It's just a short step from there to being the guy in The Danish Girl (as in the REAL story, not the Hollywood propo, wherein the guy was pressured into getting a gender change by his wife, against his own will, because she'd been a fem-domina lesbian all along). It's happened to my brother, who's wife did exactly the same thing, signing the papers to change his official gender herself, less than two days after he'd lost 40% of his blood in a narrowly failed suicide attempt because she told him not only that she'd break up with him, but that she'd toss their 1yo daughter off the balcony of their 13th floor apartment unless he agreed to get the sex-change and become her bitch properly. I am NOT a transwoman- I am a MAN. And the male gender role in relationship dynamics is, always had been and always will be, that of the dominant partner. Because in this society, this world, where biology and genetics are now deemed to be irrelevant, that dominant role's the ONLY THING which now defines me as being a man. That role is mine. As a man, I own it. And I won't allow ANY woman to take it away from me. I'll NEVER let what happened to my elder brother happen to me, and unlike him, I wouldn't try and kill myself in a desperate last-gasp bid to escape- I'd kill the woman attempting to strip my masculinity away from me first, beating her to death bare-handed, long before it reached that stage.
Both need to be mature minded and have a similar goal in mind.
I have been in both relations where she made more money and also when i made more.
The one that made more money was selfish partied her money away while we lived off of my shitty paycheck. She even attempted to try and finance for an Audi R8 which she made enough to afford until I brought reality into the picture and showed her how much taxes, insurance would cost her. She then got pussy with me saying I always shoot down her dreams.
Keep in mind she couldn't cook and refused to clean up behind herself.
When I made more I had enough to live comfortably and still go out or get gifts.
And we cooked together. Spending time together more often
There needs to be a balance in terms of money.
I like your comment, thank you for it. And I can see the balance in money thing. I agree, it does depend on maturity.
Always haha, quality wins by a landslide.
I think a relationship should be balanced, 50/50. I've noticed that in the long term a healthier bond is when the partners do not completely take control of only one thing, as in time your daily life changes and it's way harder to maintain what you did before.
it depends on every couple and what they are truly comfortable with.
there's not really a norm anymore, its a mix, so there's no main role. i have no feeling on it , i don't think of it, unless someone was expecting me to be submissive. then i would be surprised and turned off.
i dont see the logic in a submissve 'partner' you chose each other. presumably you respect each other and trust each other and hold each to a certain esteem.
if you can not trust your partner to contribute with their own the authority they should not be your partner.
adults being with adults they see & relate to as children just makes zero sense.
I'd prefer my man to be the dominant one. I like being in charge actually a lot but when it comes to men controlling me a bit, I love it lol
So I'd stay submissive.
I’m old fashion sub wife I don’t like female being dominant
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Its not for me, but if it works for them great.
Yes, if that is what works in the particular relationship, then it is perfectly ok. Why must couples feel they should fit into a gender normative role in these categorized/stereotypical relationships. While it is not talked about much, dominate women with submissive men is quite common. This is especially true among men who are in largley dominating/powerful roles during their day (jobs). They seek to be a bit submissive in their private lives. To each their own. What works for you is all that matters.
I'm going to say that it is in fact ok if the woman were to take on the "traditional men's role" of providing for the family. However, I am a traditional person. No 1 need agree with me, for I am citing my own opinion purely, and I'm 100% sure many people have a different view than I do. My opinion is thus: A man is the head of the house, and bears the responsibility of caring for the family and providing for them. A woman is the pillar of the house that keeps the entire house together with her love and compassion. She makes sure that the family is happy and comfortable in her home, because the home is her castle. I conclude my opinion by stating that, as a man, I would prefer to shoulder the responsibility of providing for my wife and children, while my wife is my right-hand partner in keeping it all together.
I don't particularly care for either party being dominant or submissive in a relationship, because I neither want to order nor be ordered to do anything; if the couple is comfortable with their relationship having one partner working and the other being a stay at home partner, that's their prerogative and I applaud the work ethic and dedication of anyone who can provide for two people, even more so for women in a society that tends to be weighted against them.
It's deeply humiliating for a guy. And I don't mean that "we've been socialized" nonsense, but there is a deep, undeniable fulfillment we as men desire in being the provider for us and ours. It's like having kids. It's one of a man's goals in life, fulfilling his calling as the husband of his family
Of course it is ok. If that's what you and your partner want from your relationship.
There is certainly nothing wrong with a woman in this day and age being the higher income earner.
As for domination and submission, those intricacies change for every relationship, so you have to work that out between you naturally.
It's my opinion that a relationship is a team effort. For the longest time my step mother made more than my father and he homeshooled me and had a property inspection business. I don't see a problem with it if that's what a couple is comfortable with.
it just doesn't work for me. my job is to carry the water, make the money and have to step it up... when it's the girl who does that i know it won't last. girls have to have a guy who they think is better than them and a guy who makes less money is most times considered worse
I think it's okay, I just don't really understand how some guys can pull it off. Like: what does the woman see in him? I feel like I get rejected all the time for not bringing enough to the table, but maybe I am misreading why they reject me. I guess some well-endowed, super funny and popular guys can get away with not contributing financially. I don't know.
Whatever as long as I love her and she loves me back, and it kind of turns me when she is in charge, so I even enjoy the dominant woman
Whatever works for them. I have had some great women in my life, including bosses. Most of them exercised their power softly. I knew she was boss and that when she asked me for something I delivered, but never fetl subserviant. Transfer that into a relatoinship, it could work. If yo ubecome focused on the power you are probably not ready to weild it.
Yeah personally I would having nothing to do with that situation. A woman with that power is not attractive to me. I want to be the man in the relationship not the woman. The whole situation is a giant turn off. I would rather be alone for ever then live even a few weeks like that. So my answer to that is a big FUCK NO!!!
Yes it's fine
It's called female LED relationships
Me personally prefer that kind of relationship
I wouldn't mind a relationship with a woman who makes more than I do and who takes the lead in family matters. As long as there is mutual respect and trust, I don't see an issue.
Its pretty awesome but i wouldn't want myself to be sitting at home. hopefully she earns more and has power over me
Some people like being submissive while others don't. Whatever floats their boat.
the exact same I feel about male led relationships, indifferent.
I don't think I would exactly like it but it's okay.
If I could do it all over, i'd seek to marry a beautiful woman who'd keep me chastity, control my orgasms and train me to be what She wanted. I'd have found a Goddess to worship.
Female led relationships are the only ones I'm interested in really.
Find with me if she brings in more money. And everything else depends on the situation.
Nope. But this answer changes depending on who is asked. Marriage is a partnership. Why should it be labeled with someone being "dominant"? Both parties should be involved in equal ways.
Well In my opinion dominant and submissive roles are equal really. It depends, there are several types of ways people handle relationships and marriages. Shared is common role where both are as you said involved in equals ways. But so are the ones where the male is more dominant or the female is. Both play certain roles of their choice and work with one another equally to make it work. Good question!
I'm a firm believer in a nuclear family. Just... stick together. The children suffer in nonnuclear families.
Interesting, I like your view.
This generation is so focused on naming things I've given up on it. Things need to just be sometimes.
It depends on what works for the couple
Personally I'd stab myself before I took on the "feminine" role in the relationship
It's kind of precious... like a kitten hissing or "growling" like it thinks it's a tiger.
Yes i like dominating females in relationships. I like being more submissive towards females in relationships.
I am 100% fine with her being the dominant lead in the relationship. I would gladly be a 50s housewife
Since when women are in charge they tend to treat the men in their lives like trained circus monkeys I have to be less inclined to it.
Why not but this os not my nature only in sex maybe
It is not for me to judge how people do things in a relationship.
I personally don't view it as a judging thing, more like a discussion of a choice in a certain relationship dynamic. Everyone has one. Whether it be shared roles, or one more dominant. I'm simply asking what some feel about one that isn't commonly seen. Normally men take the more dominant role or it's shared. Regardless I think they all are simply ways people choose to be with one another, so equally valid. I like your comment though, thank you for answering.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it personally. Women can be the breadwinners and men can be the primary caregivers. It's all about what works best for the people involved. The notion of fixed gender roles is silly and outdated.
Very good opinion, I agree.
That will probably be what happens to little ol’ me. lol But I wouldn’t mind it.
Love being the dominant one
I don't believe in the "dominant" and "submissive"... we are equal partners, with strengths, weaknesses, and the ability to communicate.
I rather have my partner be the dominant one
I like it if she wants to be dominant in bed, but nothing else.
It's fine when they don't treat him like garbage
My girlfriend is the dominant one
I dont mind as long as we love each other.
I don't like over domination thats that.
Fine, but only to a point...
Not my cup of tea
Yes. Why not?
Keeping his balls empty ❤️
Why would that matter?
Well it's a relationship dynamic, a build up of how people interact with one another romantically. It's as valid as the other ones of where the man takes the role or it's shared. Either way it's just a blueprint really. I'm asking your opinion of it as all because I like to hear peoples points of views. Much love!
I don’t see why there needs to be a dynamic where one person takes a certain role, that’s just stupid
Relax, haha. I disagree. When I say dynamic I'm mentioning it as a process between people. A way of working together.
Why does anyone have to take on any kind of role? Why aren’t they just two people that see each other as equal partners?
I'm not saying they don't see each other that way when they take one roles. When I say roles I mean when you come together in a relationship it's normally established what you both are doing to make things work. For example if your career is largely home based you'd likely be home more and take care of things at home. Incomes are shared of course, and etc. Everything is shared yes. They see their partner as an equal, yes. But everyone has something their doing to make everything work. They are playing a role. I see your points though.
sounds good
It's kind of sexy
It's like in day she rules you and in night you're the king
I love a nasty freaky bitch that loves dick
Not okay
It's bad
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