Q to men: if a girl called you her soul mate?

[Anonymous]

How would you interpret/feel if a very good friend (which you haven't known for long but feels like you've known each other a life time!) called you her soul mate?

Would you be freaked out?

How much weight would you put on the word?

[Middleman]

Actually I think most people would be, given that the idea of soul mates is very much an intimate and personal thing (and something more often brought up by the older generation).

I believe in the idea of soul mates too, but I would think bringing it up so early in the relationship when you hardly know the person can be detrimental in the long term, because these things are often only said when you have established a firm long term relationship ie. when you are married. If you say it too early it would probably take off a lot of the reasons of being attracted to someone in the first place and that is not a good thing. It is probably better not to mention it to him yet and just develop the relationship and see how it goes for the both of you. Sometimes in life some things are better left unsaid, and this is one of them. It is better to experience life as it is instead of talking about it (I think anyways).

Hope that helps.

[pj_chris94]

I'm not sure how much weight I would put on that word in that moment, It could be that you are just really comfortable with that person, and I know we sometimes say "love at first sight" and "soulmate" but really only time will tell if it is true love, and if you are soulmates, As far as I am concerned say whatever you need to say to express your feelings, and if it is meant to be, then it will work out. Think of the alternative, would you rather never tell that person you thought they were your soulmate, only to watch them move on and date someone else.

[Anonymous]

If a guy called me that after not knowing him long and not dating him, well if I liked him as more than a friend, I would think it meant we should be dating. If I only saw him as a friend, I might be uncomfortable if I saw him doing anything else that made me think he wanted to date.

[Anonymous]

A girl once asked me if I thought she was my soulmate. I told her I thought of her more like my cumdumpster.

[snackeyg]

I'd put a lot of weight on that. I'd be pretty amazed and happy.