What does it mean when a guy asks you to live with him early in the relationship?

[adriyane]

I've been with my boyfriend for 10 mos, and about 3 mos in the relationship he asked me if I would live with him. I'm curious to what his intentions are if he really meant it or not?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend did something similar to me. At 3 months he asked me to move in at the summer when both our leases are up. I told him to ask me again at the end of summer. At that point we would have been together for 7 months, a reasonably acceptable time for considering moving in with him. 3 months was too soon for me. And I had a feeling it was too soon for him, but at 3 months people aren't always thinking clearing and are still in the "infatuation" stage (or so I call it) before it turning into something much deeper.

My perspective on the matter is that he's very much infatuated/in love with you. He's excited to be near you. He wants to spend more time with you (or you already spend so much time together you it makes sense to move in...). He wants to get to know you better.

But 3 months is still very early for a number of reasons. You're still learning about one another. I've been told that you don't really "know" a person in a relationship until about 6 months. By then you both are comfortable with each other to behave like you would normally without all the pretense of trying to impress the other or hide "embarrassing" qualities about yourself.

The only way to know for certain as to why he asked at 3 months is to ask him about it.

[NirvanaChic]

its not a good idea to live with someone you're not married to..its kind of like being used. guys don't usually marry, or try to get very serious with girls they can live with before marriage becuz they don't really need to..they have everything already. I would say to him that I don't wan tto move in with you. I think that it would be in your better interest

[GIntrovert]

Well I don't fit into that stereotype...

[Jesss]

3 months are a bit too soon but if he asked you to move in with him means he wanted to get to know you better and to see you more than just a few hours a day ...

I think he wants a serious relationship but he's moving quite fast...

[Anonymous]

Who knows maybe he was testing you maybe he wants you to move in so its easier for him to get to it etc... ask him he knows or you could just pack your bags and move in...

[GIntrovert]

3 months seem a little soon, but it usual about the time I start thinking about asking her to move in... but I always wait a few more months after that..

[aabhassomani]

well the answer is he's a sex machine...we want's to do things with ya..would tell all the stuff to his friends...and wuld leave you as soon as he get's what he wants...

[NirvanaChic]

I agree with your response.