1. The relationship was built on a poor foundation.
If a relationship is built on a feeling of love/romance, or on a need for a relationship it is almost guaranteed to fall apart.
A feeling of love/romance is made up of emotions, of hormones. It has been studied probably for centuries and as a condition (that of being "in love") lasts, at the very most 18 months. After which point most couples are at each other's necks arguing or the guy pulls away, or the girl starts nagging the guy to change, etc etc. SO... until a relationship has a solid foundation based on the way in which two people genuinely compliment and are able to support each other, don't look for, and even avoid a sense of being in love.
2. Guys feeling like their partner doesn't respect them, and girls feeling like their partner doesn't love them.
probably 60% of the time, give or take about 10%... guys cheat not because they thought the other girl was prettier or more beautiful or whatever than their current partner, but because she seems to respect him far more than his current partner. Guys get fed up when their gfs mother them, nagging them about their clothes, and their messes, etc. making them feel like children. Men crave respect, it's part of our nature. Pretty much the same goes for women but in regards to love rather than respect. Not to say both aren't necessary for both parties in a relationship, but the language of most guys is respect so they will automatically show it (unless they're just assholes). Likewise love is natural for most women so it's almost never what a guy is missing out on or craves.
Basically, always be willing to listen to your man and be willing to ask if he feels disrespected by something intentionally or unintentionally.
Anyways, rather than giving a list of reasons people break up I figured I should talk about what I see as the most common sources for them. Hopefully this helps :)
The biggest one is a lack of open, honest communication.
This guy - and ANY guy - is imperfect. We all have human weaknesses and we all make mistakes. Most are pretty small and insignificant in the greater scheme of life, but if you freak out about them, he won't want to be open and honest with you, and your relationship will be doomed.
You aren't perfect either, so set an example and admit when you are wrong with him, and keep the honesty flowing.
It's WAY easier to deal with problems you know about than ones you are hiding from each other.
Keep an open mind and don't rush to judgment unless it's something REALLY serious. What seems like a huge issue today will be forgotten in a month, so maintain your perspective and if you have any questions, ASK HIM! Don't let yourself over think - ASK him and LISTEN to his answers, and encourage him to do the same with you.
Lack of communication is number one. There are right ways to communicate, and there are really wrong ways. Look up some articles on it. Trying to change the other person is a major no no as well. Having different plans for life may be an issue as well. Ask deep questions early and see where you may fit and where it's absolutely just not happening. Might save you wasted time.
Cheating, the ultimate deal breaker. But what exactly is your question when you say down falls?
Answer mine too :
Boyfriend left for another city and didn't even tell me? ↗
when there is a lack of trust/honesty and when couples become selfish and are not willing to compromise
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Cheating , poor communication, lac of respect for each other (this is mostly a character flaw), lack of compatibility (often not recognized for awhile), drug/alcohol abuse, money problems.
Many great points. I would have to add the easier the relationship is, the better it is. If you really have to struggle and work hard to keep things interesting or you find yourself almost acting like a different person to maintain the relationship, then it is only a matter of time until the end. So as long as you both can be yourselves and actually being together makes you happy and a better person, the relationship is actually self-sustaining at that point and there is a great chance it will be success. Imagine the point where you are both just spending a lazy Sunday together doing absolutely nothing, going nowhere but totally happy to be together! If you feel that way, it will last! If you feel totally bored and actually would rather be alone or like you are wasting your time, this is a red flag.
There are 3 things that destroys a relationship:
A) Bad communication (frequent arguments, no comunication).
B) Lack of "reciprocity" (is not the same as doing a favour. It's feeling loved and been able to love back in different ways).
C) Fear, insecurity..( is a fact that if you don't like yourself you'll not have the initiative to work things out in a 100%, and you might actually self sabotage your actual or potential relationship, saying "why she/he is with me", "I hate my body".. Etc.
All those fears and insecurities can harm and ruin anyone sex life, and in a couple relationship as we know, what goes wrong in the bed room might be going wrong over all the house).
Communication, trust, and honesty. Those things come with maturity. You have to be able to explicitly state your feelings, communicate your thoughts, expectations, and desires, and go into a relationship with both people knowing what they want from each other. Be vulnerable, be mature, communicate.
Stop trying to tear it down before it's happened. You premeditate murder not a relationship.
Be yourself, let the relationship develop organically so you know how you really feel, not how you're supposed to feel after you already made wedding cards.
Accept that nobody is perfect. Communicate when there is an issue. Don't make mountains out of molehills. Don't jump to conclusions. Remember that it's a two way street and you both need to make an effort for it to work. Best wishes.
Be absolutely open, honest and self assured in what you want out of the relationship. And explain to him you want the same from him in the interest of the relationship.
Overthinking things which you are doing right now. Also too much drama will make things goes south, and how do you get too much drama? With overthinking things...
Infidelity and related trust issues, lack of compassion and taking each other for granted. Any of those will usually do it
Pretty much everything can be ascribed to a lack of communication in its most basic form.
For me it was lack of intimacy that destroyed everything. you would be surprised how destructive it can be. What is the point of dating when you start looking at you partner and see a friend rather than a lover?
You just gotta hope you're both compatible, patient, loyal and open minded.
Money Financial Problems, Cheating, No physical attraction, Jealousy, Age gap too big, Nothing in common. Cheating is usually a result of these things.
Is anyone concern that sooo many guys responded so quickly? 🤔
Communication is the biggest reason why relationships fail. Nobody knows how to communicate anymore.
The girl starts bitching around.
Thats usually the reason.
Listen to this podcast episode. It may help:
radiolab. org/story/104010-one-good-deed-deserves-another/
Also:
theanatomyoflove. com/
Being clingy, being intrusive, lack of respect for privacy, lack of communication, stupid things like the silent treatment, entitlement.
Holding on too someone who isn't a good match for u
Lack of of communication and empathy. Conflicting life goals. Sex drive mismatch. Money troubles.
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