It sounds to me that he feels (or hopes) that having you as his friends with benefits is more relationship than friendship (with sex). I think you feel the same way about him, but you are able to deal with your feelings rationally and objectively. You can step back. He can't.
Honestly, at age 29, you're not a little girl right out of high school, you're a grown woman and you are showing that you more than capable of making your own decisions. Would you say that he is mature as you are? I don't care of the guy is 40 years old, you may well be the more mature of the pair.
Sadly, I recommend that the two of you break up completely- including as friends. I know it should harsh, but the may be the type of guy who'll just hang around hoping against hope that you'll change your mind. Based on your last few sentences, this isn't going to happen:
"I mean they definitely have other options and other friends with benefits's. So what's the Pacific reason, that they just can't seem to get the message I really let go. After all, it's just sex. So what gives?"
Rather than trying to figure it all out, it's better for you to go. In the long run it will be easier on him.
You seem like a nice young lady. Good luck.
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All of your terms and logic here are retarded"But I notice once I get myself involved with him, (SEXUALLY) I usually can't handle the dose of feelings that I have for him nor the situation.""I mean they definitely have other options and other friends with benefits's. So what's the specific reason, that they just can't seem to get the message I really let go. After all, it's just sex. So what gives?"These two thoughts contradict themselves"He seems very concerned about me exiting. And says that he wants to continue! but if I don't, He understands."Literally what the fuck is your problem here? This dude is in no way forcing you to stay.
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I'm not sure I understand the situation or what the issue is, but I don't believe you can have ongoing sex with someone and NOT become somewhat attached. Doesn't mean feelings necessarily (with some people), but attached in some way. Some kind of friendship at the very least (for most NORMAL people anyway, my ex fwbs what the total exception to this apparently lol). I think he cares about you as a friend anyway and considers you one. And if he knows you have feelings, or get them, then he's not going to just up and leave your life completely. That's only something someone with no heart at all (my ex fwbs) would do lol.
Probably disappointed but assuming we were friends in ways other than sex I'd be ok remaining friends and continuing those other activities. That said I tend to only be interested in sex with someone I see as a potential future wife.
I have very good friends that we are with you the same thing and it's all good I don't care what kind of relationship you're in there's no reason to end it in a pissed-off mood or in bad terms you started out as friends you can always Ended as friends to the matter what type of relationship is
Sounds like he has feelings but doesn't want to commit.
With any friends with benefits situation if there's feels & they're not reciprocated time to end it.
friends with benefits, is for pathetic losers, with no lives
That's fine... but we're going our separate ways. We're not friends
It is hard to keep it as just sex for some people
So, she wants to get married?
Probably developed feelings
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