Is it normal that everything my boyfriend does annoys me?

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Me and my boyfriend been together 1 year We have a good relationship Ofcourse we argue here and there as well But lately everything he does annoys me Even the little things Like: - him talking about his gym - him talking about his upcoming photoshoot - him putting his profile on public now - him talking about things at his work Etc I do love him but... I don't know Just things that he says and does.. annoys me these days And then i get annoyed and pissed off at him and give him attitude He would say: "Why u doing this? Stop it. Just be nice to me" And all that shit Is this normal?

lumos · Accepted Answer

I would say it's normal that your feelings might go up and down for a little bit, especially after the first year. In any long-term relationships, it's hard to keep the spark going and to not be a little bit annoyed by your partner every now and then.
But it seems like everything he does or says are annoying you now, which I would say isn't normal in a healthy relationship. Do you know why these things annoy you? Those things you mentioned that annoy you all seem to have the common factor of him talking about himself. Is that all he does - talk about himself? Or are you only annoyed when he talks about those things? In my opinion it's normal to talk to your partner about your interests, and things that are going on at work. But if he can't talk about anything other than himself, then yeah, I can see how that's annoying. But if other things about him annoy you too, like completely random things, I would say that your annoyance is a bit more irrational and probably dependent on you losing feelings for him.
Anyway, to sum it up, it's normal to be a little bit annoyed. After all, you've known each other for a long time and sometimes when you're together too much it might become overwhelming. However, in a healthy relationship I would say that it's not normal to feel annoyed at *every* little thing that he does and says, because that to me sounds like you're falling out.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

That is obviously not normal. If you despise everything he says and dos then way are you with him? It's very clear that you belittle him for things you refuse to control for yourself. No, you don't love him. Sounds like you're mean to him and you're not hearing anything he says. If you keep that up he may break up with you or god forbid cheat. You're being very selfish and you are not communicating with him because you continue to hold grudges over what happened. Arguments are normal. Belittling each other to the point you're always at odds is NOT.

Cuteusernamehere · Accepted Answer

Instead of throwing in the towel right away try to fix it!
The problem is not him, it's you. Yes he's doing things that annoy you but it's you who is annoyed by it not him.
Try to focus on the nice things he does and says. Try to notice the small good things more and you'll start to not see the annoying ones as often. I know it's hard, trust me I've been married forever lol we wouldn't of made it this far if we let the little annoying things get to us 😉

marcobanks · Accepted Answer

If you would literally rather sit at a bus stop then go home to your partner you got a problem and it ain't going away you have to pull the Band-Aid off and find somebody who you look forward to seeing and yes relationships do get kind of regular and they don't have the excitement that they once did but that's a far cry from being annoyed by everything the other person does do yourself a favor get out you're doing them a favor to

DeviousSiddy · Accepted Answer

Maybe it annoys you that its all about him?
Maybe you feel like you aren't the centerpoint enough in the relationship?
Does he ask you about how you are and what you did?
Maybe its just him not realizing that the relationship has been a bit one sided. He seems like a nice guy so why not talk about that?
Or be loud about your day xD
Fight fire with fire, you know?

thedancingcookie20 · Answer

Im assuming things went well in the beginning of the relationship, otherwise you two wouldn't have gotten together. Things were fresh at first and you probably developed lust. Both distracted you from annoyances that he's probably had before but didn't start noticing until things started to settle, like now. It's normal to not be annoyed of things your partner says and then have the same stuff bother you later, after being together a while. It happens all the time.

Detemer · Answer

Okay.
I get this.
N I think it's maybe cz u find him self centred.
All the things u mentioned indicate how it's almost like everything is about him.

Do u not share as much?
Does he seem disinterested in what u have to say?
If that's not the case, then just speak your mind.
Tell him tour stuff as well.
Share a few stories. Keep it balanced.
Go on frequent dates.
That should make it better.

N if it doesn't... I guess it's time to move on cz your heart's not in it.

falsy · Answer

Been together for a year or so... honey moon period is ending... just remember you dont have to be together 100% of the time... a little space can save relationships ( not saying pack up and move but having separate friends and what not can help with this)

SarahsSummer · Answer

“We have a good relationship... everything he does annoys me” You can’t have it both ways. Why do you think it annoys you when your boyfriend tells you what’s going on in his life? Do you not have anything going on in your life to share and that makes you resentful?
Why do you think you have an attitude?

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

That's not normal, it almost sounds like you're suffering from some internal insecurities as everything he's talking about seems to be related to topics that literally have no negative connotation. Or... you're tired of the relationship and are subconsciously trying to sabotage it.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Unless you start to except him talking about what is going on with himself and start opening up when he asks about you, your day, your plans etc it will not work out. I would get frustrated if my girlfriend did not tell me about her day. Asking about your day is a sign he cares. What do you two talk about?

Levin · Answer

"Is it normal that everything my boyfriend does annoys me?"

Yes, it's called being a woman...

But in all seriousness. It seems you're getting annoyed over boasty things? So either you're insecure, or he's a bit of a show off?

tntfa · Answer

Begin some good communication. Look at the role you play. Be honest but do not attack him. tell him how you feel. If after that things still are a struggle you may need to reconsider your entire relationship.

pinkzoesbb · Answer

No it’s not normal. I had the same issue. It didn’t have to be anything specific with me. Just after awhile he would be on my very last nerve. I always ended it.

Astoriana · Answer

You should break up with him. This isn't a relationship that will last.

newsingle · Answer

I had this. We just kept patching our relationship. Finally we were patching patches. Both decided it was time for change and ended it

AmtgardJean · Answer

Not normal. If everything is annoying something is wrong. Some things can be annoying to you but if fairly close to everything is there is a problem.

Binca79 · Answer

I think you To need end I was like that with my ex husband. Though my ex is locked up.

Pink2000 · Answer

You might as well break up with him.  If he's starting to annoy you that much.

TXKen · Answer

Sounds like you are tired of him and ready for someone more serious.

lastcall95 · Answer

I don't know the whole story but it sounds to me like he is narcissistic and self-centered. If that's the case then it's clearly understandable why it irritates you. If my assumption is correct the best thing to do would be to talk to him about it. If that doesn't work then flip the tables, he will most likely be irritated immediately if you show no interest in him and only in yourself. The moment he says anything that's when you explain how he makes you feel the same when he does the same.

desiree512 · Answer

You sound tired of him. What he talks about must not interest u or something

YHL6965 · Answer

Getting attitude for no reason would annoy the shit out of me. Saying be nice to me while giving him an attitude...

Tmoney12345 · Answer

I mean it's *normal* but it's not necessarily a good thing. Basically it's a test.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Yes it is normal. You can have great hate sex that way.

Volvagia · Answer

bfs being annoying all the time? sounds normal to meee

thechico79 · Answer

apparently he likes to talk about himself so i say get rid of him.

batwriter1979 · Answer

Snap is his face and say, "Hey dumb ass remember me!"

thenewgirlll · Answer

Nah. Break up for your best and his best.

madgoat · Answer

No. They are normally called ex-boyfriends.

R00KIE_GUY · Answer

Sounds like you're relationship is sinking

verybusyguy · Answer

Ummmm... Mood swings?

Dinnye001 · Answer

It is a sign that things are silently ending.

cupidkisses · Answer

not normal

CT_CD · Answer

No not normal

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