a What can you say about open relationships? Some people say it's nonsense, others say it keeps the relationship fresh. If anyone has experience, please feel free to share it in the comments (I will be happy to read what you write :) )
Oh, open relationships – they’re like the pineapple on pizza of the dating world, right? Some folks swear by them, while others can’t quite wrap their heads around the concept.
Do They Work? Well, that's like asking if a regular relationship works. It depends on the people involved! For some, open relationships are amazing. It's not a one-size-fits-all kind of deal.
Freedom and Autonomy: Many in open relationships cherish the freedom it gives them to explore connections with others without losing the bond they have with their primary partner.
Honest Communication: Open relationships often encourage (or even require) a high level of honesty and communication about needs, desires, and boundaries.
Personal Growth: Some find that navigating an open relationship helps in personal development, like becoming more self-aware and understanding one's needs and feelings.
Jealousy: It's the big one. Even if you think you're totally cool with sharing, jealousy can sneak up on you.
Time and Energy: Balancing multiple relationships can be draining.
Misunderstandings: If everyone isn't on the same page or if rules aren't clear, things can get messy.
Myth: It's Just About the Sex: While yes, sexual freedom can be a part of it, for many, it's more about emotional connections and experiencing different types of relationships.
Reality: It Requires Work: Like any relationship, open ones need effort. It's not just a free-for-all; it requires constant communication and boundary-setting.
Myth: It Means You Don't Love Your Partner Enough: Not true. Many in open relationships deeply love their primary partners but also appreciate the experiences they have with others.
Reality: Not Everyone's Cut Out for It: Just like monogamy isn't for everyone, the same goes for open relationships. It's all about what works for you personally.
In the end, whether an open relationship works is really up to the individuals involved. Like any relationship, it has its ups and downs, and what works for one couple (or group) might not work for another.
It really depends on the couple.
I've seen many open relationships where their relationship was one step from crashing and burning and this was an idea they had to save it. It almost never works.
There are open relationships where both people are happy to be getting sex with others and keeping each other at the same time. That tends to work alright.
Then, there are couples who are more like swingers and just enjoy the shared experiences. That works well.
Some of the worries include STDs, babies, and falling in love with a new person. Insecurities and jealousy. Maybe they will find someone they think is better than you and cost you everything. It happens, and it's a myth that people in these relationships don't have these thoughts and feelings. It's normal. If your relationship is strong enough, it shouldn't be an issue. But, it will wreck weak ones.
I met a guy where he was raised in a family where 2 married couples had a poly situation. The originals ended up divorcing and remarrying the other's spouse and then one couple left. The other couple raised the kids.
I had an open relationship until I fell in love with a partner. Then it turned into a poly relationship. I think poly is much better, because it's lower risk overall. I love that a female with multiple males is natural birth control and leaves far more resources for the offspring.
But, I would struggle with a partner being poly as well. I would prefer my partner to have casual sex and no emotions for the other person. I don't mind sharing bodies, but I do mind sharing their hearts, minds, and resources. It would have to be an amazing woman I already like and approve of for me to agree.
Pro monog people tend to say "it's bad for the children", but it's not if you're being safe and not bringing a bunch of randos home. You could be bringing home a few really amazing people who are good influences and enrich their lives. Teaching them that there's no limit on love. Teaching them it's okay to define what love is for yourself rather than conforming to what society dictates.
Being in an open relationship only works of every person involved is 100% into that kind of dynamic and has healthy communication.
I know that different couples have different rules to their open relationship.
From personal experience, don't ever force yourself into something like that if you're not into it. and it's especially dangerous if the one you're with is a manipulative asshole.
Sure, they work for a time, until they do not. But they seldom last. So, upside, you get to have more sex with different people. At least one of them does...
Downside. Basically, you are agreeing to allow each other to hold auditions for your replacement. Men who want them usually to have a side piece already in play and is just trying to legitime his infidelity. Women who want them may or may not truly love her man, but bottom line he is lacking in some department.
Women always have the advantage in these types of situations... because lets be honest a woman looking for open relationship can stack up the notch's on the bed post twice as fast and 4 time as much as any dude.
So, dude better really consider that, he wants it's for a single piece of ass, but a truly motivated woman can be turning them out by the day. Once that seal is broken you cannot get back to how it was... which is the point. Someone was not happy about how it was, and that will not change, and eventually someone will be really upset about what it has become.
Open relationships are more or less like this... I will be your full-time fuck buddy, because I really like or love you... but I am fucking other people are you cool with that?
In short term they might be really excited about it, until one or the other really starts turning them out and catches feelings somewhere else. Now you are in a huge drama filled shit storm, without a raincoat.
biggest bullshits that ever existed only a cuck would agree to that no real man or any self respecting guy would allow to that. their rate of success is %8 while %92 fails among 16 million this means 1m 200k or so managed to work it out but don't let it decieve you it also means 14 m 800k or so failed, almost freaking 15 million, if it doesn't tell you something, i don't know what will, jealousy and possesiveness is an natural emotion that needs to be recognized and validated not mistaken for insecurity and treated like something to move on even non-monogamous animals gets jealous and possesive.
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it seems to work for some people, but i personally think of my grandparents who were married for 60 years of devotion. my grandfather told her he loved her as his dying words. to me personally, tbh, open relationships aren't love. that's just to me personally. no offense
It has been working for us for over 8 years. People who say it doesn't work really mean they are too insecure for it to work for them.
they do not work nearly all studies done on open relationships indicate that the failure rate of the relationship is anywhere from 96% to 85% ish. which is worse odds than getting with a woman that has 3 or more sexual partners
I think if you want an open relationship then you should not get married. Be open and play the field, whether together or solo. Once you commit to the bonds of marriage it changes the equation, to me. Honestly - I’d seems like a doomed outcome.
It all depends on the people involved. I'm currently in a Poly relationship now and it works really well for everyone involved.
Not something I am interested in, but as long as they are not violating the person or property of another I do not care what other adults do.
If your open in the beginning I guess. I know some use it to cheat we’re doing before asking. For me it wouldn’t work. I’m kinda territorial.
It never ceases to amaze me how your generation made sexual infidelity something to be proud of.
It only works if it is open only on the guy's end, otherwise it's just cuckoldry.
Only if you are a broken trauma driven mess.
I've heard they can.
Can't say never done it
They do not.
They can
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