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Anonymous
(36-45)
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I would not be able to be in an open relationship. I prefer monogamous. I knew of a couple who was in an open relationship, where they did swinging together... she slept with other guys while he slept with other girls while they were MARRIED. They eventually broke up.
I can't do that. I would prefer my guy just loved me and prefer me over all kinds of women ever.
They can work in a minority of cases but you have to communicate constantly and ensure everyone is on the same page and it honestly just sounds exhausting and if you love the person you're with, I wouldn't say it's worth the risk. If however you are thinking of going in to one for a test then go for it. If you do have hesitations then it might not be for you
It can work IF (and ONLY IF) ALL involved parties WANT an open relationship. I don't mean "will tolerate it to stay with my SO", I mean "actively WANT multiple partners." In the real world, what usually happens is that one person wants an open relationship and the other really doesn't, and in those situations, it is doomed to failure.
If you mean more than just sex, I don’t get how it works. I can barely keep one woman happy. Keeping 2 or more happy would be a full time job. Probably would make me feel like crap if I put lots of effort in & she’s spending more time with other guy (s) than me too.
I'm 49 years old and have friends with open marriages. Personally, they don't work for me and my relationships, I need an exclusive relationship, but I've had sex with women who are friends, with their husbands permission. They work fine, as long as both of you are on the same page, everybody knows everything and agrees, and everybody has the permissions. If you are interested in something like this, it's better to talk about it before starting the relationship.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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It takes a certain kind of person for an open relationship to work. They have to have no jealousy when it comes to other people sleeping with their partner. No insecurity when it comes to sexual ability - worrying that someone else might be better in bed leads to jealousy and fear of the partner leaving them. Both need to be able to find other partners too, sometimes because it's so much easier for a girl to find sex than it is for a guy, she might have other partners while the guy struggles to find any or at least attractive ones, and this again causes jealousy. They have to trust that their partner will put them first above the others.
I was in an open relationship once. I was fine with it, I met another girl and my girlfriend met another guy. It didn't bother me. She got jealous though and asked me if we could be exclusive, so I did. Then she slept around behind my back anyway.
If our ancestors only followed their most basic sexual urges to have sex with as many people as possible, we'd be living in mud huts and s***ing in a hole in the ground all the while infected with HIV and god knows what else. Monogamy is healthy for the family, society, and most importantly the two people involved.
It all depends on the individuals in the relationship. Things such as new stress and needing extra attention but feeling they can't have that from their partner because of 1 or more known or unknown lovers of that partner. The jealousy and feelings of inferiority that can come from that tends to doom open relationships.
All of us have multiple relationship in our lives, parents, brothers, friends, but only romantic is limited to one which is limiting our human experience. Open relationship is as the same as exclusive relationship.. it depends on the 2 person in it to work it or not.
Yes, they crash and burn. The vast majority. Romantic couples are just not wired for sharing their one and only. That's why they're called a one and only. LOL No, bringing a third party into a relationship, ANY third party, is a recipe for disaster. It will NEVER turn out like you think or want.
You or your pattern will get jealous, even if your trying not to. One of you might get worried about the other falling in love. Which creates more conflict. But if you decide to, you have to put more work into open relationship then "closed relationship".
Potentially yes if all parties are equally on board But that is rare most often one party wants it more than the other who will end up resentful because they not getting enough out of the arrangement It can only work as long as everything remains equal
This isn't a relationship as far as my views go if you're just in to that then that's up to you I say this because I can honestly say that there is no way you can prominently bond with 2 or more people on the same level at once (unless you found a way) and even if you can it wouldn't be the same type of bond.
I'm not entirely sure what you consider to be an open relationship. I'm polyamorous and have 2 girlfriends. They are dating each other as well as me. Everyone is free to "catch feelings" cause we're a stable relationship. We are open and honest and talk through our problems. We are a family.
I feel it would crash and burn I can't see how someone can Love someone knowing they having sex with someone else. The only way I can see it working is of you 2 r just friends with benefits not really a relationship
The point of an open relationship is the lack of commitment. A relationship with no commitment is doomed to fail, even if you enjoy it in the short term.
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Anonymous
(36-45)
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I understand how being with one person al your life can be a challenge. So I would try it only if there was no insecurities between eachother and that we are deeply in love. I would never have sex with another man but women, sure.
There would be rules of course. And the end result would to be extremely thought out. Such as if happens and someone says no more, that it stops.
In general they don't work, someone gets jelous or starts catching feelings for someone they shouldn't, there are exceptions to the rule of course where a small minority of couples do make it work
They can as long as you can be mature about it. Meaning if it's not for you it's not for you. But if it is, than it's no biggie, just be real with yourself.
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