My mum doesn’t take my relationship seriously and tells me to date around? (Page 2)
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Don't let your mom control your future... If you love your man, be with him.
Your mom doesn't know him, she doesn't understand him. Only you do, and you made it clear that you want to be with this man.
If she doesn't agree, it's fine. Again, she doesn't know him. It will only take time and patience until she sees that your relationship with this man is serious.
I agree with others. Never hurts to listen to your mom BUT you don’t always have to take her advice. You don’t need her consent
But do you still want them to get along? Have dinner with your mom and talk to her about him. That you’re happy with him, positive impacts he has on you, and you see a future with him. At least she will know. When you’re ready, bring him around her more often and go out together
This is stuff I should’ve done with my boyfriend.
That's wrather nosey and rude of your mom from what I see here but I don't believe there is enough content here for me to make a proper judgment here. Has your mother been discouraged by something other than she heard that he is an accountant? Is she by chance a woman who is maybe on her 3rd marriage and isn't happy with men in general? She could be a rather shallow woman for all I know who feels that you should be just like her and look for maximum support in finances with a rich man
I know some Desi parents do it when they don't like the guy so they tell their girl so keep searching for Mr right. Tell you mom that he is the Mr right for you.
Sometimes mom see things that we don't see or she just not giving your boyfriend a chance, I would bring him to meet her. If she still don't like him then, then o well gurl... you old enough to date who you want to date. She'll get use to eventually.
And sometimes mom is completely blind to things.
@Synttacks Did you not read what i said?
Haha. Yah. Sorry. Projecting a bit. My mother is just very unaware of what kind of people get brought home.
Your mom is an asshole, only caring about money and status. Plus, accountants earn as much as doctors, sometimes even way more than them, with much less student loans.
What other people think about you is none of your business.
It’s their business.
Wasting your time thinking about what they are thinking about you serves nothing.
Seeking approval is a waste of your time and energy. It will only bring you suffering.
It’s not about whether others approve of you but if you approve of you.
This is what counts.
What she is been telling you is take your own time. She may be right. In the beginning of a relationship, when you are totally absorbed in your partner, you view the world through rose-colored glasses. There is no harm in waiting for certain period of time. With the passage of time both of you can prove that it is not just the hormones and neurotransmitters responsible for attraction.
Still doesn't mean you should date around in a committed relationship. Just wait a few years before you decide to marry.
Maybe she thinks you're not serious because you've been dating the man for an entire YEAR and haven't had the decency to bring him home yet.
I live across the country from my parents, I’ve seen them only mayb a couple times myself in that time.
Not that I have to justify myself, but don’t judge other people on what you don’t know.
Couldn’t you of Skyped them? Though, with a mom like what you described I could understand you of wanting too. Maybe if she met him her opinion would change. I’d straight up tell her you don’t appreciate her comments, and if she continues to make them you won’t be etc or something.
If your happy then stay true always true to ur feelings u have them for reasons along with go with ur gutt she may have experiences that may or may not have been good so she's like fuck it plenty of fish right lol wrong I've been with girlfriend 6 years now never cheated once or thought to had chances but won't act on them why bc im happy im loved im content...
Just talk to her. Let het know how you feel. About how her opinion affects you (it hurts etc.), but also how you feel about your relationship and how important it is to you that she shows respect for your relationship.
If you don't let her know how you feel about her behaviour, then she doesn't know she is crossing a line.
It's your life. You can't live to please other people. If you are happy, that's what matters. Just sit her down and explain how you feel. Tell her you are happy and that her comments are hurtful and you would like her to respect your relationship.
I'm kinda surprised. I'd expect a mother to not want her child to mess around.
Crap. Most mom's would be estatic if you were dating an accountant. Why can't you be the surgeon in the family?
Yeah, that's a potential 90k per year salary down the line.
I wonder if mom thinks you are going to med school to catch a doctor rather than be a doctor? You might want to adjust her thinking on that.
This is what I was thinking too, lol. Accountants do pretty well for themselves
Your mom has no concept of loyalty and her "dating down" talk sounds like she wants you to be a gold digger or at the very least discriminate dating partners based on their wealth.
Your mom is repulsive, good on you for not taking after her.
Put your limits clear.
Im sure it isn't the only place where she doesn't respect your decisions, you must let clear that your life is yours, and that you respect her advices as long as she respect your decisions.
Either bicker everytime you meet and she brings it up or play along and say you totally agree with her.
never listen to a mom that says that, because mixing around can lose your current partner for ever
Concentrate on the relationship. Many Mr. Rights are usually in a lower state of field than their partners. Just let your mum go and focus on you.
Ur mother is little bit right cuz she knows that every relationship ends sooner or later and that's true cuz that's how it works and I'm sorry for saying this but your relationship will also fell apart after some time