Is it possible to be friends with your ex? (Page 3)

Question

My boyfriend and I have talked about being friends if we ever broke up. A lot of the time we talk about how our relationship is always based on friendship first, which has made our relationship quite nice. We aren't breaking up but we have gotten into fights before. In those fights, he told me that he could never be my friend afterwards. Is being friends with your ex realistic? Or do you think, by saying we will stay friends, is kind of like, not entirely closing the door but staying attached and open?

SebShaw82 · Answer

I think it depends on how amicably you you broke up. I have an ex I still get along well with there are others whom I want nothing to do with again.

markscott · Answer

It's certainly possible, and sometimes works, but often just doesn't work at all.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm friends with my ex's but they weren't serious, If I had a serious ex I would not talk to them for a year n then we could be friends so it just depends how much you meant to each other n the way yous break up

lexi1202 · Answer

I'm on good terms with all my exes. Do we talk all the time? No. But we talk every once in a while

bloodyrevenge · Answer

You can be friends but it takes time to get to that point

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think that I could be friends with my ex or that a person can be friends with their ex. This is because those feelings are always going to be there.

hahahmm · Answer

Yes. But if you get an insecure partner it’s not going to work.

ARandomIndivual · Answer

Fuck no, but it's possible to start going out again... Does that make any sense.

ryancg · Answer

No, after you've been romantically involved with someone, those little feelings are always going to be there buried beneath the surface. And those feelings aren't conducive to a regular friendship.

janna_jcb · Answer

Yes, i’m still friends with al my exes. First we had a fight and it was hard to be around them but now we are very good friends. (Its like a patern, it happens after every relationship that I have)

lilmissumshine · Answer

Ok if u guys are happily together why are you guys talking about breakups? it's like u guys are preparing yourselves for the worse. self fullfilling prophecy

Namainza · Answer

It depends on the reason why the two broke up in my opinion.😏

E_Z_Z · Answer

yes they can be friend , but not all EXs some you can be friends with and some you can't :C

innocentflower · Answer

I’m friends with two of my exes so I’d say yes but it’s not the same everyone

Robsinsf53 · Answer

Tough Q. Im civil towards my ex wife because we never see or talk to each other. Lol.😊

taleswapper · Answer

Sure it's possible. I'm friends with all my exes; it's how they got to be in a relationship with me in the first place.

Yuhei · Answer

I think it's possible depending on how you break up. Like if you break up because of fights, argument or cheating, probably no but if you break up in a good way, probably yes.

lushah · Answer

It is realistic a year or a couple after the break up, when the attachment instincts have been redirected towards another partner. The things that make you like and enjoy each other's company will outlast lust, jealousy, possessiveness and romance (:

TiredMonkey · Answer

New relationsips will cause too much pain for either ex.

loveshorro · Answer

I think it’s possible but it won’t be the same as an actual friendship

Anonymous · Answer

It is possible. But not so much after the break up. Maybe after time has past and your both over each other.

lilzichik1 · Answer

I'm friends with my ex and the friendship we hade isn't the same as before we dated

JScottS · Answer

It depends on the breakup. Mutual breakups can easily result in being friends, but if you guys break up over text then probably not. Even then it's always possible, you just have to see how you feel about them after the spark is gone.

AlvisQS · Answer

I dont think so. There is no 'friends' with intimate people

Corral1 · Answer

Hey... So, I think that "friendship" can't be a normal friendship, but with some distance it can be real... Talk just one time in the day by phone calls and avoid talking by WhatsApp or sms. It helps a lot.

Doktor_Paja · Answer

Well if you ask me from approximately last 5 girls I dated I've stayed a friend with one, so basically its possible but rare. The thing is that we knew from the begining that we were better as frinds than partners. 😊

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

That is one thing i never stayed in touch with my ex girlfriends.

RealandGenuine27 · Answer

If i had an ex It would depend on why we ended , that would determine if we could be friends or not

britpop · Answer

Yeah it's possible all depends how and why you broke up future partners probably won't like it though

PellakaWurm · Answer

I'm still friends with most of my exes. most of the time we would split up and after a month or 4 we would start talking again.

LegateLanius · Answer

I never had an ex but that would depend on the way the break up went and if you both can get past the feelings

Pundu · Answer

It never works out, and why would you worry and think about separation, enjoy the moment, and if thinks don't work out, why look back future has hope and we should never carry old baggage along

ranjeetlalbhai · Answer

Life is about looking forward. Ex is your past, I don't know the reason of fight but if he ever think of you as friend, he should come back, you should look forward.

redblust9 · Answer

It really depends on your own partways time, moments, efforts, patience etc etc.. Bcoz mines... sigh.. But its better to be like this.. y'all know what i mean

jack1130252 · Answer

My ex wanted to be friends because she wanted drugs from me. (That I no longer do). She was using me merely just for that. I don't think it works, everything becomes awkward and it isn't healthy.

777cail777 · Answer

I’m still friends with one of my exes. The other ones were too chicken to be friends.

Protonite · Answer

You can always be friends if the other is as friendly as u

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is, but it depends on break up. Sometimes you remember the things she/ he did to you when you became friends so some people are bitter to befriend their exes.

jessicarosen · Answer

Yes! If you both are willing to work it as friends then go for it!!

Fukaroo · Answer

No. You either get back together or you go separate ways sadly.

TheRish · Answer

N. O. big no, this is bc when you had been sharing very intimate relationship with some one you can't be just friends.

Travis123 · Answer

Yes, I think it is definitely possible. I’m friends with an ex from about 13 years ago. We talk occasionally and have a good friendly relationship.

iFarted · Answer

Yes, but I'd need time to lose romantic feelings.  The only thing is there's always still sexual feelings :P

sexxieK · Answer

Yes you can be friends, but we'll at least in my case. My ex and I took some time apart to heal first. Now, we are great friends and we talk about everything including new relationships

shaque2545 · Answer

Depends entirely on the break up. I can never bee friends with my ex wife. She slept with somebody just after we separated, knowing I loved her dearly.

jesuss21 · Answer

I don't prefer that. But my girlfriend was friend with her ex. I've said that is okay. They were close, but not yet. Why you need ex? Because you may alone. And you afraid from that.

SweetAndSoulful · Answer

My best friend was my girlfriend for a year and has been my best friend for 16 years so it's definitely possible, but it usually depends why or how you broke up.

jefieldv · Answer

Yes I was in a the year relationship when we broke up we needed some time apart but after a while we were friends again and have been for a few years now

hiiiiiiiyy · Answer

My homemates broke up after a long relationship, but they are still close friends. They still sleep together also, so I guess it's all about the way you broke up

gabaughn · Answer

This is highly dependant on the situation, but usually not.

culinaryqueen · Answer

For me I think I've been friends with all of my exs except one. So yeah I think it's possible

sumant11 · Answer

No It would be never be possible if you both had love between

Sha84 · Answer

i still friendly with some ex's that no grudge on break off

oksurething · Answer

Yes. One or both of you might lose your memory/memories.

Badger101 · Answer

I've asked this same question with my girl. Yes you can be friends. Definitely.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Sure. It's hard for a lot of people, but some people can do it. I've seen it myself.

kevinthomas23 · Answer

If both people in the relationship are half decent humans beings then yes there shouldn't be any problems

AjithAshokan · Answer

Its very difficult to be friends again as your heart and mind always keeps you pulling you to the past...

Nice222 · Answer

It works until one of you get involved in another relationship. Then in gets weird because the New GF/BF usually gets jealous.

American_Tragedy · Answer

I have stayed friends with several of my exes, so yes it is possible!

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