Be honest, and compliment him in situations where he shows his smart side. Don't do it randomly only because then it will just go in one ear and out the other, I think in order to actually realize it he has to see it "in action". Don't exaggerate or say it when you don't really mean it, but be sure to mention it when you think it and look him straight in the eye when you do.
Tell him what you admire about his intelligence that you don't have.
Other than that it's really up to him to realize it, you can't do anything else than be supportive and compliment him.
Try telling him things he knows that school never talked about or things he knows that you don't to show him that the amount of schooling isn't that important. :)
"Well... boy... how 'bout you fuck my brains out, until we're even"
Oh hell yeah.
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Try stroking his ego. Guys like it when their girl express their sexual submission towards their them.
Don't bother with intelligence. If he is still insecure then there's nothing you can do.
Oh and one final point, you have to keep making him feel appreciated. The moment you stop is the moment he notices this and feels that something is wrong.
This is what people mean when they say relationships are hard work.
Tell him that your schooling was a waste of time.
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When he said's stuff like that I would say.. damn straight and don't you forget it. I wouldn't even acknowledge his seriousness... keep doing this until he finally gets it... that it just doesn't matter. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses.
You can't make him feel better about his intelligence, only he can do that through proving himself to himself. What you can do is make it so that his level of intelligence just doesn't matter. It's a non issue thought isn't even thought about.
If it were me in his position and I fucked up. Felt like shit because of a stupid mistake I made. My girl coming up to me with 100% conviction and quietly hugging me tight, then saying "I love you" would make a world of difference in how I felt. You're emotionally supporting him, without trying to "convince" him of anything. How he feels about it is more important than the fact itself.
First of all if he only say as "You are way smarter than me." and smiles, he is complimenting you and Appreciate you. Most guys need a smart girlfriend and if he is insecure as you say you have to show him everyone has their own special place to be smart in. and there are things, He is better at things than you make him do those things with you.
Put him in spots where he needs to use his smarts that he has and you don't, but not impossible spots where it will make him feel worse. Like go to parties and have him help out with the social stuff for you. At the end don't forget to thank him and boost his ego by saying thank you for your smart brain and do all that mushy stuff and gush about how he was a major help.
something like " you are the world to me and more than enough" would do the trick..
Tell him what you love him for. Your not interested in a guy with a brain as big as your's. Your interested in him and his street smarts. You love how your both different with 2 different kinds of knowledge.
Explain to him that there are different types of intelligence for everything. A master craftsman may not know how to read a map for instance.
Don't argue with everything. Don't try to compete with everything. Don't think you have to be superior.
OTOH, if he won't lead then he may not be the right one. I may be a mis-match.
That is a hard one, my friend is in that situation. I don't know what to tell you, that maybe your guys demise
There is a simple way to make anyone's thoughts feel valued, ask their opinion and for their help. (Even if you don't want or need it.)
"What do guys need to hear from their girl when they are insecure in this way? "
The truth. He's smart enough to know bullshit when he hears it.
Tell him that there's an inverse correlation between having studies and being millionaire.
Tell him straight up to stop being a little annoying cunt. If he thinks he's not smart enough then he needs to start doing some studying. Complaining isn't gonna make him smarter
A question that may be off topic... shouldn't it be a turn off for you if the guy isn't intelligent or insecure? From what I read, these two are a turn off for women. Have you thought about dumping him? That should solve everything right?
r u an idiot? he is a man. and I man is always smarter. he needs no reassurance. he is just playing you into submission. play the game.
thats typical, women generally are more book smart while men are more street smart. he just needs to understand that, that's all
Show him what he is good at
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