if that didn't encourage her to see her own worth then I'd be there to help her pick up the pieces when it all comes crashing down around her.

People need to learn by their own wrong choices and decisions. It's the only way they get to know what they don't need in their life.

[wisdom_sharer]

Never stop trying to get her/him out of it. It happens to people with issues, and friends don't leave friends in trouble. And yeah, always make sure that that person knows she can rely on you (so they could accept more easliy) that life is possible without that toxic partner. :)

[Katsuki]

There's not much you can do because whatever you say they'll make it seem like they're going to do something about the situation, but never end up doing anything. You can't get someone out of a toxic relationship if they don't want to leave.

[browning1996]

Can't say you didn't warn them. Do it, and then leave it up to them. Obviously you care, but its not your issue. Eventually sometimes they leave. I told one of my best friends to leave her toxic relationship early last year, and this year she finally did it for good; it took her that long.

[Christian-josue]

if you talked to her an she don't listen you talk to her man face to face tell that nigga to get his shit together if he gives you any answer other than yes mam you clock the dude square in his balls. and you don't stop till he pukes

[Asker]

😂😂😂 ... fight club about to happen

[akadatank44]

Honestly been in this situation before you can't do anything. I'm not going to stand and watch a friend stay with soemone and then we hang out I'm your emotional support when I've told you a thousand times to get the fuck out. Dont listen to me fine but don't fucking complain to me either. Because I already know how to solve your issue but you won't do it. Not a very good friend if you don't listen.

[peachblossomluck]

They want to complain to you but then stay with the person, taking you as an emotional hostage. Tell her you don't want to hear about it anymore.

[Kat203]

Give an advise. But never get in between because then you look like a fool at the end when they get back together.

[madhatters4]

not too much you can do except find a way to tell them that you think they can do better. after that you just be there friend

[SarahsSummer]

be supportive while continuing to recommend they leave.

[matheus_mb]

Hope for the best. Of course I don't want my friend to be in a toxic relationship, but there's little I can do since it's not really my business. I could advise if asked, but just that.

[Mr_President]

I'm not a girl so I don't know but what I do know is that girls love guys like that.

[Kayyy1027]

you're a emotional tampon. get yourself out of that. either tell her u don't want to talk about that now or if I do not in a complaining way. someone continually doing this effects you indirectly

[Asker]

I'm an emotional tampon? 🤔🤔 Lol.. it has nothing to do with me, it's just a question 🤗😂

[Kayyy1027]

my bad then didn't read the question. I just assumed but the facts still stand

[Pizzalover101]

Point out how that person will only get worse in time

[RealandGenuine1991]

Nothing thats their choice, they'll learn better

[Browneye57]

Walk away. It's not your problem.

[TacosRAwesome]

Uh I was that friend. Sorry to all involved.

[o0o7Jumeirahh]

Mind my own fucking business.