Jealous I wasn’t boyfriends first kiss?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know what’s wrong with me but lately I have become obsessed with the fact that I wasn’t my boyfriends first kiss. He had an on and off makeout session at a party a couple of years ago and counts that as his first. The thing is it has never ever bothered me before - we have been in a relationship for nearly two years now and I have always thought of it as a funny story cause he absolutely hated it and only let her continue cause he was desperate for a kiss as he says. I feel like an absolute psycho I have no reason to be jealous it’s not like he’s my first kiss or anything in fact I’ve done more than him. I just have gotten to the point now where this is stopping me from eating and I don’t know what the hells wrong with me. I can’t talk to anyone about it because he is just fed up now which I don’t blame him and no one else even knows we’re back together after we broke up a few months ago so I feel very lost and I am so sick of crying over something so stupid.

[Anonymous]

I think I'm the only one here who actually knows what this is like and I sympathize with you. I think we both know it's irrational but kinda normal when you really think about it. You care a lot about him right? Maybe even too much to an extent, and thinking of him with someone else is gonna make your stomach turn. So, try not to think about that and if you do, remind yourself of all the happy things you two do together that are special to just you two. Maybe she "got" the first kiss, but what's better, one kiss, or ulimited kisses? Think of what you have now and what you will have in the future because that thing he did is over and what he has with you is special and ongoing. :)

[Asker]

Thank you for such a lovely reply, you’re exactly right. I know it’s is irrational and stupid but being through so much together the last few months has made my love for him grow hence why I’m worrying over nothing.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand, it's definitely not easy! But I know you can do it, you have such a great insight on yourself and know when you want to change something, not everyone does that. It's going to be alright, I'm sure, it's just going to take some time. And don't forget to eat because that can also affect mood so that's important too. :)

[Asker]

Yeah never thought of it like that at least I know I’m being silly. I think the hardest part for me is trying to just count it as one kiss even if it was split up over and hour or so. Cause at the moment I feel like I’m trying to get over five kisses and not just one as ridiculous as it sounds.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I get ya, I am the same way sometimes. But it's just the brain panicking, seeing it as a "danger" when it's not. It's just trying to protect you even though it's doing a bad job. Haha. I figured out I felt that way because I didn't feel my boyfriend appreciated me as much as his others, as weird as it sounds. But when I told him how I felt and he assured me that he does appreciate who I am and doesn't compare me to others because I am way better, it didn't bother me anymore. Maybe if you see why your brain is trying to protect you, you will find closure. :)

[FlightlessPhoenix]

You're not ganna be with your boyfriend for the rest of your life you'll get over not being his first kiss or should soon because wow -.-

[Katrina_Rose]

You really need to Let go off that you weren’t his first kiss, that was in the past, it was ages ago, focus on now.

[CadenS2002]

Not being rude or anything, but you gotta realize that there were girls that got to him before you did, it's the same way with you for instance. If you had a first kiss and it wasn't him, he'd be jealous but he'd have to learn to get over it.

[Muney2bMade]

Learn to accept his past or you and him will never be happy...

[Swr6007]

Get over yourself. You’re 20 years old. Stop being an insecure child

[jacquesvol]

"... have no reason to be jealous it’s not like he’s my first kiss or anything in fact I’ve done more than him."
Nuff said.

[Volvagia]

u gotta let it go lol otherwise ur love life will suffer tremendously

[txdiie_]

let it go

[Humbledman74006]

Yeah you're physco

[SnowyEvening]

And you sir, are an absolute jerk.

[Humbledman74006]

There was no question here... not one in all. of that long crazy rant about not being someone's first kiss. You might need therapy.

What are. gonna do when the next guy has had actual se x with someone.

Grow up

[SnowyEvening]

I'm not the asker, and I wasn't talking about that. I'm talking about you. You see someone who knows that they are thinking irrational and need help knowing how to stop it and you say, "you're psycho". Learn to have compassion, or learn to just shut up if you don't have anything helpful to say.

[Humbledman74006]

That's not why this place is here princess. It's for honesty...

[SnowyEvening]

Helpful honesty. Which your statement does not fufill, what is she supposed to do with what you said huh? You're just being rude, not honest.

[Asker]

Please stop being so rude I am quite aware I’m not in the best head space and I’ve been in therapy the last 5 years for various things. I know what I’m saying or asking is stupid and may come accross as pathetic but there’s no need to be so rude. Take it somewhere else thanks

[Humbledman74006]

Ahh perception... she already said she was pyhsco. I was confirming her suspicion