I have turned down a few women over the years, because I was in a relationship.
This is one things the really burns me about women in general, how when you are single they have no interest in you because you are single. But when you are in a relationship, all of a sudden will come on to you tell you how they have been into you for a while.
I have lost respect for a few women that I had, had respect and interest for until they hit on me after I was in a serious relationship with someone. Even after that relationship had ended, I would never consider them for a relationship.
I really don't have time for someone, that does not want to put the time into developing a relationship. But looks to move in on someone, after they are in a relationship with the mindset that they can just walk in and replace someone and have that same relationship.
That type of person is not someone you can depend on, because as soon as their is a little bump they are gone.
Yes! So incredibly true. I hate that shit too, the way women want to get with men who are married or have somebody. It's disrespectful and makes them look pathetic. So you don't want single men but you're single and pitiful to even be wanting a taken man. MHO right here.
It's awkward to say, but I too know of some girls who tell me they like unavailable taken guys. something like it being a challenge and that it makes them feel good when the guy chooses her over the previous girlfriend. I'm a feminist, so I find these girls pretty ugly at heart.
Yes. Twice. Back in college the most irritating female in the world happened to have a crush on me, not just a crush, almost an obsession, I was like, "God, I know I prayed every night for a girlfriend, for a woman to fall in love with me, but why her, God, why her? Why are you punishing me with the very thing I wanted most?" Joking aside, apart from this, I had a mutual crush on a co-worker and she proposed an affair, but I had to say no... I liked her a lot, but I absolutely loved my wife, and couldn't cheat on her.
I'm a beautiful girl. Not trying to be conceited and I've been rejected by guys. They said to me approach them first and since I've never had a boyfriend I did that but I've learned guys hate when girls make the first move. They love the chase. I'll show just a bit of interest and they go running the other way. Then there's those guys that I meet on vacation who only know my first name but chase me down and get my number and keep texting me? Those are the same guys I didn't show much interest to. So go figure guys say they hate games but they love when women make them suffer
Exactly I'll never win. Once one guy saved me from Some creep. I really liked him but he was just being nice. Funny enough his best friend liked me. I never win lol
guys reject girls all the time, most guys I liked growing up didn't like me. They didn't flat out reject me to my face but made it obvious they didn't like me that way by dating other girls or saying I was unattractive in harsher words. I don't reject people cause I'm not approached by either sex hardly. But never been approached by a girl, just not someone people approach to be honest.
I've been turned down before. Being rejected is never good, but if it's going to happen I prefer he be honest about it. That way I know where I stand, and can focus onto moving on to someone who is into me.
Yeah, a few times. Once when I was younger a girl tried to come on to me, but simply wasn't attracted to her. Another time, a friends with benefits wanted to get into a relationship with me, take things to the next level, but I told her I didn't think we were compatible. She was torn up about it, got over it, and we continued to be friends with benefits on and off for a while afterward.
I probably inadvertently rejected a few women who gave me a bunch of signs but I was either too dense or too shy to capitalize on it at the time. I feel bad for those women. haha! They missed out just as much as I did...
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I rejected a special education girl because she so badly wanted a boyfriend, and wanted me to come to her house alone. obviously it would have been a very bad situation. I was as kind as I could be about saying “no.” She seemed ok with it (at least in front of me).
Otherwise... I did try to kindly say no to two VERY drunk girls I had never met that were really forward. They got pissed hat I wasn’t wanting to take advantage of them being sloppy drunk. I was kind, but I became slightly less so the more they started being more obviously obnoxious. But rather than argue, I just walked away after a few seconds of them.
Other than that, I don’t think I’ve ever rejected anyone. Women usually don’t do any kind of asking, and I get flirted with probably once every five years.
I once rejected 2 good looking girls (maybe even I don't know bout the other one) because of another girl which wasn't even that much hotter than the other 2 (and a prick that in the end rejected me too lol).
I rejected one girl cause her ass was so fat and I was so weak and slim (wouldn't reject today man that ass) that she rather hurt my pelvis than get me hard.
I've become better at rejection and am doing a good job at sneakily repulsing a girl who doesn't shave in a way that won't hurt lol (she hates me).
In highschool one time i was heading back to class and these two girl were talking in the hallway by lunch room (one blonde the other brunette) i was just passing them by when the brunette one stoped me and asked if i was single i said yeah i am, then she turnes to the blonde one, for some reason the blonde was all smiles, then back to me and says "well she say's your her boyfriend." i was soo surprised by that i just kinda back up slowly and just said "naw im not" and that was it i contuned walking and went back to class. I can't say i didn't want a relationship with her she was cute it was just such a weird experiance for me when i think about it. I was just to shy and had no confidence to say yes to anything like that... kinda wish i could go back and do all that over again.
Yes, 4 and each and everytime i did i was called insensitive, a loser and many other things when i told them im not intrested as gently as possible, a few times they started crying and everyone around her jumped in to belittle me in every possible way. But its okay for a woman to just tell a guy to "fuck off" when she's not intrested. Lol
Of course. I've also turned down women who were very negative in general, and women who were mentally unstable, and finally some ghetto girls. I like minimal drama, so avoiding those types of girls is a priority for me.
Definitely have had the experience with turning down ghetto girls. Really not my types. I won't lie, they tend to have more guts in going after a guy and letting him know she's interested but I'm just not lol.
Several times yeah. I remember few years ago when i was in high school there was this girl who had a crush on me but she just wasn't my type. She even approached me and asked me out which i suppose was really hard for her to do and i turned her down. The problem was i was crushing really hard on her best friend who is a gorgeous girl but i had no balls to approach her and ask her out. Now several years later i did asked her out and now we are in the long term relationship.
I was at a night club and these two girls approached me and started asking questions. "If I come to this club often? Do I like it? asked me if I want to join them?" So, I told her that my girlfriend just went to the washroom and I really want to go back home in one piece!
Not directly. It's more like some girls try to talk to me and I'm not feeling it so I just entertain them with some boring conversation and then bust out.
@Kenni I just don't really push the conversation forward. Lots of "ya, uh huh, that's terrible, really, no kidding, you don't say, wow, that's crazy, cool, awesome"
Or show very clear signs of wanting to fuck or go out dating?
The first one I have done on a few occasions. I think it's 4 (3girls) and I rejected the same girl twice. The first one I do not regret. The second one was haunts me to this day. I rejected the girl I was in love with. The third one no caring.
The other serious approaches are more than a dozen.
I remember two girls coming up to me and in unison saying they like me. Wtf was I supposed to do have a three-way maybe? I just ignored it and went on as if it didn't happen. I wasn't interested in any sorta relationship at the time.
Yes and I was the bad guy for turning her down, apparently, for being honest and saying I didn't see any future and think it would be disrespectful to lead her on.
Yes, she had short hair like a boy, a stupid face, and a horrendous personality. She had a nice body but her personality was just unbearable. She was annoying, loud, and if you didn’t talk to her she would get hurtful and gossip and get people to say stuff to me. Then she wanted me to take her virginity. I hated her so much I just didn’t want to give her the satisfaction. Maybe if she wasn’t such an annoying hurtful nutcase I wouldn’t have looked at her boy face but the personality killed it.
Yes. I suspected a good friend of mine was starting to like me romantically and confessed that she liked me and wanted a relationship. I told her I didn't feel the same way. Our friendship grew and now she's happily married and don't regret that moment. It is better to be upfront with your intentions than to waste another person's time.
I turn down some drunk druggie girls when I go to the city some of them come up to me they can really be creepy and after money. Or they can cause problems as they are not sober and try to get sexual which is a crime. The only sober girl I turned down was my friends ex. I couldn't date a friends ex its one of the bros codes
I am not sure I don't think all of them were hookers. at least not officially but they defiantly were after money or drugs. As hookers where I used to live were licensed and would work for legal brothels
@Nate1941 yes she should be licensed otherwise a women who does prostitution without being legally allowed would get arrested. Maybe where you are from the law doesn't take this issue seriously but where I used to live it was serious as some unlicensed ones aren't medically checked, can go missing (kidnapped) or abused, its more of a human rights thing
yes i have. the times i've turned them down it was do to not feeling like we had a good connection, not being attracted to them, or other stuff along those lines
Absolutely. Some hot women you just can't talk to and for a lot of people that is a huge turn off. Or sometimes it feels like you are just a conquest which for guys feels good to do but the when the shoe is on the other foot we don't want it done to us.
Yes I have. Even if she is good looking I don't just give my phone number out or even want to meet them. I don't use dating apps. It takes time for me to get to know someone and build trust with them.
So I am sorry some random woman who I will probably never see again like at Walmart or a bar or on vacation or something like that... I mostly if she asks I will kindly reject.
I remember a nurse from work (different section though), wanting to chat and dance with me all, generally flirting, I said no thanks several times. However at one point she took man hand and tried to drag me onto he dance floor, I pull back my hand back and firmly said no, then she flipped out as if I had called her name or anything. All I did was rejecting her, that's it, I was between girlfriends at the time but still, she wasen't very attractive so I was not interested.
Women are so bad at handling rejections, never seen a guy flipping out over something like this.
Wow. It's true. They don't know how to take it. I've been rejected before, and I move on. Sometimes it's disappointing but you go to the next person. Women seem to think a guy should want them just because they're women.
Yep. Lust is entirely subjctive and fickle. Friends can develop it, and acquaintances can start with it. If interest isn't there, you get the feeling you will be bored.
Bigger girls can't seem to get enough of me, but im attracted to thick or skinny girls usually. So often I don't outwardly reject big girls, but I change the subject when they try to get intimate.
That’s why they are better off just dropping hints/being friendly and waiting for the guy to make a move. But I hear a lot of the 20s guys these days have no clue how to approach women.
@hahahmm I wonder if this is why so many are badasses these days, and why girls like that. "Badboys" seem to want that image and personality to make up for what they lack.
@Nerdking find a guy who knows how and ask for tips but don’t ask a guy who is in your social circle or works with you cause he may view you as competition.
One of my best friends (Extremely hot woman) wanted me to go out with her but I rejected her because I needed a major break from relationships (I just got out of a relationship).
Yes , as was about to be deployed on operations with the British Army , also said no to a few women that turned me off with their self obsessed / nasty " personalities " .
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Yes, many times during college. Some of them did things that would certainly have been charged as sexual assault had they been men.
I’ve rejected a women before. She had found my phone number through her sister, who had gotten it from my sister. So not only did I have a random chick message me, I had to tell her I wasn’t interested in women so she pretty much wasted her time.
Ya I was ditched by my x girlfriend because she needs money not real love. I again met her and took her to a restaurant and made her pay bill and said good bye and left the place
That’s why my ex left me too... for a rich guy. Wish i had the opportunity to do that to or something like it missed my chance when I️ straight cut off all contact
I haven't exactly turned them down, but because of my shyness and lack of alone time with them, and lack of them conversing with me, nothing happened. Oh well FML
they have to be because if guys are then they get in trouble., Yes they are, it's very convenient though they shouldn;t have to be like that becuase guys shouldn;t have to feel guilty fro flirting
I have rejected women before, yes. But I was more interested in hearing other guys' stories. I rejected a nutcase once, who was even trying get close to my family, and she had a kid. Of course teens. And some other basic rejecting-her situations.
Yes and I'm glad I did, I had absolutely no feelings for this girl, funny enough she has been with one of my best friends for a year and half now (they got together 2 years after this happened)
Yes, doesn't feel good. She was a good friend. I was with someone else at that time, so couldn't connect with her. After that she stopped texting or calling.
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No, but I wonder what it would be like to reject one.
Yeah in Freshman year of high school. I went to K-8 school for 6th, 7th, and part of 8th grade, and always saw her as just one of the guys. I was never attracted to her, and she tried to ask me out like 3 times.
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